3-Strike Rule Between Friends Too? Rude to Text Again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, BTDT. What solved it for me was taking the other person on a surprise trip to Williamsburg VA for a tour of the historic area. We sat in silence the whole way there, not a single word exchanged. But once we got there and saw the people in costumes all that changed. We literally could not stop talking to one another. Problem solved.

How did you arrange a surprise weekend away with someone who didn't respond to you?

PP but! I did not say it was a weekend. Who said it was a weekend? Where was the word weekend mentioned and by whom? I asked the friend who had been so silent to sit in my car, with full tank of gas in place and off we went to Williamsburg which is a place that can really heal people. Not sure why people are reacting to this particular memory as being problematic. If you don't get it, you'll have to forget it.

Looks like ChatGPT had a bout of diarrhea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, BTDT. What solved it for me was taking the other person on a surprise trip to Williamsburg VA for a tour of the historic area. We sat in silence the whole way there, not a single word exchanged. But once we got there and saw the people in costumes all that changed. We literally could not stop talking to one another. Problem solved.

Holy Eagle Snafu—this might be the most bizarre thing I’ve ever seen posted on DCUM. And that is really, REALLY saying something. For sure this is the weirdest comment of 2023.

AGREE! Fifty-second fish maw!

[Anonymous]

And how on earth (PLEASE EXPLAIN) how Williamsburg is "healing!"

[Anonymous]

I was insanely close with my friend. I thought of her as a sister. When she ghosted me, I remembered that she had previously ghosted her friend Kat, and had made fun of Kat's name, and made fun of her for trying to get in touch.

I should have paid more attention. Kat and I are better off without her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok thanks. I wasn’t sure if I should’ve sent the last text anyway. Yeah no response is a response at leader we had (at least I thought so) a good time when we meet up towards the end of summer. And I am sure I did nothing wrong to cause this. I’ll miss her she’s played such an important role in part of my life but need to make new friends soon haha.

PP, I ghosted almost everyone in my life the last few years and it is because I was terribly depressed. It didn’t mean I didn’t love them. I’m on team it’s okay to reach out. Just to let friend know you’re thinking of her and hope she’s well. Something without expectation of a reply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok thanks. I wasn’t sure if I should’ve sent the last text anyway. Yeah no response is a response at leader we had (at least I thought so) a good time when we meet up towards the end of summer. And I am sure I did nothing wrong to cause this. I’ll miss her she’s played such an important role in part of my life but need to make new friends soon haha.

PP, I ghosted almost everyone in my life the last few years and it is because I was terribly depressed. It didn’t mean I didn’t love them. I’m on team it’s okay to reach out. Just to let friend know you’re thinking of her and hope she’s well. Something without expectation of a reply.

Have you tried reaching out?

[Anonymous]

The part about becoming friends through kids is what struck me. There are so many pitfalls when it comes to these friendships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, BTDT. What solved it for me was taking the other person on a surprise trip to Williamsburg VA for a tour of the historic area. We sat in silence the whole way there, not a single word exchanged. But once we got there and saw the people in costumes all that changed. We literally could not stop talking to one another. Problem solved.

How did you arrange a surprise weekend away with someone who didn't respond to you?

PP but! I did not say it was a weekend. Who said it was a weekend? Where was the word weekend mentioned and by whom? I asked the friend who had been so silent to sit in my car, with full tank of gas in place and off we went to Williamsburg which is a place that can really heal people. Not sure why people are reacting to this particular memory as being problematic. If you don't get it, you'll have to forget it.

Lol I love this. The weird kidnapping aspect of asking friend to just sit in your car, the full tank of gas, the healing properties of Williamsburg, of all places …this is amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP. That hurts, I know. Sending you a big hug and hoping your new year is filled with deep friendships and love.

+100

Losing a friend hurts, especially when they ghost.

Once in a while, a person may return and then I find out they have had a lot going on.

Put that person on the bottom shelf and focus on others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Williamsburg can heal people? Why?

Omg. What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Williamsburg can heal people? Why?

Omg. What?

Omg? oYg. Let's review gang. I happened to take a friend who was ghosting me left right and center on a sudden trip to Williamsburg VA. Although we didn't speak on the way down not one word when we got to the historic area, seeing all the people in costumes with candle making exhibits just changed everything. We literally could not stop talking. No more ghosting, problem solved. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Williamsburg can heal people? Why?

Omg. What?

Omg? oYg. Let's review gang. I happened to take a friend who was ghosting me left right and center on a sudden trip to Williamsburg VA. Although we didn't speak on the way down not one word when we got to the historic area, seeing all the people in costumes with candle making exhibits just changed everything. We literally could not stop talking. No more ghosting, problem solved. YMMV.

How did you get this person in your car? Were they not talking on the way there because they were trying to figure out a way to escape?

[Anonymous]

Op, I would send an email just in case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, BTDT. What solved it for me was taking the other person on a surprise trip to Williamsburg VA for a tour of the historic area. We sat in silence the whole way there, not a single word exchanged. But once we got there and saw the people in costumes all that changed. We literally could not stop talking to one another. Problem solved.

How did you arrange a surprise weekend away with someone who didn't respond to you?

PP but! I did not say it was a weekend. Who said it was a weekend? Where was the word weekend mentioned and by whom? I asked the friend who had been so silent to sit in my car, with full tank of gas in place and off we went to Williamsburg which is a place that can really heal people. Not sure why people are reacting to this particular memory as being problematic. If you don't get it, you'll have to forget it.

Lol I love this. The weird kidnapping aspect of asking friend to just sit in your car, the full tank of gas, the healing properties of Williamsburg, of all places …this is amazing.

I wonder if this is the same person who suggested taking someone to the countryside to explain themselves if they break up with you after a couple of dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP. That hurts, I know. Sending you a big hug and hoping your new year is filled with deep friendships and love.

+1

I wish you well going into the New Year too OP. ♥️

But I would cease contact w/said friend.

It just seems that you are the one sticking your neck out for this friendship and it is best for everyone if you leave the proverbial ball in her court now.