Kid asked if my son was gay

[Anonymous]

Hello how you handle? My son said no but I still think it’s inappropriate to ever ask someone, much less kids in 3rd grade about their sexuality or identity. Talk to the teacher? Other parent? Do nothing?

My son knows what it means.

[Anonymous]

Do nothing. This is the world our kids live in. It'll happen again (speaking from my DS's experience).

[Anonymous]

Nothing to be done about it. Your kid is going to have to learn to navigate this.

[Anonymous]

Kids are expected to have a sexual identity at very young ages now. Wait until you encounter the pansexual middle-schoolers.

[Anonymous]

"Oh my! That's a very rude question".

[Anonymous]

OP these are third graders, LOL.
Move on. This is your issue.
Teach your child to advocate for themselves.

Kids say stupid things, kids say dumb things, adults do the same it is your job to teach your child how to answer.

Why is this a big deal?

[Anonymous]

Teach the kid that gay means joyful. Mess with his little mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Oh my! That's a very rude question".

This would totally work if her son were 80 years old.

If he is a normal aged 3rd grade he just says "no, are you?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Oh my! That's a very rude question".

Welcome to the 21st century. No longer rude.

LGBTQ+ is much more accepted now than it used to be and the goal is to remove any stigma with being in any of those demographics. So, stop considering it rude and just answer. If the kid asked your son and he denied and then the kid asked you, I would say "He said he wasn't. Why would you not believe him?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oh my! That's a very rude question".

Welcome to the 21st century. No longer rude.

LGBTQ+ is much more accepted now than it used to be and the goal is to remove any stigma with being in any of those demographics. So, stop considering it rude and just answer. If the kid asked your son and he denied and then the kid asked you, I would say "He said he wasn't. Why would you not believe him?"

It’s not an appropriate question for an eight year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing to be done about it. Your kid is going to have to learn to navigate this.

By 5th grade everyone will lay claim to their gender and sexual identity. Buckle up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing to be done about it. Your kid is going to have to learn to navigate this.

By 5th grade everyone will lay claim to their gender and sexual identity. Buckle up.

In 5th grade my DC told me that her classmate was asexual. I said, no kidding they are 10!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oh my! That's a very rude question".

Welcome to the 21st century. No longer rude.

LGBTQ+ is much more accepted now than it used to be and the goal is to remove any stigma with being in any of those demographics. So, stop considering it rude and just answer. If the kid asked your son and he denied and then the kid asked you, I would say "He said he wasn't. Why would you not believe him?"

It’s not an appropriate question for an eight year old.

I mean, I think 8 years old having these conversations are being ridiculous. But, I doubt the OP and some others on this thread would be concerned if this boy had been asked “which girl do you have a crush on?” by some other kid. It is a stupid question but so are 4 year olds saying they want to marry someone. There is no one to “talk to” about this. You do nothing and don’t think twice about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing to be done about it. Your kid is going to have to learn to navigate this.

By 5th grade everyone will lay claim to their gender and sexual identity. Buckle up.

We are not seeing this in my kid’s sixth grade class. I’m sure some kids talk about it, but it really isn’t the “thing” that news and social media says it is. Her class has about 350 kids.

[Anonymous]

Are you offended that someone might think your son is gay, or that someone would ask?