Anyone facing jealous friends now that your kids are in private school?

[Anonymous]

Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

[Anonymous]

What are the comments exactly? Are you sure they're jealous? Or are you talking too much about the amazing benefits of private school to your public school friends?

[Anonymous]

Think about how they know your kids were admitted to private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think about how they know your kids were admitted to private school.

They were complaining about MCPS. We agreed with their complaints and said we are going private in the Fall.

Then they changed their tune and started talking about how great MCPS is—why are you leaving MCPS, it’s the same everywhere etc.

[Anonymous]

Do a search here. This Q is asked every single year. You’ll live.

[Anonymous]

This is so not a thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so not a thing

Unfortunately, it is. Many parents will take even the most neutrally worded statement as a referendum on their educational choices, and react accordingly. It’s all well and good if you can keep it a deathly secret, but that gets weird quickly.

The answer, of course, is that your real friends won’t be jerks about it, and people are jerks about it they’re not your real friends.

[Anonymous]

It's not that they are jealous, it's that they feel defensive that maybe they should be doing something else with their kids. Try to see it that way, and try to frame your discussion as a decision you made for your own particular individual reasons.

[Anonymous]

We went through this a couple of times with both kids. There is jealousy and anger involved, especially if you tell them it is because of substandard MCPS.

We told people we wanted religious element in education and the satisfied them. But know that they are still steaming about it. One time I posted something on Facebook about common core and how I am glad my kids don't deal with it, and this rabid mom attacked me. She is one who asked my why I pulled my daughter out of MCPS before anyone. She also seemed happy to hear that it was religious reasons. But now she knows there are other benefits we enjoy and she is angry.

[Anonymous]

When my son got into Gonzaga, a friend asked me why I wasn't concerned that he was going to be surrounded by a bunch of entitled and privileged kids. I kid you not. I was almost defending the school talking about the diversity in the school and all the financial aid they give. Also talked about the service they do, She didn't want to know about it. We hardly speak now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think about how they know your kids were admitted to private school.

This.

[Anonymous]

I always think that the private schools parents are showing their own uncertainty about whether they are doing the right thing when they start these threads...

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t assume it’s jealousy - that’s a pretty self-absorbed assumption. Maybe if you weren’t so self-involved you would see the situation a bit more clearly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We went through this a couple of times with both kids. There is jealousy and anger involved, especially if you tell them it is because of substandard MCPS.

We told people we wanted religious element in education and the satisfied them. But know that they are still steaming about it. One time I posted something on Facebook about common core and how I am glad my kids don't deal with it, and this rabid mom attacked me. She is one who asked my why I pulled my daughter out of MCPS before anyone. She also seemed happy to hear that it was religious reasons. But now she knows there are other benefits we enjoy and she is angry.

So you post something inflammatory on Facebook, and are annoyed that someone reacted to it? You can’t even see your part in this, can you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

It’s all in your head. You think people care more than they actually do.