How are you doing, OP? |
I find the fact that he kissed another woman in fact cheating & the only reason they didn’t have sex is likely because your husband has ED issues.
So your husband has basically shown you that he doesn’t have the ability to stay true to you + your marriage. 😔 At this stage, I would never settle so I would let him go. It is your only option for getting your life back. Otherwise you will always wonder if his feelings for this other woman take precedence over his feelings for you. 💔 |
Yeah, he's a real jerk. |
Maybe. I had an emotional affair, and that’s all it was. It was pretty intense to me, and DH was very patient and kind about the whole thing. I think he was mostly relieved I never crossed a physical line with the other guy. I’m very grateful I caught myself. |
^ What steps have you taken to make sure it doesn't happen again? How have you improved your boundaries? Every couple should be required to read Not Just Friends. |
OP, how are you doing? Have you been able to do any lawyer consults? |
How did your DH find out? |
Never say never but I have no real interest in other men, it was more of a fantasy/midlife crisis than anything and I don’t think I would have ever slept with the guy even given the opportunity. |
I told him. |
Any advice for ending things with EA. I am contemplating telling my DH. |
Cut off the emotional affair partner, preferably very firmly and cold turkey. The longer and more wistful the goodbye the more painful. Trust me, I know!!! Get into individual therapy to figure out the source of this and be really honest about how strong your feelings are for your EA partner. Get into couples therapy to fix the issues in your relationship that may have contributed to this. Fix whatever other source of dissatisfaction like your career. |
This is problematic for the spouse that doesn’t want the emotional affair to end. |
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Please get your ducks in order, because I have a feeling what is going to happen is: 1) he ends it with her and she goes to HR in anger and he loses his job or 2) he leaves you for her. In either case, you need to look out for yourself. I’m sorry, I don’t see a happy ending in this case. He sucks and you deserve better. |
I'm sorry but I hate cheaters. Would you be OK if she just spent all of your money because she was fine if you wanted a divorce? No? Then grow a pair and end it yourself. |
Stupid idea to have an affair w/ a co-worker, even worse that this appears to be a supervisor/supervisee situation. |