Horse meet wagon. |
I would never want my kids around boyfriends/gfs/step parents. Ever. |
Like I said, fakey fake martyrdom is so much more noble. You do you. |
NP wtf is fakey fake martyrdom? |
Staying married to a cereal cheater "for kid's sake" for example. Staying married to an alcoholic or a gambler, because you don't want kids to be from "a broken home." Your home is already broken, dear. You just don't have the guts to leave. That's the only difference. |
*serial not "cereal." |
OP is not in any of the situations you listed. I’d agree with you if she was. But her and her husband are just living like roommates. There’s no martyrdom in staying in that situation. |
So stay married no one is forcing you to divorce.
And hopefully your husband feels the same way about never divorcing. |
OK but she has no idea why anyone else divorces. Why pass judgment? What good does that do? |
Well said!! |
Why should I forgive when the people who hurt me never apologized and admitted their mistakes? |
I think a lot of people don't realize that there will be rough years and rough periods of time. As a kid and teen I was always sad my parents didn't have date nights and didn't hold hands, etc. As an adult I'm thrilled that they're married. They're such wonderful grandparents together and they get 2x the grandparent time that they'd get if they were divorced. They take my kids to dinner and on outings constantly which would be too much for just one of them to do. Now that they're retired, they enjoy spending time together so much more.
And most importantly to me, they help each other through health crises and accompany each other to doctor's appts. They manage their house together too. |
+100. I’m so glad my folks weathered the storm. I didn’t have an adult’s understanding either, so my perspective as a teen was not even accurate. |
These are two different cases.
I would argue that unhappy couples should get divorced. However, I would also argue that blended and new families should also be avoided. |
Agree. And been divorced 5 years! |