Wow. Miserable person. Not friends with neighbors. No friends. I think there are culttural issues here too |
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OP -You HAD to know this kind of question would cause quite the backlash. no more drunk posting for you! |
Yes, you are correct. There will be no baby shower for me (but I am actually okay with that now). And I'm not having a meet and greet for this reason--don't want to invite people over to hear their comments. I also prefer not to entertain at home. I don't want the work involved, the cleanup, etc. I don't enjoy cooking/entertaining. But I enjoy meeting people at restaurants or going out to the theater, etc. Anyhow, some people let things like house size, etc. get in the way of a good friendship. I've seen it happen several times. So we don't invite anyone over so that we don't have to deal with this. It's hard enough to make new friends in this area when you're not from here. Things are stressful enough when we meet new people and tell them what DH does for a living--we get lots of negative comments there too. |
I don't like entertaining at home, and I don't like going over to others' homes for dinner parties or other events. I just feel uncomfortable the whole time. It's not because of their house or how nice it is, but it's just annoying to go to someone's house for a dinner party and eat food you don't like, versus meeting up at a restaurant where everyone can order whatever they want. Also, I find that spending 2 hours or so with people is a good amount of time, and going over to someone's house for a dinner party usually takes up a lot more time and I just get tired of it. Overall, I much prefer meeting people at a restaurant or other venue rather than being invited over to their home. |
You need new friends. |
Real mansions cost $2 million. McMansions cost 400K - 600K and are on postage stamp lots.
If I was a close friend of a person suddenly upgrading to a multi-million dollar home, I would ask, "How the heck are you able to afford this fabulous new super expenisve house? Did you inherit some money? Are you selling stuff on Ebay? Is your DH a drug smuggler? Are you growing pot?" I would JUST ASK because I am nosy like that. If I was not a close friend, I would mind my own business. I wouldn't really care if I didn't know the person well. |
If you are nosy like that, you would be written off immediately. |
Presumably if you have a large house, you have some degree of smarts to earn the money to buy it. With that smarts, you would hopefully understand the value of trees -enough to not cut them down. If I saw someone with a new house and no trees, I would wonder why on earth they allowed the builder to level the trees! I would notice any lack of trees, sheared or poorly cut trees, before I would notice anyone's large house. |
PP, the building process can disrupt the root system of trees on the existing lot. If you don't take them down at the time of site prep, you might have a dead tree to deal with after you move in. Then you have to pay the arborist to take it down anyway. Don't be a hater # |
Holy crap, OP - you think way too much about nonsense. It's not a real problem, unless your friend are completely insane. Although I do agree on one point - if I went to someone's home and was served Milwaukee's Best - well, blech. You have the taste buds of a 19 yo frat boy. I'd be expecting Giant Mac n' Cheese for dinner. |
Wow, gosh, I never thought of this before. I'm so sorry life is so stressful and I truly see now how this is a real, and probably rampant problem and there are so many house-rich folks suffering in silence right now. I'm sure that the only reason people are extra-critical of you is because of your beautiful house, and not for any other reason having to do with who you are. Maybe we can form a separate forum on DCUM for house-rich mcmansion owners who have been wounded and insulted by ignorant, jealous and petty poorer people. We could even have our own dinner parties where there's no fear of being criticized for serving wine that's too cheap, and no chance of receiving a hostess gift that is not adequate to our esteemed residences. |
I like Giant Mac |
It's not the seventies any more. An overgrown lot is a liability. I am all for having some old growth trees if you have a large lot and they can be on the perimeter. Personally I far more prefer a sunny bright lot so that I can have a nice and bright home. The last thing I want is a lot that's dominated by old growth trees to the point that grass won't grow well and I am perpetually living in the shade so that everything is damp and moss grows everywhere. |
Agree. Why are you making up weird hypos? How old are you? |