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+1 I am setting a high bar. The greater the wealth, the easier it is for you to be "happy", "accomplished", and "content". Wealth is a key component along with having great family relationships and being healthy. |
This has got to be the same OP as the rambling one about "are you jealous of other people showing off their wealth on facebook" or whatever that was |
I'd be happy for them, kind of jealous, want to be invited over a lot, and continue our friendship exactly as before. I'd figure they were either good with saving and managing their money or else more willing to take financial risk than I am. |
BINGO! |
I would like to see some real research on this. Many studies on happiness suggest there is not such a great correlation. |
I think the OP has way too much time on his/her hands. WHO THE FUCK CARES? What kind of person are you? |
if you don't care, why read the message and post. there are thousands of threads here. i don't read the ones i don't care about.
this is the very first google hit about wealth and happiness: http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2013/05/10/money-does-buy-happiness-says-new-study/ |
Here was another hit that argues the opposite. I agree with this one too, but I think the wealth component is more important than this article suggests:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/15/redefining-success-americ_n_3279718.html |
PP here. I thought maybe it was obvious, but I was more or less talking about professional success, or success at one's vocation, or the overall ability to provide for one's family in support of a desired life style. After all, we don't end up with the money to buy million dollar homes through any other means other than some manner of labor, investment, or commerce. I do agree that balance is important, such as healthy relationships with oneself, family, friends, and community. But I do not see these as being exclusive or not compatible with financial success. If I lose some friends by being successful, I don't see that this represents a failure in any context. We don't all cling onto our childhood friends simply because that's where we started from. We don't even remain the same person (holding on to our own ego) as the process of maturity changes who we are, what we value, and how we behave. My comments in this thread were focused on financial success as and its effects on friends because that's what the thread is about. No where did I say that financial success is the only measure of life success.
I truly believe that wealth is in general an excellent proxy for professional achievement. This is because we live in a society that largely rewards people based on the value of their professional contribution. Someone who makes more valuable contribution gets rewarded with more money. Of course you can site anecdotes of poor artists who are only recognized for the value of their work after they die, to which I would point out that such anecdotes are just that, anecdotes, and the world isn't fair and balanced to everyone. To address the specific examples you gave: the value of a service provided is related to the supply and demand. Social services and educators are in great demand but they are also of great supply. This is the same observation that while water is critical to human life, there isn't much value in a cup of water because there is so much of it readily available. As for someone who struggles to put food on the table due to their circumstances. Surely such a person is deserving of our respect for being self sufficient but I don't see why this qualifies as being successful at life unless he is doing better than others in the same circumstances - but then aren't we still using wealth as a proxy for achievement even in this case?
Sorry, your premise that I have a narrow definition of success is wrong. Wealth is a proxy for success, and it's one of the few objective parameters that we can compare on an Internet forum to gauge the degree of success. But being a proxy for success doesn't mean it is the success itself - that's what proxy means. My wisdom and interests are probably only interesting to me as an individual. Telling the world that I have a love for basket weaving probably makes for boring conversation except for others that also enjoy basket weaving. As I learn from different people based on their success, I see that people become successful for different reasons. If anything it has broadened by horizons by exposing me to many more possibilities. Well geez, I wasn't trying to describe my entire view of the world, life, and my own self worth in one anonymous internet post, even if it was a long-ish post. I don't think it's constructive to be a quick judge. |
Successful people do. |
Hmm... I don't think so. I don't think successful people in any sense of the word actually fixate on their friends' houses. Successful people are focused on accomplishing their goals, whether it is making money or raising their children or writing their novel or whatever. Unsuccessful people fixate on stuff they don't have that may not even be part of their original goals, then they create DCUM threads about it, then they spend oodles of time writing insanely long posts no one wants to read about how important wealth is a la 17:28. |
Lol, original goals? You telling me your goals don't change? And after you accomplish one goal you don't set new goals? And if no one reads that long post whick you find disagreeable, how did you know what it is about? |
Those are not McMansions. They are ordinary, if expensive homes |
+1000 We are going through this now! |