Honestly: is 41 too old to have a baby?

[Anonymous]

I’m 41 and have a 6 year old. Feeling the urge to have another as that window closes for me, but also wondering if it’s really the desire for another or just the clock ticking. FWIW, did not want another when DS was younger, so maybe that’s my answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

43 for my 1st and 49 for my 2nd. Not too old at all.

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

43 for my 1st and 49 for my 2nd. Not too old at all.

49? No thanks. When your second kid graduates high school my granddaughter will be a senior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

43 for my 1st and 49 for my 2nd. Not too old at all.

I am sure it will be great for you, but for the average person, 49 is old. My first born will be 20 when your second born is born... I hope you are healthy and taking very good care of yourself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

43 for my 1st and 49 for my 2nd. Not too old at all.

You've got to be kidding. When your youngest is 20 you'll be 69. When I'm 69 my youngest will be 40 and my oldest 49 -- the same age that you are!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

43 for my 1st and 49 for my 2nd. Not too old at all.

Please report back on their health problems when you can. I assume at a minimum asthma and ADHD?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

43 for my 1st and 49 for my 2nd. Not too old at all.

Please report back on their health problems when you can. I assume at a minimum asthma and ADHD?

That’s so mean PP. why would you say that? I am sure her kids are great.

Signed a 36 year old with a 7, 5 and 2 year old

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

43 for my 1st and 49 for my 2nd. Not too old at all.

Please report back on their health problems when you can. I assume at a minimum asthma and ADHD?

That’s so mean PP. why would you say that? I am sure her kids are great.

Signed a 36 year old with a 7, 5 and 2 year old

Also, some of us had kids at 24 and our offspring have asthma and ADHD. And for all you know, she could have used a donor egg anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 41 and have a 6 year old. Feeling the urge to have another as that window closes for me, but also wondering if it’s really the desire for another or just the clock ticking. FWIW, did not want another when DS was younger, so maybe that’s my answer.

It's on the older side for sure, but you're not choosing between a baby at 41 or a baby at 21. You're choosing between a baby at 41 or no baby at all. That's a different calculus.

I've had my kids at 37, 41 and 44, and it IS old. But my choices were kids at this age or no kids at all, and I chose kids.

[Anonymous]

Family friend adopted a newborn in their 50s and 60s. That's old, but the daughter is almost a teen now and is living the good life. They seem to be in perfectly good health. Before covid they traveled, went to tennis opens, took her to shows etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 41 and have a 6 year old. Feeling the urge to have another as that window closes for me, but also wondering if it’s really the desire for another or just the clock ticking. FWIW, did not want another when DS was younger, so maybe that’s my answer.

It's on the older side for sure, but you're not choosing between a baby at 41 or a baby at 21. You're choosing between a baby at 41 or no baby at all. That's a different calculus.

I've had my kids at 37, 41 and 44, and it IS old. But my choices were kids at this age or no kids at all, and I chose kids.

But you had one in your 30s, so you weren't really choosing between kids/no kids. I had mine at 36 and 38. I'm 41 now and wouldn't go for a third. There is a huge difference between 37 and 44.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

43 for my 1st and 49 for my 2nd. Not too old at all.

You've got to be kidding. When your youngest is 20 you'll be 69. When I'm 69 my youngest will be 40 and my oldest 49 -- the same age that you are!

So you got pregnant at 19. I know a former teen mom who was an empty nester by 40. She is very open about how it was not ideal for her or her kids.

[Anonymous]

51, yes
41, no!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 41 and have a 6 year old. Feeling the urge to have another as that window closes for me, but also wondering if it’s really the desire for another or just the clock ticking. FWIW, did not want another when DS was younger, so maybe that’s my answer.

It's on the older side for sure, but you're not choosing between a baby at 41 or a baby at 21. You're choosing between a baby at 41 or no baby at all. That's a different calculus.

I've had my kids at 37, 41 and 44, and it IS old. But my choices were kids at this age or no kids at all, and I chose kids.

But you had one in your 30s, so you weren't really choosing between kids/no kids. I had mine at 36 and 38. I'm 41 now and wouldn't go for a third. There is a huge difference between 37 and 44.

I wanted three and that’s what I had. You don’t want a third and that’s ok.