How do you deal with someone who makes food their entire identity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

It's an "acceptable" way to have an eating disorder. I think there's a name for it.

Orthorexia.

Thank you - I just looked this up and it perfectly describes the person I'm thinking of. I'm glad there's a name for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IMO they sound really healthy. Perhaps you could take some of their advice? Diet is part lifestyle.

Keto is healthy? LOL.

It's the antithesis of healthy. What do the longest living populations on earth eat? They eat a carb-heavy diet full of fruits, vegetables, beans, and wholesome grains.

Then pass me some bacon, Cheetos and a beer. Who the hell wants to live forever?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people really still drink pop?

No, they don’t. Coke and Pepsi as companies have gone under completely. That’s why you never see any commercials and there are no more sodas in the grocery aisles or vending machines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

Now you're criticizing people for caring about their health and the environment?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Oh, FFS, it's not about brutal ignorance, research scientist.

Eat however the heck you want. You can do most of these things while having the self awareness to spare your dining companions the lengthy commentary on all of it (which I know is possible, because I do it).

I would much rather listen to an evangelical health and environment advocate than a religious evangelical - at least the former might have some information to share with me that could be useful and improve my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

You appreciate, support and respect good choices people make. May be even follow when you can. People don't need to be binging on sugar, alcohol, fat and processed foods marinated in nano plastics.

This. But it is annoying if someone is preaching about it without being asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Oh, FFS, it's not about brutal ignorance, research scientist.

Eat however the heck you want. You can do most of these things while having the self awareness to spare your dining companions the lengthy commentary on all of it (which I know is possible, because I do it).

I would much rather listen to an evangelical health and environment advocate than a religious evangelical - at least the former might have some information to share with me that could be useful and improve my life.

Why would those be the only two choices???

If you talk endlessly about any topic - and especially a topic that implicitly judges those who don't care - people will stop talking to you. It doesn't matter whether the topic is food, exercise, religion, coupons, illness, lawncare, or that one neighbor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IMO they sound really healthy. Perhaps you could take some of their advice? Diet is part lifestyle.

Keto is healthy? LOL.

It's the antithesis of healthy. What do the longest living populations on earth eat? They eat a carb-heavy diet full of fruits, vegetables, beans, and wholesome grains.

No they don't.

Try again. They DO eat non refined carbs and a lot of protein and vegetables.

Yes, they do. Look at the blue zones research again. Lots of healthy carbs - whole grains, legumes (lots of legumes), vegetables, fruits, nuts and seeds. Much smaller portions of animal proteins than in the SAD, and hardly any ultra processed foods or sugar-laden drinks and treats.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do people really still drink pop?

Nobody. It’s weird they still sell it everywhere.

Wrong!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

It can be hard to be the person trying to eat healthy. Show some grace and support to your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Oh, FFS, it's not about brutal ignorance, research scientist.

Eat however the heck you want. You can do most of these things while having the self awareness to spare your dining companions the lengthy commentary on all of it (which I know is possible, because I do it).

I would much rather listen to an evangelical health and environment advocate than a religious evangelical - at least the former might have some information to share with me that could be useful and improve my life.

Why would those be the only two choices???

If you talk endlessly about any topic - and especially a topic that implicitly judges those who don't care - people will stop talking to you. It doesn't matter whether the topic is food, exercise, religion, coupons, illness, lawncare, or that one neighbor.

This is so true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

It can be hard to be the person trying to eat healthy. Show some grace and support to your friend.

It really isn't hard (speaking from experience). The issue here is social skills, not dietary choices. Eat what you want, whether that's whole foods or Cheetos. There's no need to drone on about it....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Or maybe you shouldn’t discuss it because we don’t care. Seriously not trying to be snarky but your kids IBS and pre diabetic diagnosis isn’t really my problem. As a parent you need to be concerned with these things but it isn’t the responsibility of others. What do you want from these others? Should we all do exactly what you are doing in solidarity? I mean leave me alone with my Diet Coke and little Debbie’s. I’m not making you eat them.

This! It’s hilarious that PP doesn’t discuss it because “people are ignorant.” Please. No one GAF about your family’s eating habits. THAT’S why you don’t discuss it.

Seriously. I know exactly how bad a Coke is for me and I DGAF. Don't lecture me on the chemicals in soda and I will ignore all your kids' issues.

Deal. But make sure you don't complain about how you need to lose 10 to 50 pounds while you slurp and eat crap all day.

Luckily I don't because I understand that having a Coke isn't inconsistent with being healthy. You realize that it's possible to eat healthy, work out, and have a Coke with lunch, right? But go ahead and keep depriving yourself of everything because you think that's the way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

Now you're criticizing people for caring about their health and the environment?

The criticism is for the people who won't shut up about their choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

You appreciate, support and respect good choices people make. May be even follow when you can. People don't need to be binging on sugar, alcohol, fat and processed foods marinated in nano plastics.

This. But it is annoying if someone is preaching about it without being asked.

Do you people understand that there is a difference between completely avoiding something and binging on it? I drink alcohol probably half a dozen times a year. I'm not against drinking, I just don't do it all that often, but I also have no problem doing it when the situation arises. I also don't eat dessert every day, but yesterday I had some dark chocolate because it sounded good. And you know what, I had a Whopper last month because I wanted one and it was delicious. I didn't gain 20 pounds or shorten my life by 5 years by either of those things. But allowing yourself to indulge in things every once in awhile doesn't mean you're a binger. It also doesn't mean you're depriving yourself and being miserable. Ahem.