How do you deal with someone who makes food their entire identity?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

It can be hard to be the person trying to eat healthy. Show some grace and support to your friend.

Well, OP, your friend found this post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Or maybe you shouldn’t discuss it because we don’t care. Seriously not trying to be snarky but your kids IBS and pre diabetic diagnosis isn’t really my problem. As a parent you need to be concerned with these things but it isn’t the responsibility of others. What do you want from these others? Should we all do exactly what you are doing in solidarity? I mean leave me alone with my Diet Coke and little Debbie’s. I’m not making you eat them.

This! It’s hilarious that PP doesn’t discuss it because “people are ignorant.” Please. No one GAF about your family’s eating habits. THAT’S why you don’t discuss it.

Seriously. I know exactly how bad a Coke is for me and I DGAF. Don't lecture me on the chemicals in soda and I will ignore all your kids' issues.

Deal. But make sure you don't complain about how you need to lose 10 to 50 pounds while you slurp and eat crap all day.

Luckily I don't because I understand that having a Coke isn't inconsistent with being healthy. You realize that it's possible to eat healthy, work out, and have a Coke with lunch, right? But go ahead and keep depriving yourself of everything because you think that's the way to go.

A Coke with lunch every day? That’s 9 teaspoons of sugar if it’s a 12 oz can, obviously more if it’s a larger serving which is what many people order.

No, I don’t think any responsible physician or nutritionist would endorse daily consumption of Coke or any other sugar laden fizzy drink. And more research is revealing that sugar substitutes are not without significant harm, so that’s not the answer either.

A healthy diet and lifestyle would include drinking water or unsweetened tea or coffee with lunch every day.

[Anonymous]

Just to clarify, a 12oz Coke with lunch every day is 30+ lbs of sugar every year, just from that one ‘food’ item. What other added sugars are being consumed? Refined sugar laden treats like cookies, cakes, brownies, sweetened yogurts, etc.

If most Americans tracked their actual sugar consumption they might be less certain that their diet was healthy. And just FYI, it IS possible to get NAFLD and metabolic syndrome while being a healthy weight on the scale - skinny fat people with T2 diabetes are far too common.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Or maybe you shouldn’t discuss it because we don’t care. Seriously not trying to be snarky but your kids IBS and pre diabetic diagnosis isn’t really my problem. As a parent you need to be concerned with these things but it isn’t the responsibility of others. What do you want from these others? Should we all do exactly what you are doing in solidarity? I mean leave me alone with my Diet Coke and little Debbie’s. I’m not making you eat them.

This! It’s hilarious that PP doesn’t discuss it because “people are ignorant.” Please. No one GAF about your family’s eating habits. THAT’S why you don’t discuss it.

Seriously. I know exactly how bad a Coke is for me and I DGAF. Don't lecture me on the chemicals in soda and I will ignore all your kids' issues.

Deal. But make sure you don't complain about how you need to lose 10 to 50 pounds while you slurp and eat crap all day.

Luckily I don't because I understand that having a Coke isn't inconsistent with being healthy. You realize that it's possible to eat healthy, work out, and have a Coke with lunch, right? But go ahead and keep depriving yourself of everything because you think that's the way to go.

A Coke with lunch every day? That’s 9 teaspoons of sugar if it’s a 12 oz can, obviously more if it’s a larger serving which is what many people order.

No, I don’t think any responsible physician or nutritionist would endorse daily consumption of Coke or any other sugar laden fizzy drink. And more research is revealing that sugar substitutes are not without significant harm, so that’s not the answer either.

A healthy diet and lifestyle would include drinking water or unsweetened tea or coffee with lunch every day.

I feel like this is a de facto meeting of Orthorexics Anonymous

[Anonymous]

Just wondering how many of the “eat healthy” zealots order vanilla chai lattes (or whatever) from Starbucks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Can you give some tips on how to avoid nanoplastics? I am concerned about this too. We try very hard not to drink or eat out of plastic or store food/cook in plastics. But I'd love to hear some more ideas. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Keto is gluten and sugar free by design.

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OP, as you can see from this thread, food is religion to some people. There are some people for whom it is an actual health issue -- like celiac -- and that you have to respect and work with when you are socializing with them over food. But for the food-as-religion practitioners, you can just avoid it like you do religion, politics, and money. Go for a walk instead of going out to eat.

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Anonymous wrote:Just to clarify, a 12oz Coke with lunch every day is 30+ lbs of sugar every year, just from that one ‘food’ item. What other added sugars are being consumed? Refined sugar laden treats like cookies, cakes, brownies, sweetened yogurts, etc.

If most Americans tracked their actual sugar consumption they might be less certain that their diet was healthy. And just FYI, it IS possible to get NAFLD and metabolic syndrome while being a healthy weight on the scale - skinny fat people with T2 diabetes are far too common.

Or you could have a coke every once in a while. I drink a coke of I go to an amusement park and am on my feet all day on the heat. That’s about the only time I drink it. So maybe once or twice a year? About the same as I drink alcohol. On rare occasions.

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Anonymous wrote:Just don't offer them stuff and keep the conversation on other things.

It’s inevitable when we go out to eat together. Ordering is madness.

Wait staff adores my family. Nobody has any special requests or allergies--from the very youngest to the elderly.

They look amazed when we answer 'no' to the 'special requests, allergies?" and then express happiness-- esp. if the chef is there.

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Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Or maybe you shouldn’t discuss it because we don’t care. Seriously not trying to be snarky but your kids IBS and pre diabetic diagnosis isn’t really my problem. As a parent you need to be concerned with these things but it isn’t the responsibility of others. What do you want from these others? Should we all do exactly what you are doing in solidarity? I mean leave me alone with my Diet Coke and little Debbie’s. I’m not making you eat them.

This! It’s hilarious that PP doesn’t discuss it because “people are ignorant.” Please. No one GAF about your family’s eating habits. THAT’S why you don’t discuss it.

Seriously. I know exactly how bad a Coke is for me and I DGAF. Don't lecture me on the chemicals in soda and I will ignore all your kids' issues.

Deal. But make sure you don't complain about how you need to lose 10 to 50 pounds while you slurp and eat crap all day.

Luckily I don't because I understand that having a Coke isn't inconsistent with being healthy. You realize that it's possible to eat healthy, work out, and have a Coke with lunch, right? But go ahead and keep depriving yourself of everything because you think that's the way to go.

A Coke with lunch every day? That’s 9 teaspoons of sugar if it’s a 12 oz can, obviously more if it’s a larger serving which is what many people order.

No, I don’t think any responsible physician or nutritionist would endorse daily consumption of Coke or any other sugar laden fizzy drink. And more research is revealing that sugar substitutes are not without significant harm, so that’s not the answer either.

A healthy diet and lifestyle would include drinking water or unsweetened tea or coffee with lunch every day.

Show me where I said anything about having a Coke with lunch every day. I'll wait.

So far this week I have had a Coke once with lunch. It was a 7.5 oz mini can. I also drink water all day.

I'm going to continue to sleep just fine at night while you stay up fretting about how many teaspoons of sugar are in a Tablespoon of ketchup. You sound unhinged. Truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to clarify, a 12oz Coke with lunch every day is 30+ lbs of sugar every year, just from that one ‘food’ item. What other added sugars are being consumed? Refined sugar laden treats like cookies, cakes, brownies, sweetened yogurts, etc.

If most Americans tracked their actual sugar consumption they might be less certain that their diet was healthy. And just FYI, it IS possible to get NAFLD and metabolic syndrome while being a healthy weight on the scale - skinny fat people with T2 diabetes are far too common.

No one is advocating drink a 12 oz Coke with lunch every day. Relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, they don’t want a glass of water, thank you. Something about plastics in filtered and bottled water, and heaven forbid tap water! They brought their own magical water.

Soda? Absolutely not. Too much sugar. Sugar-free? But the chemicals. Absolutely not!

Also, they are Keto, gluten-free, sugar-free but also sugar substitute free.

This is one person. It’s exhausting.

Like Charlie the Tuna, Cap’n Crunch, & Jimmy Dean?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend like this. Spend less time with her because of it. The kicker was her pawing through my shopping cart at the grocery store when I ran into her there.
She talks about it because she has such low self esteem and needs to judge others.
Dunzo.

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Anonymous wrote:My family is dealing with a kid anaphylactic to nuts who is also prediabetic, and a kid with IBS symptoms for whom we're trying to eliminate then reintroduce foods. Our cooking has had to dramatically change over the years. We used to be "eat-anything" sort of people.

We are now trying to eat less sugar, less refined carbs, and yes, I am concerned with microplastics in our environment, because I'm a research scientist and I happen to follow endocrine changes in populations as they relate to environmental modifications.

But since I know there are brutally ignorant people like OP out there, I don't ever discuss it. We do what we need to do. You do whatever the heck you want. End of story.

Or maybe you shouldn’t discuss it because we don’t care. Seriously not trying to be snarky but your kids IBS and pre diabetic diagnosis isn’t really my problem. As a parent you need to be concerned with these things but it isn’t the responsibility of others. What do you want from these others? Should we all do exactly what you are doing in solidarity? I mean leave me alone with my Diet Coke and little Debbie’s. I’m not making you eat them.

This! It’s hilarious that PP doesn’t discuss it because “people are ignorant.” Please. No one GAF about your family’s eating habits. THAT’S why you don’t discuss it.

Seriously. I know exactly how bad a Coke is for me and I DGAF. Don't lecture me on the chemicals in soda and I will ignore all your kids' issues.

Deal. But make sure you don't complain about how you need to lose 10 to 50 pounds while you slurp and eat crap all day.

Luckily I don't because I understand that having a Coke isn't inconsistent with being healthy. You realize that it's possible to eat healthy, work out, and have a Coke with lunch, right? But go ahead and keep depriving yourself of everything because you think that's the way to go.

A Coke with lunch every day? That’s 9 teaspoons of sugar if it’s a 12 oz can, obviously more if it’s a larger serving which is what many people order.

No, I don’t think any responsible physician or nutritionist would endorse daily consumption of Coke or any other sugar laden fizzy drink. And more research is revealing that sugar substitutes are not without significant harm, so that’s not the answer either.

A healthy diet and lifestyle would include drinking water or unsweetened tea or coffee with lunch every day.

NP. Show me where the PP said “EVERY DAY.”