Tiger parent's mean comment about my daughter

[Anonymous]

All of you who are shocked and offended by this dad’s comments are silly hypocrites. If you or your kids have any social life at you have said some unflattering things about your friends and their kids if you read 90% of the posts on this board you’re all judging the sh*t out of each other. Of the many crappy things about being human, one of the crappiest is that to know someone is to judge someone and to compare yourself to them. So grow up and move on or get a offended at the 1 thing you heard out of the 100s of unfair things that are being said about you and your kids.

PRO TIP: when there’s a glitch in the social matrix and you get wind of the things that people are saying about you, you could use that as an opportunity to do some self reflection. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair OP, you are also judging their parenting and their kids so it's like tea calling kettle black and he didn't say any of it to your DD. However, you can ask them that their son said these hurtful things and look for their response.

She’s judging them on an anonymous forum. Not at all the same thing. I’d speak directly to the father. He should apologize to DD. All you let it go posters would ruminate if it was your kid. Show your daughter that she is your priority and deserves respect. Teach her how to command respect in the most disarming way. Describing someone as dumb is very low brow coming from an adult. I think you give this family way too much credit. Mom isn’t a tiger mom, she’s a control freak or a puppet whose husband holds the strings. Dad is a jerk. Make him apologize.

You can’t be serious. OP taking it upon herself to try to *make* a grown man she’s not employing or sleeping with do anything will only illuminate to him from which parent the daughter gets her (seeming) lack of intelligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend's son (N) and my son (both 14) are best friends. We do a lot together and are all very close.
I also have an older daughter (16). Today she told me that N told her at a recent event that "my dad thinks you're dumb (or stupid?) because you don't do anything and you're always on your phone." and apparently "you don't want to be like her" (my daughter). Background is that N is a child who is aiming to get into Harvard and already has a resume 2 miles long of all his extracurriculars, awards, honors, and academic achievements.
My son confirmed that N also told him that his father "thought she was dumb", but then said his father took it back after he realized all the AP classes my daughter is taking (whatever that means).

I am SO mad! How dare he talk about my daughter like that?! I have never been anything but supportive of my best friend's (often annoying) children in everything they do. Furthermore, my daughter is amazing. She does well in school, has many activities she is involved in, is a leader in her school, and is well-loved. We just don't feel the need to broadcast her achievements to everyone.

I don't want to ruin my relationship with my best friend, or my son's friendship with N, but I do want to ask my best friend WTF her husband's issue is and never talk about my daughter again. Furthermore, my son is even more laid back than my daughter, so I'm sure he has said condescending things about him as well. What should I do?

Just slip in that your daughter will have an easy life because she is hot and you empathize with how difficult life will be for their smart, but ugly, daughter.

[Anonymous]

You should punch that father in the face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you who are shocked and offended by this dad’s comments are silly hypocrites. If you or your kids have any social life at you have said some unflattering things about your friends and their kids if you read 90% of the posts on this board you’re all judging the sh*t out of each other. Of the many crappy things about being human, one of the crappiest is that to know someone is to judge someone and to compare yourself to them. So grow up and move on or get a offended at the 1 thing you heard out of the 100s of unfair things that are being said about you and your kids.

PRO TIP: when there’s a glitch in the social matrix and you get wind of the things that people are saying about you, you could use that as an opportunity to do some self reflection. Good luck.

well said