Partner said I’m not super attractive

[Anonymous]

I had a boyfriend once that said something similar, that I wasn’t his usual type (gorgeous blondes) but he was into my brains and personality.

So I made him fall deeply in love with me, had a lot of good sex, and then dumped him without a second thought. He would drunk text me trying to get me back for years.

I was immature as hell but so was he. We were 19. If you are older than 19, you are too old for this guy.

[Anonymous]

"I don’t want to with a partner who feels they don’t love all of me."

This is ridiculous! We all have parts of us that we shouldn't and hopefully don't shine a light on when getting dressed. I don't expect my BF to love my short neck or the fact that my thighs rub together even when I'm at my ideal weight. I have a weak chin. My skin flakes if I don't moisturize every day. As long as he finds the entire package enticing, that's what matters.

[Anonymous]

"Huge red flag. A partner who loves you unconditionally will tell you that you are the most beautiful woman he has ever seen (even if it’s not true).


Comments like that would be a red flag to me.
I would automatically assume it's grandiosity and that the guy is blowing you-know-what up my a$$ (and I am a HOT woman).
Beautiful women are a dime a dozen. And looks fade.
I would want to hear something more original if its true unconditional love."

+1

I'm the oldest woman my BF has every slept with, and the only one other than his ex wife who had a baby. There's no way that I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever seen. Yes, I take his breath away. Yes, he lusts after me. But if he said that I was the most beautiful I'd laugh in his face and be annoyed. I prefer to hear the real truth about the things that he adores about me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call me. 867-5309.

You’re looking for Jenny, not OP!

[Anonymous]

Your partner is clearly an inexperienced man. Why can't he keep it to himself and even like to you about he truly feels about you physically. After all women are champs at faking orgasms and making a 3 inch guy feels like he has the biggest dong lol. Men are sometimes stupidly honest lol

[Anonymous]

Sheesh—dump him and grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a boyfriend once that said something similar, that I wasn’t his usual type (gorgeous blondes) but he was into my brains and personality.

So I made him fall deeply in love with me, had a lot of good sex, and then dumped him without a second thought. He would drunk text me trying to get me back for years.

I was immature as hell but so was he. We were 19. If you are older than 19, you are too old for this guy.

Well done. You probably did him a favor since I doubt he ever repeated anything like that with another girlfriend.

How did you “make him” fall deeply in love, though? That’s not really something you can truly manipulate a person into, unless they are very mentally unstable.

[Anonymous]

Run. He’s trying to destroy your self esteem so he can control you and the relationship. He wants you to believe you’re not worth more than how he decides to treat you.

I’ve been there, I was actually beautiful (and unfortunately terribly naive), he planted so much self doubt in my head that I completely believed I was not. And this led me to put up with progressively worse abuse for years.

[Anonymous]

DTMFA

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

"We" or "he" was watching?

So much red flag here, it wouldn't even be sexy lingerie. It would be a mumu.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to need pics, including of the lovely big breasts.

What if the op is Sydney Sweeney?

Then I’ve already seen them..

[Anonymous]

One time I was walking around in pjs and my boyfriend said “it’s like National Geographic in here, haha.” I asked him if he was talking about his cornishon dick. Needless to say he is an ex. Life is too short to be with people who put you down.

[Anonymous]

He is socially awkward. He’s being g honest with you, which most people find cruel & hurtful. He doesn’t think so - he thinks he is paying you a compliment by saying despite your 2nd tier boobs, he thinks you are top tier personality.

I mean, in some ways, that is kind of sweet. He’s with you for a reason, & not something that will sag & deteriorate as you get older. I think it’s a sign of maturity that he is now attracted to someone who he loves for their personality/essence rather than exterior.

Of course, eating you against other exes is also very immature, so you will have to weigh the 2 & see how you feel. But there’s a case to be made for staying, & one for leaving - depends where you think he falls on the mature/immature and sensitive/insensitive spectrum.

[Anonymous]

No this is clear cut. This man is trash. Leave now. No backhanded compliments. Especially not about your body.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

oh lawd. you are over reacting.

What?!? What planet are PPs from? This is a no-brainer. What this guy said was insensitive, unkind, none-headed and even cruel. In what world is this okay?

Dude said he thought OP was attractive. So he said she wasn't the most beautiful woman. So what? Who honestly would believe that? It's amazing how immature most people posting here are - they rather hear a lie knowing its a lie instead of a truth - that their significant other is attracted to them, they take offense.