Partner said I’m not super attractive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to need pics, including of the lovely big breasts.

OP here. I don’t think this site allows it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to need pics, including of the lovely big breasts.

What if the op is Sydney Sweeney?

OP here. I’m not sure who that is but not me.

[Anonymous]

Drop that Ahole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

[Anonymous]

Huge red flag. A partner who loves you unconditionally will tell you that you are the most beautiful woman he has ever seen (even if it’s not true).

[Anonymous]

OMG. I really don't know the nuances you are splitting between "super attractive" "attractive and sexy" but "not hot or physically beautiful." Are we in high school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

oh lawd. you are over reacting.

What?!? What planet are PPs from? This is a no-brainer. What this guy said was insensitive, unkind, none-headed and even cruel. In what world is this okay?

[Anonymous]

A painting can be beautiful, but I don't want to bang a painting.

[Anonymous]

Many of us are parents here. How would PPs react if their kid’s significant other made a comment like this? C’mon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

Ew, horrible. Break up. But also, don't watch corn with someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huge red flag. A partner who loves you unconditionally will tell you that you are the most beautiful woman he has ever seen (even if it’s not true).

Comments like that would be a red flag to me.
I would automatically assume it's grandiosity and that the guy is blowing you-know-what up my a$$ (and I am a HOT woman).
Beautiful women are a dime a dozen. And looks fade.
I would want to hear something more original if its true unconditional love.

[Anonymous]

He's trying to neg you and degrade your self esteem.

Don't let him. Dump him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

oh lawd. you are over reacting.

What?!? What planet are PPs from? This is a no-brainer. What this guy said was insensitive, unkind, none-headed and even cruel. In what world is this okay?

Both of them are off.
She was obviously looking for attention and compliments and he clearly refused to inflate her ego and said what he said.
Immaturity all around. Shallow.
Doubt there is much depth to either one of them or their relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

Yeah, he is a d**k. What he said was hurtful and unkind. I have not read the whole thread but how is your relationship in general?