Partner said I’m not super attractive

[Anonymous]

My husband said something like this 2 months after I had a baby. I was pretty angry with him for a while after that (he was also behaving very coldly overall towards me). 5 years later we are still married and get along well but still working on getting that spark back after becoming parents. Not sure if we ever will? I'm not angry about the comment anymore but it definitely put a damper on romance in the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is definitely more attractive than I am. He gets hit on quite a bit. I’m cute but definitely not hot. Im also the least attractive of all his girlfriends.

It just hurts me. I don’t want to with a partner who feels they don’t love all of me.

He may love you, but he's a jerk to say that to you.

[Anonymous]

Dump this jackass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is definitely more attractive than I am. He gets hit on quite a bit. I’m cute but definitely not hot. Im also the least attractive of all his girlfriends.

It just hurts me. I don’t want to with a partner who feels they don’t love all of me.

He doesn't seem nice. Sure you want to be with him.

[Anonymous]

The dude is stupid. Zero reason to say anything like that to anyone.

[Anonymous]

Even an extremely attractive person is never going to be the absolute hottest person in all ways at all times.

He seems rude and he either lacks self awareness in a big way or is intentionally trying to erode your self esteem. Both would be dealbreakers for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

I agree.

I think I would rather be told by my husband that I’m beautiful but not sexy over being told that I’m sexy but not beautiful.

Beautiful and attractive kind of speak more to inner beauty in addition to your physical appearance. Saying to your girlfriend that she is sexy, but not beautiful or very attractive just sounds mean.

[Anonymous]

Why were you having this conversation?

[Anonymous]

Either you were fishing for compliments, or he is not that into you. Either way you should move on.

[Anonymous]

Tell him his pecker isn’t super big.

“It’s nice, but it’s not the best I’ve ever had.”

[Anonymous]

We’re going to need pics, including of the lovely big breasts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to need pics, including of the lovely big breasts.

What if the op is Sydney Sweeney?

[Anonymous]

My husband teases me about physical things and I tease him too but I see that as very different from a boyfriend saying such a thing about my attractiveness as a whole. That’s breakup worthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call me. 867-5309.

“How did you two kids meet?”

“Well I mentioned that my breasts are large on an anonymous forum for parents so he posted his phone number without the area code, so I made a lucky guess, and the rest is history!”

[Anonymous]

He’s several things: most importantly he’s not a very nice person, he also doesn’t understand that it’s generally not ok to say such things to someone you’re in a relationship with, and it sounds like he’s not that into you and/or is trying to break your self esteem and confidence so he has the upper hand in the relationship, is trying to bring you down so he can start being abusive to you (at least verbally/psychologically abusive)…I would break up.