Partner said I’m not super attractive

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

How awful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

So it’s time to move on. When someone says things like this they really do not care about your feeling. For me when some gets to this point they are already out of the relationship in their mind. Does he give any signs of cheating?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

oh lawd. you are over reacting.

What?!? What planet are PPs from? This is a no-brainer. What this guy said was insensitive, unkind, none-headed and even cruel. In what world is this okay?

Dude said he thought OP was attractive. So he said she wasn't the most beautiful woman. So what? Who honestly would believe that? It's amazing how immature most people posting here are - they rather hear a lie knowing its a lie instead of a truth - that their significant other is attracted to them, they take offense.

No thats not quite how he said it!!

[Anonymous]

OP if you dragged this out of him, shame on you. If he willingly shared apropos nothing, shame on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time I was walking around in pjs and my boyfriend said “it’s like National Geographic in here, haha.” I asked him if he was talking about his cornishon dick. Needless to say he is an ex. Life is too short to be with people who put you down.

lol
But it’s spelled cornichon

OP, this relationship is not likely long term. Decide if you want to dump him now or wait until you or he finds someone better.
Also why are you watching porn with him? Seems like another red flag.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read any of the responses here - but this question makes me think of the ‘what percentage of people settle’ thread. I’m not sure people always know they are ‘settling’ when they settle. Unless someone out loud says ‘this is what is happening’.

Op - if you marry this person you are settling. I’m saying it out loud. Thank me later

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

How awful.

Yeah this is terrible. I would never, ever, want to be with someone who felt it appropriate to negatively compare me to a porn star. The whole thing sounds so skeevy and gross.

This would be breakup worthy for me and I wouldn’t be able to enjoy sex with this person anymore.

[Anonymous]

OP—I think he’s setting you up for a breakup and just doesn’t have the balls to do it.

It’s coming though if you don’t do it first.

Because no guy is planning a future with a girl he doesn’t find super attractive.
With women, it’s different. But men are wired to be visual creatures. He’s telling you that you don’t reeeeaaallly hit the mark with this for him. It’s brutally honest (emphasis on the brutally part) but you are a placeholder for him until someone who rocks his world comes along.

Time to rock his world in a different way first by leaving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

He sounds mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

He sounds mean

+1. He’s so mean! Why are you even posting about this? That’s a really cruel thing to say and you should dump him

[Anonymous]

Is he on the spectrum?

[Anonymous]

JFC just dump him. What a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is definitely more attractive than I am. He gets hit on quite a bit. I’m cute but definitely not hot. Im also the least attractive of all his girlfriends.

It just hurts me. I don’t want to with a partner who feels they don’t love all of me.

Bingo‼️
You deserve someone who loves all. of. you.

And you should never for anyone who cannot provide that for you.

[Anonymous]

Dump him.

[Anonymous]

Break up. But in your next relationship, don’t fish for compliments by comparing your body to porn stars’ bodies.