Spouse hasn’t touched me in months

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Anonymous wrote:Btdt. Haven't had sex in over a decade. He has never been able to explain it and it is none of the obvious things (AP, illness, loss of attraction, etc).

I understand this struggle, all together. My spouse and I have had a dry marriage ever since our youngest was born which is over five years. We have discussed it at length, and the out come is always the same, she says she'll try to make changes, and I say I'll make changes. For about maybe a week thinks seem positive, but only because I make attempts, and they always get shot down, so I just stop, and then I get blamed. This has been this way over and over again. And before it is said, marriage counseling is B/S we've tried it multiple times and it never turns out. Mainly because the counselor is ether total crap or never actually addressed the problem, so now I'm stuck in this perpetual cycle of loneliness and self gratification all the while still being attracted to the one person who obviously isn't attracted to me.

[Anonymous]

My wife and I haven't had sex in five years.She has ZERO interest. Hell, I can't even remember a passionate kiss anymore. Been through counseling which waste a waste of money. We do live like roommates. After the kids graduate, I could be gone but too many more years to wait. Kinda sad and depressing

[Anonymous]

I had a BF who was avoiding sex.
Turns out he had a herpes outbreak! Suffice to say he had never told me he had herpes at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You got fat and ugly

Honest truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I haven't had sex in five years.She has ZERO interest. Hell, I can't even remember a passionate kiss anymore. Been through counseling which waste a waste of money. We do live like roommates. After the kids graduate, I could be gone but too many more years to wait. Kinda sad and depressing

Take on an AP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You got fat and ugly

Op, if this is not true, try doing more chores around the house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I haven't had sex in five years.She has ZERO interest. Hell, I can't even remember a passionate kiss anymore. Been through counseling which waste a waste of money. We do live like roommates. After the kids graduate, I could be gone but too many more years to wait. Kinda sad and depressing

Take on an AP

Crappy sex for a decade and I did this. She knows about AP and I don't give a fk anymore. No regrets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I haven't had sex in five years.She has ZERO interest. Hell, I can't even remember a passionate kiss anymore. Been through counseling which waste a waste of money. We do live like roommates. After the kids graduate, I could be gone but too many more years to wait. Kinda sad and depressing

Take on an AP

Crappy sex for a decade and I did this. She knows about AP and I don't give a fk anymore. No regrets.

So you guys are still married ?

[Anonymous]

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I’m hurt. And I’m not interested in living like roommates.

We have kids that haven’t launched yet, and I’m not interested in being away from them.

Ideally, I’d like to fix the issue.

Say this to your spouse. In words they are most likely to hear. But this is basically it.

I have.

A number of times.

Then it's time for an ultimatum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I haven't had sex in five years.She has ZERO interest. Hell, I can't even remember a passionate kiss anymore. Been through counseling which waste a waste of money. We do live like roommates. After the kids graduate, I could be gone but too many more years to wait. Kinda sad and depressing

Take on an AP

Crappy sex for a decade and I did this. She knows about AP and I don't give a fk anymore. No regrets.

So you guys are still married ?

Yessir!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I haven't had sex in five years.She has ZERO interest. Hell, I can't even remember a passionate kiss anymore. Been through counseling which waste a waste of money. We do live like roommates. After the kids graduate, I could be gone but too many more years to wait. Kinda sad and depressing

Take on an AP

Crappy sex for a decade and I did this. She knows about AP and I don't give a fk anymore. No regrets.

So you guys are still married ?

Yessir!

So this is essentially an open marriage ?

[Anonymous]

As a woman whose DH was like this, couples therapy was the only way out. He had a lot of resentment of me, justified and unjustified. Now we are intimate several times a week again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a woman whose DH was like this, couples therapy was the only way out. He had a lot of resentment of me, justified and unjustified. Now we are intimate several times a week again.

Dcum needs a heart button for posts like this.

How long did it take to turn around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all.

Gay?
Age/lost drive?
Cheating?
Depressed?

I’ve brought it up directly and get excuses along the lines of stress.

I’m hurt. And I’m not interested in living like roommates.

We have kids that haven’t launched yet, and I’m not interested in being away from them.

Ideally, I’d like to fix the issue.

Anyone btdt?

What makes you think it’s something with your partner and not you?

[Anonymous]

Ask him to give up porn for good.

And read https://www.reddit.com/r/HL_Women_Only