If starting violin lessons at 3 is what you expect, then you are on your own. I don't think that is realistic or reasonable. Just send your kids to a math supplement program and find a good music teacher/school that will go however far and fast your DC can do. Why do you have to complicate it? Take her to museums, travel, attend cultural events. No need to fixate on how fast she is learning math in 1st grade.... |
I am European/Asian and I agree with this. Only stupid people think creativity is stifled by intellectual rigor. It’s the opposite, but you don’t necessarily see the fruits of your labor until the student is an adult and successful in their chosen career and hobbies. Creativity isn’t measured by coloring outside the lines at 4. It’s about inventing something meaningful later in life. You get there with intellectual rigor and cognitive challenge. |
I live in an area where the public schools are 100% free lunch, and the private schools are just slightly better academically. The better educated parents tend to send their kids to public and provide or pay for supplementals.
An idea would be to stay in your current public school area and pay for your kid to go to the "rich" area for one or two high quality lessons. Or, send them to summer camps with the quality you like. |
My son is in first grade in public and learning those things. |
That describes our Montessori’s expectation for 1st grade, and some kids started multiplication in K. |
+1. In the early years, any DC needs to have a strong foundation of facts, ability to read well, and ability to do math well. All of those boil down to memorization. |
The DCUM website already is lakeside. |
OP’s choices are to move to a school zone with higher expectations, move to a challenging private/parochial school, or sign up to supplement Phonics, reading, spelling, grammar, math, and the other academic subjects. Maybe homeschool is an option too. |
No, spelling and phonic are about memorization, but if taught correctly, math is about inquire. The art of inquire is far more important than memorization. Sadly, Tiger parent’s can’t seem to grasp that, probably on account of their own stunted development. |
OP here. No to homeschool. I am not a teacher and it’s part of my frustration. I know teachers have studied for years to teach. Their hands are probably tied because of the set curriculum, administration, state and national testing, etc etc. But we are in what is supposed to be a top district and I’m sitting here trying to research literacy methods and teaching DD phonics and spending hours and lots of money trying to find curricular resources to teach things I’m not qualified to teach. I feel like phonics, spelling, math past 1-9 are all things they should be learning in kindergarten through 1st. Why am I spending hours looking through G-O method vs balanced literacy, researching ed articles about Lucy Caulkins, and trying to look through TPT and other state curriculums to see how math is being taught? The same with music. I put in my hours every single week helping DD practice and take notes during lessons in an instrument I do not play, and find the top music is school is faffing about enrolling 8 and 9 year olds who have never touched an instrument. I am not personally one to put kids on an instrument at 3 or 4, but yes I do expect the top music school in the area to enroll students that young. Where are the 4 year old violinists if they aren’t in my area? Just NY and Seattle and LA? |
Like everything else, math is about inquiry after you get the facts down. I was schooled by a drill and kill math curriculum (speed drills for the win!) and made it through differential equations and have higher degrees and a career in a STEM subject. |
Early math facts are about memorization. Multiplication tables need to be memorized. |
Why are you at a music school instead of with a challenging private teacher, as PPs up-thread said? I recently had to decide not to enroll my DC with several different private teachers because DC practices regularly but is merely learning the instrument for fun/musical appreciation and doesn't have enough hours to devote to the lesson and performance requirements the teachers had. And we are in a merely moderate SES, moderate performing area. As far as the instruction thing, yeah, that's modern public education for you. You school your kids in the summer and after school. It's pretty miserable. |
Nope, RSM and AoPS are exactly about inquiry, and not about memorization and drill/kill like Kumon and Mathnasium. Here's a white paper on the topic: https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/ED593886.pdf |
Absolutely false, and that’s why public math education sucks. You cannot “inquire” your way into the math foundation needed to do Algebra. That’s leaving kids behind, except the ones who are naturally talented at math or get outside tutoring. Math “inquiry” is the same type of pernicious cr*p as “whole language”. |