Why are people so anti-sibling when not drop off parties?

[Anonymous]

I totally get it once the child is old enough and can be dropped off. Right now, I have 2 young children and it is difficult to have one parent take invited child and other parent stay home with unvited child. DH travels a lot for work and often works weekends. What do single parents do? Just not attend?

[Anonymous]

Not attend or get a sitter. Sorry.

If someone isn't invited to a party and you can't go without them, decline your invitation.

[Anonymous]

Well, we hosted a party at our home for my child's preschool class, and that was 18 kids on the list. With siblings it would have come to twice that. Plus parents.

That's kind of a lot, right?

I don't feel badly if a parent asks to bring a sibling and I know they really have to. But I do appreciate that most parents can and do make arrangements to either (a) have another parent carpool and watch their kid or (b) have another caregiver stay home with the other sibling.

[Anonymous]

Some party venues have a limit as to the number of guests and parents do not want to use their allotment for siblings that they don't know are that their kids are not friends with. I do home parties, so I don't care how many people come. But, I can understand the reason for saying no to siblings.

[Anonymous]

what about when the sibling is an infant?

[Anonymous]

Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

Then what is the party for? Aren't parties for the guests to have fun?

Or, are parties for the birthday kid to be exalted above all others?

I don't really get it either for non-drop-off parties, unless the host is hoping some kids won't come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what about when the sibling is an infant?

Depends a bit on the venue. I used to work at a place that did activities/parties for 0-4. Our policy was that an infant in a sling would generally not be counted in the numbers. But because our space was designed to be safe and stimulating for all children 0-4, we found it was rarely the case that an infant would stay in that sling at a party. Even if it was a 3rd birthday, there was still plenty for the 6 month old to do. So it's probably best to still check that this is ok with the host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

That's BS. The host determines who is invited. Invited guests do not have the right to invite other people (siblings). Invited guests do have the right to decline if they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

That is such a mean attitude. Some people really don't have that much money for a party so their kids should be deprived because they can't afford more people than they invited? I can't believe you even said this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

That's rude and silly. Almost every child in my class has a sibling. 20 extra children is hardly a few.

[Anonymous]

Get a sitter. I'm sorry but for one or two hours that's really not too much to ask. If it was only ONE sibling, I am sure nobody would care - but imagine 5 invited guests each bringing a sibling. Or even more guests...yeah, not a good idea!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

Then what is the party for? Aren't parties for the guests to have fun?

Or, are parties for the birthday kid to be exalted above all others?

I don't really get it either for non-drop-off parties, unless the host is hoping some kids won't come.

Yes the party is for the guests to have fun. Uninvited siblings are not party guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

Yeah, if you can't host twice the amount of kids that you actually invited, just don't even HAVE the party. You fucking disgusting poor person. I mean, why should it be left to the parents of the invitees to have basic manners?