Sorry, there is no way I would have dropped my son off at a birthday party, even of a person I knew, before he was 4. Doesn't matter if there were just a few other kids there. Would not feel comfortable with it. |
WTF? You are insane. I have never had a single mom, military spouse etc. ask to bring a sibling to a party. If so, I would certainly say fine. I HAVE however, repeatedly invited my son's friends to parties, and had both of their parents plus multiple siblings show up, without informing me that extra people were attending. If you are that offended by parties with favors and paper plates, you are always free to decline. |
And that's fine, and in that case if it's your preference it's reasonable that you'd bear the burden of finding childcare for another child. On the other hand, if a parent decides that they want parents there, because they invited more kids than they can handle, then they should make it possible for the parents to stay by accommodating their other kids. |
But why have we gotten to this point in society when the invited guests' family thinks that the invitation is for EVERYONE in their family? When you receive a wedding invitation clearly addressed to you and your spouse/guest, do you assume your DC is invited? Obviously, the host who has to resort to writing "no siblings, please" has gotten burned in the past and doesn't want anyone to bug her/him with requests for additional guests. |
Most parents I know will not drop off their kids until the kids are past toddlerhood. |
Right? I don't need someone to write "no siblings, please" on an invitation. If the invitation is addressed only to one child, then I know that only that child is invited. If it is addressed to "Larla and Larlo Smith," or Larla & family" or "The Smith Family" then I know that siblings are included in the invitation. |
Absolutely. People, please learn elementary manners. The invitation is for the person to whom it was addressed. That is it. |
This just reinforces the whole entitled mentality, and parents are the worst offenders! Its called life people. You had multiple kids, now be prepared to deal with them. Im so over this entitlement culture: schools dictating that you have to invite an entire class, parents dictating that you have to invite all of their kids, etc, etc, etc,, |
So then the parents are required to drop off right? Because I've never been listed on a birthday invitation for my kid. Or do you address the invite to one child and a specific parent? |
When did adult's social lives become completely focused on children's parties? Get a life. If there are other adults you want to see - invite them to get together to do adult things. |
We've done parties at home and at venues but our parties are always drop-off. My rule is that extra siblings are welcome as long as one of the parents will agree to stay and watch them because money is not the issue -- esp for a home party -- but supervision is tough when there are only two adults for fifteen 8yos. |
No, no, I only have one child, but I wouldn't feel comfortable dropping him off, and wouldn't expect other parents (who may have multiple kids) to feel comfortable either. I honestly don't mind accommodating younger siblings, but find it quite offensive when parents bring 7 and 8 year olds to a 3 year old's birthday party. It isn't fun for the older kids, and they are either miserable and moping, or running around bowling over the little ones. |
I'm not the person you're arguing with but I've taken a similar position as her (I also have one child, and am an only child). I have to say your post has made me think twice about this - I do understand your perspective. But...are you one of the ones really railing against this? Because you seem pretty reasonable here. And to me, some of the people going off on siblings are acting like they have 20 siblings coming, which is this big nightmare?, like there is this horde of siblings descending? I would so much rather have a small party with families that my children are close to. Maybe that informs my posts here. People almost always bring siblings to the parties we've had for our son, and it never occurred to me initially that another host might be offended by that. To me it is about celebrating as a party. I will say that when people are very clear and send their invite to my kid's name only, then I think, okay, this is one of those kid only things, and my husband and I take it as a signal that only one of us should go. But then, a good friend of mine from childhood addresses her invitations like this and it seems clear that she DOES expect us all to go. All these rules....it just seems to me that most people are sticklers about the siblings not because of a situation like yours, PP, but because they want to have some bounce house party or whatever. Your situation is more understandable, but I have to wonder if it's really that big of a deal as people are making it? Like so many people just crash your parties? |
We recently had a small same sex birthday party for DC, two people brought opposite sex siblings and dropped them off, three kids parents stayed, and another brought opposite sex sibling, a set a grandparents and both parents, that is 13 extra people for a party of 8 kids. So my party went from 8 to 21. It sucked. Thanks. |
OP here. That I don't understand. When it is drop off, it is obvious only invited child goes. I am talking about the under age 5 years where parents are required to stay and other spouse is unavailable to watch sibling. |