Going home hungry after birthday parties

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Anonymous wrote:Ummm.... I have a baby, so this is all new to me. But am I to gather from these posts that I will be forced to attend birthday parties with 20+ toddlers and it will be considered "normal" for no one to offer the adults wine or beer? Yikes.

I would not expect alcoholic beverages at a children's birthday party. Some people serve them, but many do not.

And you are not forced to attend. If you can't handle a few hours without a drink, or can't imagine having any fun without one, you just RSVP that you will not attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ummm.... I have a baby, so this is all new to me. But am I to gather from these posts that I will be forced to attend birthday parties with 20+ toddlers and it will be considered "normal" for no one to offer the adults wine or beer? Yikes.

At least IME, a lot of people don't have parties at home and so they can't really serve alcohol (although it would make JW Tumbles/The Little Gym/etc. a lot more interesting!). But I'd definitely serve beer and wine at a home party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ummm.... I have a baby, so this is all new to me. But am I to gather from these posts that I will be forced to attend birthday parties with 20+ toddlers and it will be considered "normal" for no one to offer the adults wine or beer? Yikes.

If it's a venue party, like at a kid's gym or something, then yes unfortunately you shouldn't even expect water. If it's at their house, most people will have at least have basic munchies and beverages (though I wouldn't expect alcohol at a 2 year old's birthday party - some do, most don't) but at some point in the next few years you will find yourself at some one's home with their kid's birthday party running into lunch and/or dinner time (noon or 6pm) and all there is to eat is cake. Maybe they're having a an Antoinette theme?

My kid's only two and I've already been to two of the later, one of the former at a kiddie gym. Welcome to DC!

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Anonymous wrote:Are you that cheap that you can't rode a few pizzas?
I don't care what time of day the party is... Order pizza cheapskate.

It's not a question of being able to afford it or not. Who can't afford a few pizzas? It's about saying, "ENOUGH! It's all too much!" An afternoon party from 2:30-4:00 (or, as some other PP said, anytime between 1-5) does NOT call for more food and I am not going to give in to the constant pressure for more, more, and more in this society. I am not doing it.

If you truly felt this way, you wouldn't be having a party in the first place. You are using sanctimony as a cover for being cheap and thoughtless.

Seriously, did none of you go to parties when you were a child? In the '70s and '80s? With cake, ice cream, and lemonade? Maybe koolaid? Maybe Hi-C? And play games in someone's basement, and then go home? Did none of you have or attend parties like this? Nobody?

Grew up in the 80s and went to a ton of birthday parties. We didn't have basements but parties were generally in the back yard or the community room of whatever complex people lived in. There was always food. Always. Cake came after the food.

There was never food at the parties I went to in elementary school. Just cake, ice cream and a drink.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the weirdest thread I've ever read. My child does not need a freakin' meal at a party, unless it's held at lunch or dinner time. Cake and juice is more than enough. Surprisingly, I can go several hours without feeding my face.

Seriously, how fat are you people? Are you the same moms that carry snacks and drinks everywhere you go? An afternoon party certainly does not require that the hosts provide a meal.

I know! I truly cannot BELIEVE how many people feel so strongly about this?!?!?!?!?? It is just the oddest issue to me!!! It is like you are taking their binky away from them, or something, if they cannot have access to food or drinks for 1.5-2 hours. They are PANICKING!!

I think there's one person posting over and over again. There are probably others who want food at a party too, but this one poster is very angry about it and is taking a stand for humanity: What do we want? Pizza at your kid's party! When do we want it? Between 12-5pm Saturday!"

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Anonymous wrote:This is the weirdest thread I've ever read. My child does not need a freakin' meal at a party, unless it's held at lunch or dinner time. Cake and juice is more than enough. Surprisingly, I can go several hours without feeding my face.

Seriously, how fat are you people? Are you the same moms that carry snacks and drinks everywhere you go? An afternoon party certainly does not require that the hosts provide a meal.

I know! I truly cannot BELIEVE how many people feel so strongly about this?!?!?!?!?? It is just the oddest issue to me!!! It is like you are taking their binky away from them, or something, if they cannot have access to food or drinks for 1.5-2 hours. They are PANICKING!!

I think there's one person posting over and over again. There are probably others who want food at a party too, but this one poster is very angry about it and is taking a stand for humanity: What do we want? Pizza at your kid's party! When do we want it? Between 12-5pm Saturday[i][b]!"

LOL!

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Anonymous wrote:Are you that cheap that you can't rode a few pizzas?
I don't care what time of day the party is... Order pizza cheapskate.

It's not a question of being able to afford it or not. Who can't afford a few pizzas? It's about saying, "ENOUGH! It's all too much!" An afternoon party from 2:30-4:00 (or, as some other PP said, anytime between 1-5) does NOT call for more food and I am not going to give in to the constant pressure for more, more, and more in this society. I am not doing it.

If you truly felt this way, you wouldn't be having a party in the first place. You are using sanctimony as a cover for being cheap and thoughtless.

Seriously, did none of you go to parties when you were a child? In the '70s and '80s? With cake, ice cream, and lemonade? Maybe koolaid? Maybe Hi-C? And play games in someone's basement, and then go home? Did none of you have or attend parties like this? Nobody?

Grew up in the 80s and went to a ton of birthday parties. We didn't have basements but parties were generally in the back yard or the community room of whatever complex people lived in. There was always food. Always. Cake came after the food.

There was never food at the parties I went to in elementary school. Just cake, ice cream and a drink.

Same here.

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If you or your kids come to my home for a social event, there will be refreshments for everyone. It's just the civilized thing to do. Doesn't have to be fancy, but there will be some kind of food and drink, even if it's super casual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you or your kids come to my home for a social event, there will be refreshments for everyone. It's just the civilized thing to do. Doesn't have to be fancy, but there will be some kind of food and drink, even if it's super casual.

"Home" party is the operative word/term. And I don't want my kids having a full meal at your home when it isn't meal time. (Snacks are fine in moderation).

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Most of the kiddie party places say "no alcohol" but at every single one we bring it in, don't flaunt it, serve it, and it's never been a problem at all.

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Found my old thread. My child was 3-4 back then.

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Anonymous wrote:Found my old thread. My child was 3-4 back then.

Why are you bumping it back to the top?

After 25 pages, I think it's safe to safe it's been discussed to death.

[Anonymous]

Cheap people have parties that do not include food. Sorry, if you cry you cannot afford to feed people of give some lame ass excuse of allergy issues you are full of shit. Cupcakes and nothing more for a recent party my kid attended. Nothing for adults. Ridiculous. Absolutely ridiculous and in poor taste.

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Big deal. Learn to have snack for your child on hand at most times: fruit, etc. First world problems. Someone else is upset she wasn't invited. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheap people have parties that do not include food. Sorry, if you cry you cannot afford to feed people of give some lame ass excuse of allergy issues you are full of shit. Cupcakes and nothing more for a recent party my kid attended. Nothing for adults. Ridiculous. Absolutely ridiculous and in poor taste.

We just have different definitions of food and drink, I guess. For an afternoon party, cake and punch IS the food and drink. Those are perfectly acceptable "refreshments." Hospitality requires food and drinks, I agree, but that does have to include pizza (?) at a non-mealtime. Seems weird everyone is hung up on there being pizza provided, specifically, or the hosts are jackasses. FWIW, parties in my childhood invariably had sloppy joes if they had food.