So angry at my mother I could just explode

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Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone being so mean to the OP? I would be livid. It's not okay to leave a baby in her crib alone screaming for four hours. OP, I'm sorry.

OP doesn't know what happened.

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OP, go visit some social workers or perhaps call CPS if you need clarification on what so neglectful is.

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Are you sure they did not have a tough night and both were back in bed for a nap?

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Anonymous wrote:Why on earth was your kid sleeping at your mom's to begin with?

Why would this matter. OP, glad everyone is ok. Your child will be fine. Please dont blame your mom. Limit the time your daughter is with her until she is off her medication,

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OP, it sounds like something is going on medically with your mom (a prescription drug shouldn't have knocked her out that much). I'd actually be more concerned than angry.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone being so mean to the OP? I would be livid. It's not okay to leave a baby in her crib alone screaming for four hours. OP, I'm sorry.

OP doesn't know what happened.

She probably knows what happened better than the PPs do. Why would one of us know better?

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Sorry for your loss, OP.

At least your kid is ok. And now you know your mom's limitations. No more overnight babysitting.

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OP, I am sorry - it sounds like a terrible day all around. Hugs.

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OP your mom was seriously neglectful and just plain stupid and I'm really sorry about your miscarriage.

Who would take medication that makes you drowsy while watching a baby, and then close and lock your bedroom door to sleep? That is foolish.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter was sleeping at her house and my mom overslept, and did not set an alarm clock, and did not use a monitor or keep the doors open in her hallway. I found my daughter crying in her crib, hungry and wet, 4 hours after she wakes up every day. So, yeah. Short of physical injury I can't think of much worse. I want to cry just typing this.

So you have no idea if it really was 4 hrs? Maybe she was exhausted from playing with your mom? Maybe she happily played for awhile? Sorry but you are assuming a lot and sound a little crazy.

No, this was first thing in the morning. I put her to bed there last night, showed up at noon today to find her crying in the bed with my mom passed out in the other room. She wakes up at clockwork at 8:00 every morning. She was starving and wet and now she is scared to go back in a crib. She was screaming so loudly when my husband tried to put her pajamas on that I could hear her two floors away.

You sound ridiculous. Why are you leaving your kid overnight to begin with?

Because I had a miscarriage and had to have a D&C this morning and had to be at pre-op with my husband at 6:00 a.m. This was just not a

good day.

And btw, my mom does not deny what happened at all. She was disoriented and I had to bang on her (locked) bedroom door for minutes to wake her up and she asked what time it was. She just thinks it's my fault for reasons that make no sense, like I should have helped her set her alarm the night before.

Ok, I'm not posting any more about this, it boggles my mind that anyone could side with someone who would do something so neglectful.

I'm sorry op. Keep in mind you are probably also upset about the d and c, plus your hormones are going berserk.

Hear your mom out, and try to figure out why she is taking a drug that is so strong. Doesn't sound good.

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OP, I'm really sorry for your loss. You must have had a horrid day. It would have been horrid enough without finding your child wet, hungry and screaming. She is not damaged for life and you will all recover. But I wouldn't blame you for having some distance from your mom for a bit. And hopefully your DH can cover at home while you recuperate. I was a train wreck after my D&C and didn't even have a toddler to take care of. I hope you can get some rest.

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Anonymous wrote:OP your mom was seriously neglectful and just plain stupid and I'm really sorry about your miscarriage.

Who would take medication that makes you drowsy while watching a baby, and then close and lock your bedroom door to sleep? That is foolish.

+1. I'm so sorry for your loss. It must have been terrible to realize that your little one felt abandoned for 4 hours. Maybe your mother isn't showing remorse bc she's under the influence if her medication? It clearly slowed her thinking (not leaving doors open, etc).

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Anonymous wrote:You think that caused emotional damage?

Obviously her daughter is scarred for life. OP should report her mother to CPS right away (like she would have done with a babysitter). Her mother deserves to be locked up for possibly, maybe leaving her daughter in a crib for 4 hrs screaming, wet, and hungry.

Op said in her original post "emotional damage at least temporarily." And even if it did not cause on the baby, it certainly caused on OP. I remember when my preschooler was an infant and I was so emotional. I would have cried if I had found my baby crying, hungry and wet after hours of essentially asking for help.

OP, I do think you need to forgive your mother but make sure she know how upset you are and how shitty this was. Right now, try to keep a distance so you can calm down.

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It is crazy that who ever is taking care of a child would go to sleep in a locked room separate from the child and not wake up for hours despite the screaming.

I would be upset too, OP. But your child will not be traumatized by this. Don't worry.

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Op I sympathize. My dh and I argued over this scenario. His mom takes ambien and alcohol every night. She begs to watch the kids but I've seen her and she is in no condition while under the influence. Focus on helping your mom, but yeah she just lost a privledge