So angry at my mother I could just explode

[Anonymous]

OP, really...I don't think the PJs connection would really happen that way. Maybe she just didn't want to go to bed.

[Anonymous]

Yes, that's bad. I wouldn't let her watch your baby anymore. I'm really sorry that happened and I'm sorry that you can't count on your mom.

Your daughter will be okay though. She will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your mom drink?

No, but she was taking (legally prescribed) prescription medication that causes drowsiness. I did not know that she was taking it until after the fact.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter was sleeping at her house and my mom overslept, and did not set an alarm clock, and did not use a monitor or keep the doors open in her hallway. I found my daughter crying in her crib, hungry and wet, 4 hours after she wakes up every day. So, yeah. Short of physical injury I can't think of much worse. I want to cry just typing this.

So you have no idea if it really was 4 hrs? Maybe she was exhausted from playing with your mom? Maybe she happily played for awhile? Sorry but you are assuming a lot and sound a little crazy.

No, this was first thing in the morning. I put her to bed there last night, showed up at noon today to find her crying in the bed with my mom passed out in the other room. She wakes up at clockwork at 8:00 every morning. She was starving and wet and now she is scared to go back in a crib. She was screaming so loudly when my husband tried to put her pajamas on that I could hear her two floors away.

You sound ridiculous. Why are you leaving your kid overnight to begin with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was sleeping at her house and my mom overslept, and did not set an alarm clock, and did not use a monitor or keep the doors open in her hallway. I found my daughter crying in her crib, hungry and wet, 4 hours after she wakes up every day. So, yeah. Short of physical injury I can't think of much worse. I want to cry just typing this.

So you have no idea if it really was 4 hrs? Maybe she was exhausted from playing with your mom? Maybe she happily played for awhile? Sorry but you are assuming a lot and sound a little crazy.

No, this was first thing in the morning. I put her to bed there last night, showed up at noon today to find her crying in the bed with my mom passed out in the other room. She wakes up at clockwork at 8:00 every morning. She was starving and wet and now she is scared to go back in a crib. She was screaming so loudly when my husband tried to put her pajamas on that I could hear her two floors away.

And what was your mother trying to tell you?

[Anonymous]

OP, it's not a good thing -- but your child will be fine. Go to bed. Get a good night's rest and then address it when you aren't so angry. Your mom probably showed "zero" remorse because she was afraid of the way you were acting and she got defensive. Don't make any sweeping decisions for a few days. Your mom may have to earn your trust back, but give her a chance (smaller time frames alone with child). Just relax a little. Life is tough. Children are tough, too.

[Anonymous]

I had rough childhood, and when I read "EXTRAORDINARILY neglectful" I had a completely different impression.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter was sleeping at her house and my mom overslept, and did not set an alarm clock, and did not use a monitor or keep the doors open in her hallway. I found my daughter crying in her crib, hungry and wet, 4 hours after she wakes up every day. So, yeah. Short of physical injury I can't think of much worse. I want to cry just typing this.

So you have no idea if it really was 4 hrs? Maybe she was exhausted from playing with your mom? Maybe she happily played for awhile? Sorry but you are assuming a lot and sound a little crazy.

No, this was first thing in the morning. I put her to bed there last night, showed up at noon today to find her crying in the bed with my mom passed out in the other room. She wakes up at clockwork at 8:00 every morning. She was starving and wet and now she is scared to go back in a crib. She was screaming so loudly when my husband tried to put her pajamas on that I could hear her two floors away.

That sucks, OP, How does you mother sleep until noon anyhow?

Anyway. Take comfort that DD will get over it- because she will. It is unfortunate that it happened, but honestly, she'll be fine. You, however, need a drink.

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone being so mean to the OP? I would be livid. It's not okay to leave a baby in her crib alone screaming for four hours. OP, I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

I'd be more worried that my mother was sleeping that long and couldn't hear DD. Prescription or not (I take meds that cause drowsiness and I still wake up when I hear DS getting up in the AM) being able to sleep that late and through a kid screaming would worry me.

Also yeah, this wasn't extraordinarily neglectful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was sleeping at her house and my mom overslept, and did not set an alarm clock, and did not use a monitor or keep the doors open in her hallway. I found my daughter crying in her crib, hungry and wet, 4 hours after she wakes up every day. So, yeah. Short of physical injury I can't think of much worse. I want to cry just typing this.

So you have no idea if it really was 4 hrs? Maybe she was exhausted from playing with your mom? Maybe she happily played for awhile? Sorry but you are assuming a lot and sound a little crazy.

No, this was first thing in the morning. I put her to bed there last night, showed up at noon today to find her crying in the bed with my mom passed out in the other room. She wakes up at clockwork at 8:00 every morning. She was starving and wet and now she is scared to go back in a crib. She was screaming so loudly when my husband tried to put her pajamas on that I could hear her two floors away.

And what was your mother trying to tell you?

Probably that she had just put the kid down for a nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was sleeping at her house and my mom overslept, and did not set an alarm clock, and did not use a monitor or keep the doors open in her hallway. I found my daughter crying in her crib, hungry and wet, 4 hours after she wakes up every day. So, yeah. Short of physical injury I can't think of much worse. I want to cry just typing this.

OK, I was totally agreeing with all the other PPs before but since you posted this -- I agree, it is freakin' outrageous. This is not a small thing. I'm sure your DD has a serious rash too. It's really hard to understand anyone doing this when they are taking care of a child. I though when you said it was unintentional it was something minor, but I don't think this is minor -- it's basically saying she was off the clock when you were assuming someone was taking care of your child. So yeah, that's really terrible. I would be beyond upset if this had happened to my DC.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth was your kid sleeping at your mom's to begin with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was sleeping at her house and my mom overslept, and did not set an alarm clock, and did not use a monitor or keep the doors open in her hallway. I found my daughter crying in her crib, hungry and wet, 4 hours after she wakes up every day. So, yeah. Short of physical injury I can't think of much worse. I want to cry just typing this.

So you have no idea if it really was 4 hrs? Maybe she was exhausted from playing with your mom? Maybe she happily played for awhile? Sorry but you are assuming a lot and sound a little crazy.

No, this was first thing in the morning. I put her to bed there last night, showed up at noon today to find her crying in the bed with my mom passed out in the other room. She wakes up at clockwork at 8:00 every morning. She was starving and wet and now she is scared to go back in a crib. She was screaming so loudly when my husband tried to put her pajamas on that I could hear her two floors away.

You sound ridiculous. Why are you leaving your kid overnight to begin with?

Because I had a miscarriage and had to have a D&C this morning and had to be at pre-op with my husband at 6:00 a.m. This was just not a good day.

And btw, my mom does not deny what happened at all. She was disoriented and I had to bang on her (locked) bedroom door for minutes to wake her up and she asked what time it was. She just thinks it's my fault for reasons that make no sense, like I should have helped her set her alarm the night before.

Ok, I'm not posting any more about this, it boggles my mind that anyone could side with someone who would do something so neglectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone being so mean to the OP? I would be livid. It's not okay to leave a baby in her crib alone screaming for four hours. OP, I'm sorry.

Because OP has absolutely zero proof that this really happened. Sounds like her mom was trying to explain what really happened and OP refused to listen.