NP. Yes, actually. I’m mama and my wife is mom. If we split up it’s quite likely our kids would end up with four moms. Nothing wrong with a child have two moms. Or two dad’s in OP’s case. The ex-husband is way out of line and making his daughter feel terrible for the situation is the worst part. |
Mom should have stopped it when it started and the child was probably doing it to please her. Its inappropriate. Dad is asking for it to stop, he is Dad and it should be respected. Of course, it's one tactic to replace dad. It's parental alienation at its finest. Dad has every right to be upset. As a Mom are you ok with your child calling someone else Mom? |
Your situation is different and you are married or together. This child doesn't have two Dad's. This child has one mom and one dad and a step-parent. That is not even close and you and Mom are way out of line. This child doesn't have two moms or dad's. This is not a lesbian or gay household. This is a divorce situation with two parents, and those roles should be respected. |
I see nothing wrong with the daughter calling her dad, Dad, and her stepdad, Papa G. I think her dad is being ridiculously insecure and I'm sorry that the daughter feels bad about calling her stepdad Papa G. It seems like a big kerfuffle over very little.
The woman who owns the feed store near me is called Mom, by everyone. My grandmother was called Grandma by nearly everyone. My little horse riding students often called me Mama J. And I can't begin to count all the Aunties who aren't really aunts. Kids can't have too many people who love them. |
I think you should extend your ex a little bit of grace. Maybe it was a big surprise, triggered him, and he overreacted. I would be upset if my kid called someone else momma, I'd try not to react and care, but, sometimes we don't behave in optimal ways.
I would tell your daughter that she can call Poppa G, poppa g at your house, but that she should respect what her father wants in his house. I assume that he overreacts about a lot of things. Your kid will learn to be more careful with her words around him. |
Dad can dictate speech at his own house on his own time. At mom’s house, not a chance. It’s called being divorced. |
He was looking through texts. The daughter didn’t disrespect anyone. Dad needs to realize that having a good relationship with all parental figures (even love) is more important than his ego. |
You sound psychotic honestly. Yes, I'd be fine with my child calling someone else mama G. Yes, I'd be fine if my child calls her future MIL "mom" or some variation. Why are you so insecure and stuck on these labels? |
Your writing is quite recognizable as is your improper use of Dad (with a capital D). It’s dad, for future reference. Perhaps spend a little more time being a good dad instead posting on DCUM. It’s quite obvious that you have a lot of resentment towards moms and women in general. |
I wouldn’t love my kids calling someone else Mama G, but if the woman had helped raise them since they were little, I wouldn’t make a big deal out it. It’s far better for kids to get along with stepparents than the alternative. This is not a case of parental alienation. Nothing happened to the child’s relationship with her father. She didn’t stop calling him Dad, doesn’t spend less time with him, isn’t giving him attitude, isn’t saying anything negative about him, isn’t hearing anything negative about him from mom and stepdad. You’re blowing this way out of proportion. |
Sure, let's teach girls to cower to angry insecure men who claim to love them, that's a great life lesson |
It can be respected in his house on his time. He has no say over things like this at mom’s house. |
Exactly!! Very immature and short sighted of dad. |
Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time. |
This is extremely disrespectful to say its ok, when Dad ask Mom to stop it. |