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Who gets to decide what DD/DS call the step parent?
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Anonymous
I think it is entirely appropriate to call someone in a parental role a version of a parental name. Hence, step-FATHER. |
Anonymous
A slip is different than mom encouraging the kids to call her husband Dad, when there is a dad involved. |
Anonymous
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My mom remarried twice. The first guy I only ever called by his first name. My step dad now (and for the last 25 years) and I have a very special relationship. I started calling him Poppa before they got married. It in no way threatened my dad, thankfully, and it didn’t impact my relationship with my dad either. I can love more than one (or two) parents, just like I can love more than one child.
I didn’t live with him growing up though. I was 18 when they started dating. Maybe it would have been different if I was 15. I know a lot of people who call their in laws mom and dad. I think that’s pretty weird, personally, but it seems to work for them. |
Anonymous
They are caretakers but they are not the parents. |
Anonymous
| Too much drama. You need to stay out of it. |
Anonymous
Correct. They are step-parents and play a huge role in raising the kids whether you want to admit it or not. OP's daughter decided that it was a parental role and started calling him papa and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. |
Anonymous
No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess. |
Anonymous
He is not her Dad. This child has a Dad and that should be respected. Mom and stepdad absolutely are wrong. Is OP ok with daughter calling someone else MOM? |
Anonymous
The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself. |
Anonymous
She is not calling him DAD and even if she was so what? If that's what she considers him. Perpahs be a better DAD so you won't feel so threatened. OP or her daughter did NOTHING WRONG. |
Anonymous
No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child. |
Anonymous
It's the same thing and yes, it's wrong. Dad ask it to stop and his wishes should be respected. |
Anonymous
Right. What I understood from OP is that her daughter calls her father "dad" and her stepfather "Papa Greg" or whatever G stands for. Dad and Papa are two different things, so that should be just fine. |
Anonymous
I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him. |
Anonymous
Stepdad has lived with this child at least since she was around 8 years old. Mom and stepdad didn’t instruct or encourage her to call him Papa G. She did that on her own. As long as “Papa” isn’t what she calls her father, he needs to get over himself. He has made her feel like she did something bad or wrong, angered him, and caused strife for her mom and stepdad. Her nickname “Papa G” apparently is a nod to stepdad’s role in her life and the first name she’s always called him. Her dad never even heard her call stepdad Papa G; he blew up over seeing the nickname in her phone contacts list. No one is replacing her dad. She’s not confused about who her father is. |