Troll working overtime tonight lol |
A cult can be 2 people, in a terrible relationship. The parellels are endless |
I agree. I think it happens more often than I think. |
Happened to a couple I know. She left after turning 40. |
I think everyone who knows they want kids and won’t be ok without kids should have a kid (or several) before 30. Don’t stay married for years without TTC. If your husband is infertile then divorce and try with someone else. Women need to look out for themselves.
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How old are you? Maybe you can freeze eggs (although there is no guarantee that would work either) or just run now if you are still young. My AH husband and family stole my fertility - arranged marriage in early 20s. Husband is asexual, couldn't divorce due to cultural beliefs and parental pressure even though we are not compatible in anything. Tried IVFs in early 30's but found out my egg supply diminished early and my only option was egg donor. So I lost the chance to have my own biological kid because I stayed in a shitty sexless marriage. I've become a very bitter person since I was raised to stay and suffocate and that family honor was important. Now I am always depressed. Still married to a guy I hate. I hope hearing this would help you. |
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OP, if you are that woman who’s 35 and whose DH doesn’t want kids, I suggest you leave now. Have a kid on your own before it’s too late. |
Hello, you just want to blame women. But you are a woman. So therefore, you are a self-hating woman, and not a woman from whom to take any advice at all. |
I suggest use inseminations quietly and get pregnant while married. Particular if he has poor count himself. Then you either tell the husband post the fact, or never tell (oops forgot a pill). If he exits the marriage so be it, you still would have ended up divorced and childless in middle age.
He broke the agreement or not capable of giving you a child - his problem. He broke the christian marriage promise, pay him back with same. It's rightful and natural for women to want having babies |
Dang, you’re one angry dude. Things are different for women 40s/50s than 20s. All the things you’re afraid of in your 20s, you stop giving AF about in your 40s. I never would have divorced in my 20s but had zero problem when I was 33 and sick of dealing with his crap. I definitely felt a lot of pressure from everyone not to divorce. Friends, family, community, church. Not sure what sex has to do with anything. I quite like sex and don’t have a dead bedroom. But if a guy said “hey this lack of sex isn’t working for me and we need to fix it or I’m out”, I understand that. I said that myself to a boyfriend who wasn’t interest in sex (and then dumped him when things didn’t change). I didn’t force him to do anything. Told him I wanted kids and if he wouldn’t do it now, I didn’t have time to wait around because I was 35. I hit the gym, spruced up my wardrobe, and spent more time out where I’d meet men. Told H I was off BC and he could still have sex with me if he wanted, but I wouldn’t get an abortion. He continued to have sex with me and would pull out, but guess he just wasn’t fast enough 🤷♀️ |
No one is stealing anyone sfertility. If a man shows you who he really is, believe him. It’s truly that simple. |
Your fertility is declining no matter what you do. You can stay married and hope he changes his mind before it’s too late. Alternatively, you can divorce him now and date with purpose until you find a man who wants a family on the same timeline that you do. I wouldn’t do as some other posters have suggested and “accidentally” get pregnant because you may not have the best parenting partner if you go that route. |
Thank you!. I'm so tired of the women on here never taking responsibility for their choices. |
“Money”? Nope. |