Men who steal women’s fertility

[Anonymous]

Women file for divorce 80% of the time. It is unlikely that a man simply divorces his wife for a younger woman.

Its a convenient mischaracterization to duck responsibility by blaming men for a woman's decline in fertility.

The typical woman spends her 20's exploring and dating around and then suddenly wants to find a "good man" in her early 30.
Many times, when a woman does find that "good man" he is not really her hearts desire but merely what she settled for because all her friends were getting married and she was feeling pressure to marry and have babies also.

She should have been figuring out husband and family in her early 20s.
Waiting until the last minute is unlikely to lead to good results.

[Anonymous]

I plan to proactively teach my sons that this is indecent (whether dating or married). I have a friend in our circle (mid-late 30s) who only dates 20 somethings. I think he got some flack as we got older and the gap windened but I respect that he's not doing this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Jennifer Anniston story reminds me of this. So many times a man wastes a woman’s time only to divorce or leave her in her 30s and childless. While the man goes on to marry and have children the woman is left robbed of her fertile and out of time to have kids of her own.

This is criminal!

No it is no criminal. No one forced you to be with him. You picked him and stayed with him. It is not his fault. It is your fault.

[Anonymous]

I actually agree it is reprehensible. I was married in my 20s. He left at 29. I actually met my 2nd husband when I was 30 and had kids in my mid-30s. I realize part of it was luck/right time and place. This is something I will speak frankly about with my children when they are in their 20s.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it is a terrible thing men do to women, but Jennifer Aniston is a bad example. If anything, it was the other way around. Brad wanted kids and she did not. In fact, he wanted them so badly that he went for a woman who had already adopted a child when they met.
If Aniston had wanted kids, she could have also easily frozen her eggs or embryos. All the stars in Hollywood do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happened to me.

Well I’m in a marriage where I haven’t had a child yet due to lack of interest and cooperation from my husband. Now I’m too terrified to leave as bow can I divorce, fall in love and have a baby with rapidly declining fertility?

At some point women should do what works for them and stop constantly being the ones to compromise. If you want a kid, get off birth control and have an "accident."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Jennifer Anniston story reminds me of this. So many times a man wastes a woman’s time only to divorce or leave her in her 30s and childless. While the man goes on to marry and have children the woman is left robbed of her fertile and out of time to have kids of her own.

This is criminal!

I think that JA is full of herself. If she wanted kids badly enough, she could have easily used an egg donor or adopted. She thinks her genes are all that and the kids need to be hers biologically; well that's how you end up with no kids. Adopted children were good enough for Angelina Jolie, a much, MUCH better looking woman and actress than Aniston.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happened to me.

Well I’m in a marriage where I haven’t had a child yet due to lack of interest and cooperation from my husband. Now I’m too terrified to leave as bow can I divorce, fall in love and have a baby with rapidly declining fertility?

At some point women should do what works for them and stop constantly being the ones to compromise. If you want a kid, get off birth control and have an "accident."

I don't think you should do that, but you can certainly get off birth control and tell him. You don't need to actively prevent pregnancy if you want to have a baby. He still has the option to not have sex with you, which will at least give you the answer you need.

[Anonymous]

I think the problem is that there’s a lot of stigma around divorced women. We’re pressured to stick to our vows, even after a man changed the terms of the agreement and avoids having kids.

Plus, it feels daunting. Divorce, dating, and remarriage can take years. So it feels easier to stick it out another couple years in hopes he’ll come around.

I had to issue an ultimatum, and he said yes to kids but kept hemming and hawing. So I made it clear I was getting ready to date again and went off BC. Ended up pregnant, but it’s not a route I’d do again. I would just divorce the minute I could tell he was trying to back out.

[Anonymous]

I've been watching The Vow on HBO and following along with other podcasts surrounding the NXIVM trial. The leader Keith Raniere told dozens of women that he would have a baby with them, and then he would renege and tell them they'd blown their chance because of an "ethical breach" like vaguely flirting with another man. And now these women are too old to have babies. These women were brainwashed and abused and I think it's safe to say he stole their fertility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women file for divorce 80% of the time. It is unlikely that a man simply divorces his wife for a younger woman.

Its a convenient mischaracterization to duck responsibility by blaming men for a woman's decline in fertility.

The typical woman spends her 20's exploring and dating around and then suddenly wants to find a "good man" in her early 30.
Many times, when a woman does find that "good man" he is not really her hearts desire but merely what she settled for because all her friends were getting married and she was feeling pressure to marry and have babies also.

She should have been figuring out husband and family in her early 20s.
Waiting until the last minute is unlikely to lead to good results.

Rushing it is unlikely to end in good results. The women divorcing are often the young 20s who did what you suggest. Almost none of my high school non-professional friends are still married to their first spouse, but nearly all of them had kids (fertility!! Yay!!) Which means all those kids got divorced parents, which is a a trauma.

[Anonymous]

Get out of here with this garbage. A woman can leave a man at any time, for any reason, or even for no reason at all. You can even leave him at any time if you're married to him right now. And in that case, when you leave, he has to pay you money! It is literally impossible for him to steal your time or your fertility because you have total control over it.

If you can't get pregnant then that's on you. If he is refusing to make you pregnant - there's the door right there. Walk out now, he can't stop you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it is a terrible thing men do to women

Stop playing the passive victim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women file for divorce 80% of the time. It is unlikely that a man simply divorces his wife for a younger woman.

Its a convenient mischaracterization to duck responsibility by blaming men for a woman's decline in fertility.

The typical woman spends her 20's exploring and dating around and then suddenly wants to find a "good man" in her early 30.
Many times, when a woman does find that "good man" he is not really her hearts desire but merely what she settled for because all her friends were getting married and she was feeling pressure to marry and have babies also.

She should have been figuring out husband and family in her early 20s.
Waiting until the last minute is unlikely to lead to good results.

Women divorce 80% of the time because men are abusive, low-earning, useless, and/or disappointing, not just cause they want a bigger D. This is a consequence of women having rights, this is true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been watching The Vow on HBO and following along with other podcasts surrounding the NXIVM trial. The leader Keith Raniere told dozens of women that he would have a baby with them, and then he would renege and tell them they'd blown their chance because of an "ethical breach" like vaguely flirting with another man. And now these women are too old to have babies. These women were brainwashed and abused and I think it's safe to say he stole their fertility.

Play stupid games with some cult leader weirdo, win stupid prizes.