Actually, it's the opposite. Someone who is unimaginative or simple needs to be told why someone doesn't work. Someone with an imagination or half a brain can think of reasons why someone wouldn't work all on their own. |
A dingo ate your baby |
It's amazing how all the coddled, failure to launch losers clamor to get on these threads to try shame the successful, normal launched sibling. Every. Damn. Time. And no, I'm not OP. |
Thing is, they’re probably all products of family dysfunction, including the person you deem a “loser”. He may never have been told what’s “wrong” with him, or his parents may never have sought adequate help, so they could be caregivers and saviors to him. This seems even more likely given how early OP seems to have been the “responsible one”, and her relationship with her brother has always been juxtaposed with this. It’s actually not that unusual of a family dynamic, unfortunately, but it’s certainly not a healthy one. It’s easy to pin in on the brother, but he is also a product of his environment. I had a coworker once with VERY severe issues, who had no clue why he could not fit in with regular people. His sister loathed him with every fiber of her being, and I don’t blame her. He was just told he had a few learning disabilities- it was NOT the case. It would take anyone 30 seconds meeting him to know that. He is truly a wonderful person, but his parents really failed him in telling him he was “normal” when he had profound issues that could have been coached to allow him a better life. |
Frankly op needs to not be so triggered and emotional if she wants to convince anyone she is well adjusted and winning. |
That baby is breathtaking. |
We all carry shit from family trauma. As an adult you are responsible for healing your junk |
Exactly. And if that’s the case heal your junk and don’t delete and extract your parents resources. |
OMG, OP is not triggered and emotional. She is rightfully frustrated. Some of you are so delusional. Her parents enable her adult brother to act like a child and then demand an apology for a 7 year old asking a normal question of an uncle? Utter BS. The uncle SHOULD feel some shame. Shame has its place in helping people to change bad behavior. OP owes no one any apologies here. The OP did nothing wrong, her kid did nothing wrong. There are a lot of dysfunctional people on this thread projecting their own issues onto OP. |
Not if they are seven. People taking issue with a seven year old asking about someone's work are strange. Of course seven year old's ask about these things. And might be temporarily confused if they see a grown man who does nothing all day. |
Sure. I guess this kid has never seen a man on the weekend. People saying this really don’t know 7 yr olds. |
The kid knows it’s the weekend and no one works then duh. It seems there’s some useless, triggered people on here who are so useless, even a 7 year old can make them feel bad about themselves. |
It's the SAHM all day insta posting crowd that needs to champion anyone who doesn't have a job |
My kid doesn’t know that no one works on the weekend, “duh”, because many people do. You sound narrow and entitled and possibly not employed. Even people with weekday jobs sometimes find themselves having to fill in, in some capacity, on weekends. And FWIW, “duh” is not really much of an argument or position. Blaming people for being “triggered” is also pretty basic and not really based in anything other than Gen Z TikTok. I’m guessing it’s the other people in the house who bring more to the table for intelligence, culture, and money. |
OP, what is the plan for your brother once your parents are gone? Focusing on your kid is a way to try to avoid the big issues, but that's not in your interest.
Bro may inherit the estate and could still end up homeless. What is the plan? In that convo, I'd also ask about diagnoses, straight up. |