Sad about no longer being attracted to DW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some women's bodies don't bounce back from childbearing as some other women's bodies do.

Most regular working women don't have the multiple hours per day to put into fitness routines and cooking super clean healthy meals, even if her children and husband would eat that food if she did.

How much of the housekeeping and life management are you doing, OP? How much of the childcare and shuttling to activities are you doing? How much shopping and cooking? How much time are you giving her to sleep, to engage in fitness, etc?

There are seasons to life, OP. Sounds like you have most of what makes a very good marriage and your wife's body paid the price to give you two beautiful children.

So yeah, you can be sad that youth has passed you by and you and your wife aren't hotties anymore, but please don't expect an outpouring of sympathy.

Y'all stay making excuses for women letting themselves go. GET IT TOGETHER. Nobody wants a sloppy, disheveled partner. Get outta here with that.

[Anonymous]

Not attracted to me? DGAF. See ya! Don't let the door hit you on the way out.

Grow a spine people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's all in your head. You've ruined your sex life based on your inability to control your brain.

Nah, she got washtub she wanted and now puts in no effort. She’s your roommate. Demote her to that.

[Anonymous]

Get a trainer/nutritionist for you both so it doesn't seem so pointed. Also seeing you get hotter may inspire her also.

[Anonymous]

This thread is wild. If it were opposite genders, lots of us would lay down the law our husbands. I don’t need Dh to have a perfect body, but I’m not interested in a dad bod or pot belly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some women's bodies don't bounce back from childbearing as some other women's bodies do.

Most regular working women don't have the multiple hours per day to put into fitness routines and cooking super clean healthy meals, even if her children and husband would eat that food if she did.

How much of the housekeeping and life management are you doing, OP? How much of the childcare and shuttling to activities are you doing? How much shopping and cooking? How much time are you giving her to sleep, to engage in fitness, etc?

There are seasons to life, OP. Sounds like you have most of what makes a very good marriage and your wife's body paid the price to give you two beautiful children.

So yeah, you can be sad that youth has passed you by and you and your wife aren't hotties anymore, but please don't expect an outpouring of sympathy.

I know you're trying to be empathetic, but I honestly think some people just don't want to be healthy. It takes 2 minutes to open a can of tuna and dump it on a bed of kale.

It doesn't matter if you are fat or skinny, when you are old your skin is less attractive, you still have an unattractive stomach it's not pretty, your face has changed.

Being overweight does not make you any less attractive than basic age. At least to people who are superficial.

I'm not dumpling tuna on kale to still be old and unattractive. Bleck, disgusting.

No one is pretending that a 55yo is at their "peak." But to write that aging automatically makes you unattractive is just pathetic and defeatist.

I’m sorry if the truth hurts, but the reality is no matter how thin and in shape you are, you are wrinkly, have cellulite and stretch marks.

But sure pretend skinny is prettier.

Okay you’re a 5 instead of a 4 congrats!

But my weekends are a 10 and your are a 4

You sound fat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some women's bodies don't bounce back from childbearing as some other women's bodies do.

Most regular working women don't have the multiple hours per day to put into fitness routines and cooking super clean healthy meals, even if her children and husband would eat that food if she did.

How much of the housekeeping and life management are you doing, OP? How much of the childcare and shuttling to activities are you doing? How much shopping and cooking? How much time are you giving her to sleep, to engage in fitness, etc?

There are seasons to life, OP. Sounds like you have most of what makes a very good marriage and your wife's body paid the price to give you two beautiful children.

So yeah, you can be sad that youth has passed you by and you and your wife aren't hotties anymore, but please don't expect an outpouring of sympathy.

I know you're trying to be empathetic, but I honestly think some people just don't want to be healthy. It takes 2 minutes to open a can of tuna and dump it on a bed of kale.

It doesn't matter if you are fat or skinny, when you are old your skin is less attractive, you still have an unattractive stomach it's not pretty, your face has changed.

Being overweight does not make you any less attractive than basic age. At least to people who are superficial.

I'm not dumpling tuna on kale to still be old and unattractive. Bleck, disgusting.

No one is pretending that a 55yo is at their "peak." But to write that aging automatically makes you unattractive is just pathetic and defeatist.

I’m sorry if the truth hurts, but the reality is no matter how thin and in shape you are, you are wrinkly, have cellulite and stretch marks.

But sure pretend skinny is prettier.

Okay you’re a 5 instead of a 4 congrats!

But my weekends are a 10 and your are a 4

You sound fat.

And you sound like a garden gnome.

[Anonymous]

This was posted nearly verbatim over the past few months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP would never admit to acting like a manchild and thereby extinguishing his attractiveness to his wife, and her resulting lack of concern about the condition of her body because she's putting her energy where it might be appreciated - into her kids and her work.

That's the typical pattern I've observed in marriage of family, friends, colleagues and clients - and here on the DCUM board as well as other places on the internet.

Thank you sincerely, OP, for my daily dose of THANK GODDESSES I NEVER MARRIED.

The bolded is the very definition of projecting.

"Extinguishing his attractiveness to his wife"?? 🤣

You seem to know everything about everyone's marriage, but then you tell us your not even married, lol.

You're so full of it. I can't even take what you wrote seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was posted nearly verbatim over the past few months.

There have been a few of those!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Fat people always talk about not having time to exercise.

Everyone can find a half hour or they’re lying about how they spend their time. (A half hour is not great, but something is always better than nothing).

More importantly, after middle age, diet is the primary factor for normal people who just want to look nice and aren’t striving to be an underwear model. Everyone has time to eat less.

There really isn't any point to this post besides shaming. He said she works out.

You cannot outrun the fork. You need to eat clean 95% of the time to lose weight.

+1 Realest post here. Honestly, I love working out - it gives me energy and makes me feel strong. Currently, I work out around 6 days per week. As far as body fat goes, it just doesn’t matter how much I work out. Body fat is at least 70% controlled by amount of calories, macros (protein/fats/carbs) and quality of food you eat.

All the working out gives you muscle tone and physical capacity which are often covered by fat. What (and how much) you eat determines how much fat is on your body.

Timing of food also matters. Calories eaten early in the day will get used, calories later in the day get stored as fat while you sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you stop watching porn then it will be easier for you to perform with your wife.

Guy here - this is 100% true. Abusing your dopamine receptors shows up when you need to perform in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is wild. If it were opposite genders, lots of us would lay down the law our husbands. I don’t need Dh to have a perfect body, but I’m not interested in a dad bod or pot belly.

I don’t know if this is just my circle or what..but with almost every couple I know, the woman is in better or equal shape than the DH. I don’t see many exceptions to this. I know tons of couples where wife is in shape, but husband has a beer belly, major dad bod. Do the women look like they are 25? No- but they exercise rarely and are not overweight. I barely know any genuinely overweight women at all, actually. UMC and mid 40s, for reference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is wild. If it were opposite genders, lots of us would lay down the law our husbands. I don’t need Dh to have a perfect body, but I’m not interested in a dad bod or pot belly.

I don’t know if this is just my circle or what..but with almost every couple I know, the woman is in better or equal shape than the DH. I don’t see many exceptions to this. I know tons of couples where wife is in shape, but husband has a beer belly, major dad bod. Do the women look like they are 25? No- but they exercise rarely and are not overweight. I barely know any genuinely overweight women at all, actually. UMC and mid 40s, for reference.

Oops- Exercise regularly…not rarely.

[Anonymous]

I don’t cry for you schmuck.