Acknowledging differences is fine. I actually think that improves your experience when living abroad. If you go into knowing that things will be different. You either end up loving the differences or hating them. The problems come when many people ( I notice this mostly with Americans) move abroad with the idea that it's going to be so much better than home because they are essentially European anyway. Not realizing their idea of European is entirely constructed on novels, movies and opinion pieces. Or they are like you and think American is the standard everyon needs to meet |
In India and even some ME countries - and when one sees it often enough I found myself gradually changing my own approach and doing the same thing but I'd invariably ask/tell the people in front I was doing so since I had only one or two items and they seemed perfectly fine with it. Keep in mind that there are no express lanes for those with just a minimal number of items. BTW, the phrase in bold above should read "several countries in three continents" |
+1 I notice that when I travel there. But I wonder if they are disparaging with people in general. Their cultures and governments have evolved differently than the Americans. Their people used to be grouped into different social classes. |
Yes, but since I'm married to a European, I hear all the things they say first hand. I used to adore Europe. Even got my masters in European studies. After hearing the unvarnished truth of what they think of our alliance and "friendship," I actually have a lot of sympathy for Trump's stance toward Europe. They use us, it's a one sided friendship, and maintaining costs money we could use on thing like universal health care. The only country with an understanding of reciprocity, and that's a worthy partner over there, is France (not Germany or the U.K.). |
God I miss London. |
Anyone else following what happened over the weekend in my favorite Spanish city, Barcelona??
Police dragged innocent people by the hair out of polling places; voters were intentionally thrown down stairs by police. This has really changed my view of Europe (admittedly, I don't live there. But I can't imagine any excuse for what the authorities there did). I thought police brutality was only a U.S. thing. |
Err....no. Police brutality is far more common in most countries than not. Just about the entire non-western world has a police force that will be brutal when it needs to. And as you've seen in Spain, even in western countries. The US police is much, much, much better than 95% of the world's police forces. |
See, these are exactly the kind of ignorant posters who say things like "As an American I am ashamed of being an American." I remember when I was living in a foreign country. An American celeb came over and was on the news talking about how much "Americans need to learn from you, you don't have any racism here". Literally the people I met there were the most blatantly racist people I'd met in my life and didn't care who knew it. But if you don't know s*** about the country you're talking about it's easy to pretend everything's rosy and America is the only place with problems. Such a provincial, absurd claim. |
I can agree with this. I've lived in France and I think they are brutally honest with most people and disparaging to people in general- like everyone, especially anyone who isn't French. But they have genuine affection and respect for the US- real enthusiasm for America and her customs. But, as I said, their general style of communication is very blunt so I think sometimes Americans misinterpret that as "we don't like America"- and the French would prefer for that misunderstanding to happen than for them to appear to be sucking up to people, which they would view as deeply uncool no matter the recipient. On the other hand, the British can come off as very polite and friendly to Americans but underneath it there is a real, deep layer of contempt. I think many Brits would be quite happy if America was wiped off the face of the earth and they could immediately go back to being the main English-speaking superpower. The dislike actually runs super deep- but Americans are plain spoken so we take their words at their face value and don't try to look deeper. So the fake smile and sarcastic double-edged compliment gets brushed over. |
Our experiences are different. I’ve lived in France and the UK and of the two the French were far more anti-American than the British. They could be downright hostile, especially in Paris and I lived in Paris during the Iraq invasion! The British for the most part didn’t really care if you were Americans. There are a lot of Americans living in the UK and much fewer in France. Working class Britain has a strong affinity for American culture, always going to Florida and Disney World or Vegas. I will say that the French and Americans do have much in common. We are equally arrogant and equally nationalistic. The British are much more low key. |
I believe its OK to ask them why they don't move to the UK, as long as you ask the BLM thugs why they also don't consider moving elsewhere. Why live in a country you despise? |
Just to make sure I don't offend any of those hypersensitive American friends: by BLM thugs I mean the actual thugs who engaged in violence and helped discredit an otherwise worthwhile movement.
Anyone who doesn't like it here? Just move, British or not. |
+1! This has been my experience also. |
I am Indian born. Having lived in 4 different countries, I can definitely say Americans are the best. Endearing, warm and genuine people. This is the country and people I feel closest to. I'm not even interested in stepping foot in Europe after my personal experience |
Thank you! How lovely. You are one of us now |