As someone who has lived in several countries in three countries, it is absurd not to acknowledge that there are differences that Americans may find irksome and acknowledging these does not reflect bias or some attitude of superiority.
For example, without naming the countries, there are those where people are habitually late and not keeping time is viewed as the norm. Then there are differences in personal hygiene including how often one bathes and whether people use a bidet. There are a couple of Asian countries where running out of food when you invite guests is viewed as the height of poor hospitality. Then we have places where it is considered the norm to break a line at a grocery store and expect no one to object - usually when someone has one or two items and others in front have grocery carts with many more items. They don't even ask before doing so. Customer service in the US is not what it used to be but it is still head and shoulders above what one finds in most countries - there are countries where the very concept of customer service is alien to that culture. Recognizing these realities is not silly. It is also not silly to say that because of x,y or z, one would much rather live in the US than another country. |
What I find interesting is that Americans are very comfortable with criticizing others, but are very think skinned if anyone, including another American, says anything that is critical of Americans or America. I think we were more able before to be balanced and acknowledge that we too have shortcomings. I also don't think we were as quick to judge. I hope the pendulum swings back to where we allow people their flaws without being overly critical, and to where we can objectively acknowledge we aren't perfect, and that's ok. This extremely judgmental reaction to what we view as other people's flaws, and our unwillingness to be empathetic to differences, is currently destroying our country from within. I think anonymous boards have helped us to develop this very argumentative and unforgiving inner core, without even noticing it was happening. My colleagues and I were recently discussing that our country as a whole was more tolerant and live and let live in the 80s and 90s. I'm not sure how we unring the bell, but I sure hope we do. |
I disagree. I am often shocked at some of the comments Europeans will make about America and how quick they are to judge about things they often know little about. I would NEVER say something bad about someone's country. It's like insulting someone's home. The Americans I know are not the types who would travel abroad and make rude comments about the host's country. Whereas that seems very common for Europeans to do. It's like they hear this stuff frequently in the media and don't even recognize they are being rude. |
I am not talking about individual Americans, of course there are exceptions. Have you read this thread? Many judgmental Americans. I don't dispute whether Europeans are rude, I'm just saying I think Americans were kinder and more tolerant before, and I'm sad to see us lose that. Just like I say to my kids when they point out that "so and so does the same thing," I want better for us. We are capable of it and I hope we see that we're developing a less tolerant inner core as a whole (not every individual), and decide it's not the right direction. |
Are you cia or state dept?
Imo living abroad solo sucks unless you're in college, wealthy, model-tier gorgeous, or powerful. If you're just some schmuck living in a place with no friends, of course it's going to suck. I'll say living abroad with your family isn't so bad. My husband and I lived in Italy for 20 months -- he's an engineer. |
Where can you cut a line and no one will object? |
In general western Europeans and the British are very disparaging of Americans though they don't usually do it in their presence.
It is relentless and rarely do they have a good thing to say about them and this precedes Trump. |
I've lived in Italy solo and Italy is great! Italians are fantastic, vivacious, outgoing, friendly, emotive, etc. I actually think much of the Northeast is very Italian in personality, especially New York and New Jersey (unsurprisingly to people who know the demographics) so if you fit in there and like that kind of personality, you'll LOVE Italy and feel right at home. The cold and rude English are another issue entirely. |
NYC was infamous for being cold and indifferent and pushy. Boston for being cold and indifferent to outsiders. I don’t see any resemblance between Italy and the Northeast. |
Nope, New Yorkers and Northeasterners are known for being outgoing and direct. A LOT like Italy. |
x10000 Americans today think everything is about them. See most recent PP. LOL. |
Oh Lordy. Do NOT mention the northeast - or *especially* NYC on this board it makes the locals go ballistic. |
Maybe the Bostonians just don't like you. In which case, it is fair to assume you fit right in here. |
+1 We have British neighbors who take every opportunity to say disparaging things about the U.S. I would dearly love to tell them to just move back to the U.K. They'd be happier (I guess?) and we'd be happier. I can't imagine living in a foreign country and being that rude. |
DP here. I lived in the UK for 12 years and PP is spot-on. There is definitely a bit of insecurity/envy among the Brits. This explains why so many of them are rude. |