What has a lack of sex done to you?

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.

NP, I might put it this way: exercise is not really a need per se but we are all
aware that the human body and mental health are better with exercise.

Exercise doesnt bring mommy wounds and sti’s. Pleasing yourself brings the physiological release. And after many years, some people just prefer the company of friends (which is the most sustaining kind of love anyway, as studies are finding).

What is "mommy wounds"?

Imagine if this was everyone’s thought process. “I’m too afraid of Sti’s to ever have sex.”

Also just like the other commenter-what the heck is a mommy wound?

Men are so incredibly myopic and selfish. That's why there are so many out there who try to cajole their wives and girlfriends into having sex just days or weeks after pushing a freaking watermelon out of her vagina. :roll:

I’m so tired of this. As a woman-I wouldn’t just accept my husband saying he didn’t want to try solve his ED with medication. So why should a man accept if a woman says she is going through menopause/some other hormonal thing and that’s that? Without ever taking any steps to make it better? It’s so one sided and unfair. In a marriage you don’t just get to decide you are done with something without considering the other person-that’s simply not how a marriage works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had marriage problems for awhile and DH declined to have sex with me.

It made me insane. I was late 30s and couldn’t imagine that this was the end of my sex life. I cried a lot. I eventually engaged in an emotional affair but cut it off because I realized I would rather divorce my husband than lose my integrity. The other man made me feel alive again. My husband and I eventually worked things out. Years ago I would have been very judgmental of someone who committed adultery but having been through the experience I had I don’t judge anyone who makes a bad decision when they have that kind of lonely desperation. It makes you nuts.

I wrote this and I also just realized… the “bad period” made me fall out of love with my husband. Before, he was the only man in the world to me. After he rejected me for a number of years, that was no longer the case. After we reconciled, I still love him, but it is not the same. I can see myself moving on and living my life without him, and having a positive life too. It is sort of sad, to lose that, and I would warn anyone who feels depriving their spouse of sex is not a big deal. It could destroy their love for you.

I could have written this, except I did not cut the EA, the AP cut it off and moved jobs. It was not just sex I was deprived. I needed someone to desire me, someone to be kind to me, someone to remember my preferences. It was not my love that was destroyed, but my sense of loyalty. If the opportunity arises, I will engage in EA again, not sure about the physical.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had marriage problems for awhile and DH declined to have sex with me.

It made me insane. I was late 30s and couldn’t imagine that this was the end of my sex life. I cried a lot. I eventually engaged in an emotional affair but cut it off because I realized I would rather divorce my husband than lose my integrity. The other man made me feel alive again. My husband and I eventually worked things out. Years ago I would have been very judgmental of someone who committed adultery but having been through the experience I had I don’t judge anyone who makes a bad decision when they have that kind of lonely desperation. It makes you nuts.

I wrote this and I also just realized… the “bad period” made me fall out of love with my husband. Before, he was the only man in the world to me. After he rejected me for a number of years, that was no longer the case. After we reconciled, I still love him, but it is not the same. I can see myself moving on and living my life without him, and having a positive life too. It is sort of sad, to lose that, and I would warn anyone who feels depriving their spouse of sex is not a big deal. It could destroy their love for you.

I could have written this, except I did not cut the EA, the AP cut it off and moved jobs. It was not just sex I was deprived. I needed someone to desire me, someone to be kind to me, someone to remember my preferences. It was not my love that was destroyed, but my sense of loyalty. If the opportunity arises, I will engage in EA again, not sure about the physical.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had marriage problems for awhile and DH declined to have sex with me.

It made me insane. I was late 30s and couldn’t imagine that this was the end of my sex life. I cried a lot. I eventually engaged in an emotional affair but cut it off because I realized I would rather divorce my husband than lose my integrity. The other man made me feel alive again. My husband and I eventually worked things out. Years ago I would have been very judgmental of someone who committed adultery but having been through the experience I had I don’t judge anyone who makes a bad decision when they have that kind of lonely desperation. It makes you nuts.

I wrote this and I also just realized… the “bad period” made me fall out of love with my husband. Before, he was the only man in the world to me. After he rejected me for a number of years, that was no longer the case. After we reconciled, I still love him, but it is not the same. I can see myself moving on and living my life without him, and having a positive life too. It is sort of sad, to lose that, and I would warn anyone who feels depriving their spouse of sex is not a big deal. It could destroy their love for you.

I could have written this, except I did not cut the EA, the AP cut it off and moved jobs. It was not just sex I was deprived. I needed someone to desire me, someone to be kind to me, someone to remember my preferences. It was not my love that was destroyed, but my sense of loyalty. If the opportunity arises, I will engage in EA again, not sure about the physical.

Gross.

whatever

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Bf I got divorced, went say 4 years wo sex. I’m glad I was faithful, but that was too much, I missed the emotional / physical attachment. I should have done sooner.

In my 50s, had sex twice yesterday w my gf, so yes, I think it is very important/ bonding.