Baby at 51?

[Anonymous]

Will society judge me too hard if I have a baby at 51? If it’s even possible biologically.

I have a cousin who graduated architecht school at 36. We were talking about life and she said that it’s not too late to do things you want.
Her example was her becoming an architect at an older age.

But are these the same ?

I want this pretty bad. Is it that selfish? I don’t feel old at all.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's selfish. There are many reasons not to do it. If your maternal urge is strong, why not adopt a child 5+?

[Anonymous]

Not the same, definitely selfish, and bad idea.
And 36 is way different than 51. Sheesh. Get a puppy.

[Anonymous]

Do you already have kid(s)? I agree with adopting an older child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the same, definitely selfish, and bad idea.
And 36 is way different than 51. Sheesh. Get a puppy.

How is 36 different than 51? Most architects graduate in their 20’s.

And so 36 is non-trad student.

[Anonymous]

Do you already have kids, OP? I won't say it is a bad idea, but I'd invite you to really think about how long the parenting journey is. Even if you got pregnant immediately (unlikely), you'd still have 18 years of getting up every morning responsible for another human being.

It's amazing and full of joy, but also an endless grind that does not stop with the baby years.

[Anonymous]

I had my first at 40, and a second at 42. I also didn't feel old at all. But the kids really did a job on my body and my energy. I feel depleted. Now in my late 40s, I have a lot of new health issues. My biggest fear is becoming incapacitated or even die before my kids are fully launched.

This is not at all comparable to becoming an architect later in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 40, and a second at 42. I also didn't feel old at all. But the kids really did a job on my body and my energy. I feel depleted. Now in my late 40s, I have a lot of new health issues. My biggest fear is becoming incapacitated or even die before my kids are fully launched.

This is not at all comparable to becoming an architect later in life.

Im sorry for your struggles. But how is 36 later in life?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I adopted a baby when I was just shy of 49 and he was 51. It is the best thing we ever did but it is not easy and my husband is involved. It sounds like you are single. I wouldn't do it on my own. Also, 51 would likely require lots of medical intervention which is expensive and not covered by insurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 40, and a second at 42. I also didn't feel old at all. But the kids really did a job on my body and my energy. I feel depleted. Now in my late 40s, I have a lot of new health issues. My biggest fear is becoming incapacitated or even die before my kids are fully launched.

This is not at all comparable to becoming an architect later in life.

Im sorry for your struggles. But how is 36 later in life?

You must have quoted the wrong poster. They didn’t mention 36.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 40, and a second at 42. I also didn't feel old at all. But the kids really did a job on my body and my energy. I feel depleted. Now in my late 40s, I have a lot of new health issues. My biggest fear is becoming incapacitated or even die before my kids are fully launched.

This is not at all comparable to becoming an architect later in life.

Im sorry for your struggles. But how is 36 later in life?

You must have quoted the wrong poster. They didn’t mention 36.

Quoted the right poster. She said that ”becoming an architect later in life is incomparable….”

In the original post it says she became an architect at 36.

So thats what she mean with later in life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Will society judge me too hard if I have a baby at 51? If it’s even possible biologically.

I have a cousin who graduated architecht school at 36. We were talking about life and she said that it’s not too late to do things you want.
Her example was her becoming an architect at an older age.

But are these the same ?

I want this pretty bad. Is it that selfish? I don’t feel old at all.

Yes. It is beyond selfish. Just think that, if you are still alive, this poor kid would have a mother to old to do anything. Get s kitten or a puppy if you want a baby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 40, and a second at 42. I also didn't feel old at all. But the kids really did a job on my body and my energy. I feel depleted. Now in my late 40s, I have a lot of new health issues. My biggest fear is becoming incapacitated or even die before my kids are fully launched.

This is not at all comparable to becoming an architect later in life.

Im sorry for your struggles. But how is 36 later in life?

You must have quoted the wrong poster. They didn’t mention 36.

Quoted the right poster. She said that ”becoming an architect later in life is incomparable….”

In the original post it says she became an architect at 36.

So thats what she mean with later in life

I'm the pp you quoted. I'm merely paraphrasing the OP's words: "Her example was her becoming an architect at an older age."

[Anonymous]

Good time for a grandbaby

[Anonymous]

Adopt an older child. Do not TTC.