Baby at 51?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Will society judge me too hard if I have a baby at 51? If it’s even possible biologically.

I have a cousin who graduated architecht school at 36. We were talking about life and she said that it’s not too late to do things you want.
Her example was her becoming an architect at an older age.

But are these the same ?

I want this pretty bad. Is it that selfish? I don’t feel old at all.

Do it. No it isn't too old. It isn't selfish. You'll be just fine.

Also, this is the wrong place imo for this question. For some reason people here are passionately against having kids past 39. It's an odd thing here and just remember this is an anonymous board. DO it. My good friend had a child at 50 and she's the best mom and very happy.

Donna Mills' first child at 54 (now 28 years old and thriving), Jane Seymore twins at 50 and both thriving in college, Adrienne Barbeau twins at 50, Janet Jackson's first at 50, Naomi Campbell' first at 51 and her 2nd at 53, Supermodel Cheryl Tiegs had twins at 52, Brigitte Nelson had a child at 54, the list goes on and on... Most IVF Dr's cut off is 55. DO IT if that is what you want and no need to ask others what they think except your Dr.

That’s because the majority of posters here are old (55+). So many 60+ people too. They’re of a different generation with limited knowledge and resources so a baby past 39 seems completely wrong to them. They’re not fit to advise aspiring new parents.

Which is what the OP will be in 4 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We couldn't conceive. We went to a fertility specialist in our late 40s. Specialist said he won't extract and use an egg of any woman over 45. It had to be a donor egg.

If you can get pregnant on your own, good luck.

Interestingly, there's another thread going right now about having old parents. You'll be at least 72 when your child is 20.

No one is suggesting OP can get pregnant with her own egg.

[Anonymous]

What about fostering (possibly to adopt) an older child or a teen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen this a lot. The women who yelled about not wanting babies when they were 35, are now 50+ and realize they missed out. They're heartbroken.

I hope younger women who can still get pregnant think very carefully about their choices.

A friend got accidentally pregnant at 39, has a partner who is up for it etc, yet she is “still thinking” if she wants a a baby. I wanna slap her! What is she thinking about?!
People are weird

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is insane.

My coworker, who is 35 and pregnant, was telling me how she was struggling with getting her 80 year old mother into assisted living. My heart broke for her.

35 isn’t young to be having a kid either.

DP. But you see the difference with 51 right?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t think you’re selfish but I would probably think it’s a poorly thought-out plan. 51 is very old to start parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Truly selfish. I've lived it and both parents died in early 70s. Through high school I was basically their care taker and trying to figure out their funerals in college. When they passed all of their estate was ripped away from me by greedy family members because I was so young.

This is so sad! I am sorry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most here and vote have your own baby,
Don’t adopt
Or don’t do anything at all
At 51 it’s not optimal but having your own is better

Horrible troll

[Anonymous]

I would only understand if it were the first child. I mean I can see how someone finally came around. But then donor egg?!
Better not

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who had a baby at 50. Complete accident as she was skipping periods and thought she was in menopause. I’m not here to say that’s going well because it’s not, but it is possible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most here and vote have your own baby,
Don’t adopt
Or don’t do anything at all
At 51 it’s not optimal but having your own is better

Horrible troll

No.
But I just realized it would be DE
better than other options but still…
I am on the cusp now
Probably I vote don’t have a baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've seen this a lot. The women who yelled about not wanting babies when they were 35, are now 50+ and realize they missed out. They're heartbroken.

I hope younger women who can still get pregnant think very carefully about their choices.

A friend got accidentally pregnant at 39, has a partner who is up for it etc, yet she is “still thinking” if she wants a a baby. I wanna slap her! What is she thinking about?!
People are weird

Hit her again for me. (Multiple miscarriages over here)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have older parents (dad was 50 when I was born). Don’t do this to a child. I spent my childhood worrying my dad was going to die because of his age-related health issues. Now I’m raising small kids while he is end of life. Do not do it.

Sooo you would just rather not have been born?

NP but that’s not a fair question. Obviously pp is just saying they’d rather their parents had had them when younger, not that they wished to never be born at all.

OP, I know someone who adopted a baby at age 58 and is a single parent. The kid is now 16 and starting to think about college and the parent is now 74 and starting to think about retirement finally and moving to assisted living in next 5 years.

Doesn’t sound at all desirable to me to be that old raising a kid 0-18 OR to BE a kid w a really old single parent either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who had a baby at 50. Complete accident as she was skipping periods and thought she was in menopause. I’m not here to say that’s going well because it’s not, but it is possible

Does she have other kids?
Also skipping periods isn’t the same as not having them at all so she was careless
Weird all around

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've seen this a lot. The women who yelled about not wanting babies when they were 35, are now 50+ and realize they missed out. They're heartbroken.

I hope younger women who can still get pregnant think very carefully about their choices.

A friend got accidentally pregnant at 39, has a partner who is up for it etc, yet she is “still thinking” if she wants a a baby. I wanna slap her! What is she thinking about?!
People are weird

Hit her again for me. (Multiple miscarriages over here)

I am so sorry
FWIW She is anxious and egocentric (which I am starting to think often go together)