What part is not going well? |
Sorry about your miscarriages, but that doesn’t mean women should be expected to have babies they don’t really want. My OB told me that the largest demographic for abortions at her office are women in their 40s who already have kids and find themselves accidentally pregnant. |
Not if OP is well off. Outsource all the grunt and do the fun stuff with kiddo yourself |
This makes no sense. 55 year olds are OP’s peers. They could have been in high school at the same time. You’re arguing that other 50 year olds are clueless about the challenges 50 year olds would face having a baby??? |
+1. I know someone as well. In her case, she thought she was no longer able to have children, and it was a surprise. Baby is completely healthy. She is a youngish 50 - very fit and full of energy. OP - if you are healthy and have enough money - then do it. Kids are the best thing that ever happened to me and bring me so much joy. |
All of these people talking about assisted living facilities - my grandfather is 91 and still living on his own. He said he is starting to feel like he has less strength, but still cooks, drives, goes shopping on his own. My 77 year old neighbor still rides his bike on the trail and is more active than my DH. My gym is full of fit active old people. Even my out of shape, 81 year old MIL is still fine living on her own and is as sharp as ever. |
If this was a guy asking, no one would bat an eye. |
A man does not have a uterus. |
The thing is, it doesn't really matter how young you feel. Your reproductive system and hormone levels are not what they were. The odds of the baby having health issues are pretty high. That would be my biggest misgiving. |
still not the norm. My FIL and mother have/had dementia early 80s. My MIL died at 90, multiple strokes in the past 5 years. My father is 90 and is fairly healthy. But, he's an outlier. The problem with having a baby that late is that you are burdening your child with elder care just when they are starting out. Not to mention the embarrassment of having such an old mom when the child is school aged. -signed a 53 yr old who had her kids at 35 and 38. |
+1 |
Except you know, a child. An actual living human being. |
How healthy are you?
How much money do you have? Do you have a support system? Do you have someone who would like to raise the child if you pass? Anecdotally, I have an acquaintance who ended up, after raising her own kids, acquiring a couple of kids after the death of a single family member, and she's not happy about it but couldn't let them go to foster care either. It seems like a lose-lose for the kids. |
One of the local sports executives had a baby at 60+, he had a younger wife so the health of the mother wasn't an issue. But imagine trying to raise a teenager in your 70s? I noted that his wife can drop him off at memory care when taking the kid to college. |
Adopt a kid? |