What makes a woman marriage material?

[Anonymous]

In my experience, the number 1 predictor of a woman's chance of a marriage proposal is her attractiveness. My sister is a beauty. She is not a great beauty but rather a girl next door kind of beauty. From the age of 21 onwards, almost every guy who met her, developed a crush on her. More strikingly, the right kinds of men were interested in her. Professional guys who were seriously dating and who came from wealthy families. She had her pick of men and is today, happily married with the one who pursued her the hardest/longest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, the number 1 predictor of a woman's chance of a marriage proposal is her attractiveness. My sister is a beauty. She is not a great beauty but rather a girl next door kind of beauty. From the age of 21 onwards, almost every guy who met her, developed a crush on her. More strikingly, the right kinds of men were interested in her. Professional guys who were seriously dating and who came from wealthy families. She had her pick of men and is today, happily married with the one who pursued her the hardest/longest.

Exactly. I also noticed that girls next door pretty types are more actively pursued by men. Hard face type of beauty like Melania Trump etc not so much in real life. Girls with warm, softer facial features, nice smile - beautiful but not that flashy marry well. Maybe men consider them more down to earth and more approachable ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, the number 1 predictor of a woman's chance of a marriage proposal is her attractiveness. My sister is a beauty. She is not a great beauty but rather a girl next door kind of beauty. From the age of 21 onwards, almost every guy who met her, developed a crush on her. More strikingly, the right kinds of men were interested in her. Professional guys who were seriously dating and who came from wealthy families. She had her pick of men and is today, happily married with the one who pursued her the hardest/longest.

Exactly. I also noticed that girls next door pretty types are more actively pursued by men. Hard face type of beauty like Melania Trump etc not so much in real life. Girls with warm, softer facial features, nice smile - beautiful but not that flashy marry well. Maybe men consider them more down to earth and more approachable ?

Yes! My sister in law is the opposite type. Tall, statuesque and leggy blonde. She looks like a real life Barbie doll. She was not aggressively pursued by men as most men were intimidated and thought she was out of their league. She did finally marry a hedge fund manager who had the confidence to marry her and was not intimidated by her model-good looks. She was perceived to be out of the average professional guy's league.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares about picking random characters from random movies and pretending you’re clever.

NP. It was clever. Just because you’re a philistine doesn’t mean the rest of us have to operate on your distinctly low level.

(I’ll wait while you google “philistine.”)

there you go again.

Yes, there I go again knowing big words. Shame on me! Why can’t I be ignorant like you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"DP. Huh. Ok, your friends find only a narrow subset of men to be marriage material. If one of those men were interested, they'd be willing (case in point, you: married to a white guy). But your friends aren't willing to date or marry if they perceive it as settling. All of that is perfectly fine, and no woman should be shamed for not marrying. But there is no need to go further than that and insult the women who ultimately married the men your friends wanted but did not get."

Work on your reading comprehension. It's the white guys who were not interested in these women of color.

No problem with reading comprehension. Not sure if you are the PP. She said the white guys were interested in "basic" white women rather than the women of color in her friend group. So she blamed the white men, insulted the women the white men married instead as "basic", and put her friends on a pedestal as the most superior of them all.

[Anonymous]

To read these comments, you’d think only pretty people married. I think the more average you are on all accounts, the better the chances are that you’ll meet someone because there are more people just like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one cares about picking random characters from random movies and pretending you’re clever.

NP. It was clever. Just because you’re a philistine doesn’t mean the rest of us have to operate on your distinctly low level.

(I’ll wait while you google “philistine.”)

there you go again.

Yes, there I go again knowing big words. Shame on me! Why can’t I be ignorant like you?

Just. Can’t. Stop.

[Anonymous]

I dated several men who talked about getting married to me. I don’t say that to brag, it just is what it is. I married at 24 to a man a decade older who was established in his career and wanted a family. I can say what inspires most men to marriage: an attractive woman who is happy, kind, laughs a lot, doesn’t pursue them but accepts their pursuit, doesn’t put out right away, enjoys men in general, likes children and is gentle with criticism.

[Anonymous]

Its not just about men being intimidated by gorgeous women, men wanting love, ling marriage and family often want a package of looks, nature, intellect and inheritance. Inheritance not just in money but in decent, drama and debt free family.

[Anonymous]

A quick mind that leads to good conversation. That, is the key. You have that… sky is the limit. (If you don’t, find podcasts to try to learn it). Bumble is littered with woman that talk weather, have no edge.

Secondly, be a leader, and adventurous in the bedroom. ( probably podcast here as well)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated several men who talked about getting married to me. I don’t say that to brag, it just is what it is. I married at 24 to a man a decade older who was established in his career and wanted a family. I can say what inspires most men to marriage: an attractive woman who is happy, kind, laughs a lot, doesn’t pursue them but accepts their pursuit, doesn’t put out right away, enjoys men in general, likes children and is gentle with criticism.

A doormat sex doll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A quick mind that leads to good conversation. That, is the key. You have that… sky is the limit. (If you don’t, find podcasts to try to learn it). Bumble is littered with woman that talk weather, have no edge.

Secondly, be a leader, and adventurous in the bedroom. ( probably podcast here as well)

Do you have podcast recommendations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Describing someone as marriage material is so gross. It's intrinsically super sexist.

Marriage is all luck and timing. Luck in meeting someone who works (I don't believe in The One) and timing with it being during society's tiny window acceptability for women (age 25-35).

The rest is nonsense.

I have become a believer in The One.

[Anonymous]

Honestly? Probably the ones who aren’t breaking up with their college boyfriends at 23 because they “want to see what else is out there.”

They appreciate a nice, stable, relationship oriented guy when they have them.

Additional factors that probably contribute: low drama, educated, from a stable family, close with family, not desperate, takes care of themselves (mental and physical health)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman needs to be on the more attractive side and be willing to date men slightly less attractive if she wants a good chance of finding a husband. It’s always the women who prioritize looks and raw physical attraction in men who end up still single after 30. Those women usually end up being pumped and dumped repeatedly by f***boys

The one who earns less gets to be the uglier one. I make more money than my DH. He’s gorgeous and I’m average at best. He’s a great husband and father.