In my experience, the number 1 predictor of a woman's chance of a marriage proposal is her attractiveness. My sister is a beauty. She is not a great beauty but rather a girl next door kind of beauty. From the age of 21 onwards, almost every guy who met her, developed a crush on her. More strikingly, the right kinds of men were interested in her. Professional guys who were seriously dating and who came from wealthy families. She had her pick of men and is today, happily married with the one who pursued her the hardest/longest.
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Exactly. I also noticed that girls next door pretty types are more actively pursued by men. Hard face type of beauty like Melania Trump etc not so much in real life. Girls with warm, softer facial features, nice smile - beautiful but not that flashy marry well. Maybe men consider them more down to earth and more approachable ? |
Yes! My sister in law is the opposite type. Tall, statuesque and leggy blonde. She looks like a real life Barbie doll. She was not aggressively pursued by men as most men were intimidated and thought she was out of their league. She did finally marry a hedge fund manager who had the confidence to marry her and was not intimidated by her model-good looks. She was perceived to be out of the average professional guy's league. |
Yes, there I go again knowing big words. Shame on me! Why can’t I be ignorant like you? |
No problem with reading comprehension. Not sure if you are the PP. She said the white guys were interested in "basic" white women rather than the women of color in her friend group. So she blamed the white men, insulted the women the white men married instead as "basic", and put her friends on a pedestal as the most superior of them all. |
To read these comments, you’d think only pretty people married. I think the more average you are on all accounts, the better the chances are that you’ll meet someone because there are more people just like you. |
Just. Can’t. Stop. |
I dated several men who talked about getting married to me. I don’t say that to brag, it just is what it is. I married at 24 to a man a decade older who was established in his career and wanted a family. I can say what inspires most men to marriage: an attractive woman who is happy, kind, laughs a lot, doesn’t pursue them but accepts their pursuit, doesn’t put out right away, enjoys men in general, likes children and is gentle with criticism. |
Its not just about men being intimidated by gorgeous women, men wanting love, ling marriage and family often want a package of looks, nature, intellect and inheritance. Inheritance not just in money but in decent, drama and debt free family. |
A quick mind that leads to good conversation. That, is the key. You have that… sky is the limit. (If you don’t, find podcasts to try to learn it). Bumble is littered with woman that talk weather, have no edge.
Secondly, be a leader, and adventurous in the bedroom. ( probably podcast here as well) |
A doormat sex doll |
Do you have podcast recommendations? |
I have become a believer in The One. |
Honestly? Probably the ones who aren’t breaking up with their college boyfriends at 23 because they “want to see what else is out there.”
They appreciate a nice, stable, relationship oriented guy when they have them. Additional factors that probably contribute: low drama, educated, from a stable family, close with family, not desperate, takes care of themselves (mental and physical health) |
The one who earns less gets to be the uglier one. I make more money than my DH. He’s gorgeous and I’m average at best. He’s a great husband and father. |