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The most active thread yesterday was titled, "S/O How do you justify having an affair?" and posted in the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. This thread was started amid a horde of similar threads about cheating. As a result, many of those responding assumed the original poster was the author of those other threads and berated her, in many cases assuming that she was a victim of a cheating spouse. However, it appears that the original poster is just someone who likes to start threads willy-nilly and for some reason wanted to put her own spin on the topic rather than join one of the similar threads. The original poster's approach is based on a lot of assumptions that may or may not be correct and her stated goal is simply to know how those who cheat can live with themselves. Very few of the responses address that rather narrow issue. Rather than describing how they live with themselves. posters explain the reasons for the affair. In many cases, this is lack of sex with their spouse and, hence, much of the discussion turns to arguing about the normal frequency of sex between married couples and what constitutes "enough". Affairs are probably the most frequently addressed topic in the forum and nobody should expect anything new to come from a thread such as this. If you are interested in seeing every single debate point ever made on the topic in one place, this thread might be a good candidate given its 24 page length. This thread, like others before it, is full of posters recounting their own experiences of being cheated on.