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To be clear — I would also pay/prorata share his child care too— he is free to get a nanny, au pair or after care. I have the kids too, actually currently he’s trying to stay in the cheapest possible place while I how is the kids and the Au Pair and pay more for mortgage to do so. There is no au pair that will want to go between sharing houses of ours. We’ve been there tried that. He works at home while I do not. I make about the same amount as him he makes a bit more.
Anonymous wrote:Please be aware of this agency. I was flowing along as a candidate with them, receiving good feedback and welcoming emails as they learned about my qualifications. Late last night I posted on my profile for the families looking for a good nanny, that I am a Christian. Today I tried to login after seeing a job I might like to apply for and read on my login page :"Sorry; you no longer have access." I am partly laughing to myself because I think they probably are silly enough to think I am not aware of why I have no access. But, please, especially you sweet Christian folks in MD who specified in your nanny request that you would like a Christian nanny. Please be aware that they are about to take your thousands and obviously have not, for some hypocritical reason, blocked your family from accessing the search for a nanny as a Christian family. Could it be due to you being the payor and I get to be placed for free? Oh my. These poor things.

Hope this saves someone else from being deceived by pink Nannies. I actually had second thoughts a few months ago when searching for a good placement agency; I read like 2 or 3 start reviews with bad grades given elsewhere too. I should have known better.
This is January 2025


This is illegal- except for narrow circumstances (eg working at a church) an employer may not discriminate against an employee based on religion. If your profile indicated that you only wanted to work with Christian families then the agency should have flagged your account (which is sounds like it correctly did)
Anonymous wrote:Why are you in anyone else business? Nanny and employer are happy so leave them alone. At best you will get the nanny deported back to her hell hole country before you will get the MB "in trouble."

Criminal behavior is everyone’s business.
Anonymous wrote:Hi, is it okay to post here?

I am a new mom my baby just turned 12 months. We hired a nanny for my daughter when she was 6 months because we had to return to work. My baby girl started walking at 11 months and now she is a pro! Recently, when nanny arrives to work she runs to the door for a hug and when it’s time for nanny to go home most days she cries and doesn’t want nanny to leave?

I want to tell my husband that it makes me sad to see this. Watching my baby girl becoming attached to the nanny. But I need advice on what to say?

I think I want to take some time off work and just be with my baby but we will have to let the nanny go. Has any other moms felt this way?



You should be grateful that you have such a wonderful nanny who loves your child and your child loves her. Children can love more than one person. Your jealousy is going to cause problems and ultimately a loving nanny who has kept your child safe and happy will quit because you taking her life miserable.
Anonymous wrote:Why are you in anyone else business? Nanny and employer are happy so leave them alone. At best you will get the nanny deported back to her hell hole country before you will get the MB "in trouble."


Report employer to ITS and state tax office
Big fine.
Anonymous wrote:This word is thrown around so carelessly at everyone these days.


You must be one of them
Anonymous wrote:I doubt the entire family are narcs.


Drugs?[b]
Anonymous wrote:Yep, that’s OK. I understand I’d share his too. I know it’s a complex situation and most people would try to just say share the au pair or use aftercare. It just doesn’t work for us given our situation, and we already have a well
Supporting connected au pair we love who provides kids tremendous stability given our tumultuous last year. When PO ends we go to 50/50 but au pair is. Is not comfortable working there. And I nor the AP agency will never demand that of anyone. We Still remaining—Was wondering if anyone had actual experience of having split childcare cost, but not use the same childcare sources (esp one using an au pair?). It’s two layers of complexity I know. First—- is sharing the childcare’s expenses despite different childcare. The second—- is how to calculate the Au Pair childcare cost. Some argue that not all au pair cost should be considered work related childcare cost. Anyways, thank you all for your input. If anyone has been in the particular situation/s I’m open to advice, especially on how to actually tally up the Au Pair cost that they will consider acceptable for work related child care cost (for Maryland). As we all know, it’s more than just the fees and the stipend and insurance, food, gas, it’s part of your home use too. But I hear the point that au pairs can do more than out of home care providers that maybe aren’t included. Otherwise thank you all!!


If you each have seperate child care you each pay for your own, especially when you are the one not willing to share child care and are being unreasonable. Its absurd for you to expect him to pay child support, extras, all the expenses when he has the kids PLUS your Au pair. That's not reasonable.
Dear Parents,

I am writing to express my interest in the nanny position you advertised on DCUrbanMom.com. My name is Eden, and I currently reside on Wisconsin Ave. I am truly passionate about working with children and would be honored to provide your family with dedicated and loving care.

Over the past eight years, I have had the privilege of working as an au pair for a wonderful family of four. During this time, I ensured the children’s safety and well-being while fostering a warm, nurturing, and stimulating environment. My responsibilities included organizing daily routines, planning fun and educational activities, and assisting with household management to support the family’s needs. This role has equipped me with invaluable experience in balancing care, structure, and creativity.

I bring extensive experience working with children of all ages, from newborns to school-aged. My natural and friendly approach allows me to connect meaningfully with children, while my commitment to their safety and development remains my top priority. Additionally, as a non-smoker who practices healthy habits, I strive to be a positive role model in any household.

I would love the opportunity to discuss how my experience can meet your family's needs. If you’re interested, I’d be happy to set up a time for us to speak further at your convenience. Please let me know a time that works best for you, and I will make sure to accommodate it.

Thank you for considering my application. I look forward to hearing from you soon and hopefully connecting further.

Sincerely,
Eden

You need a new nanny
Is the bus not reliable? Or is she not reliable?
Agree with PP, can she uber?
This word is thrown around so carelessly at everyone these days.
why do you care?
I doubt the entire family are narcs.
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