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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why is this addressed to the woman, and not the man? Isn't he the one who should change his behavior?
Realistically, how many dudes are reading a nanny forum?
Realistically, what was the point of this original post? It’s all common sense and not up to someone’s partner to change them.
Anonymous wrote:Kids these days have way too many toys, games, puzzles, ETC.
Even though you were very kind to give your charges a holiday gift, it is highly likely the parents really wished you wouldn’t as that just adds more toys for them to clean up or donate later.
It isn’t wise to gift your charges new toys in this day and age.
What the parents would have appreciated more would have been a book with a personal note inside or maybe a monetary donation to their college fund.
Now THIS seems seriously inappropriate on the parents' part. You want your nanny to give money to you?
Anonymous wrote:Some parents don’t like toys and while they were thankful they prob re-gifted or put them away. You were too nice and thoughtful to bring them gifts and I’d not ask. Is absolutely their choice to do what you want with their belongings/toys.
Erm...but kids do! Are you suggesting that there are parents out there who don't provide/allow their children toys? I have seen a lot of weird shit, but never this.
Anonymous wrote:Why is this addressed to the woman, and not the man? Isn't he the one who should change his behavior?
Realistically, how many dudes are reading a nanny forum?
Hi all, I have a 3 year old and a 6 year old. We used to have a fulltime nanny but both kids are in school fulltime now, and our nanny has moved on to another fulltime job. I'm having trouble finding childcare options for my 3 year old in August before school starts (after Labor day). Do you have any guidance on partime/fulltime childcare options for a 3 year old for the month of August! This is a busy time of year workwise, so we won't be able to use our vacation during this period. Would college students be a good option? Are there any forums through which I could reach preschool helpers/teachers who may be looking for opportunities during that month? Any recommendations welcomed. Thanks!
Anonymous wrote:Why is this addressed to the woman, and not the man? Isn't he the one who should change his behavior?
+1
And it sounds like you have a very specific issue with your male boss. Anyone yelling is not ok, not just men. Talk to your employers instead of making a useless, blanketed post where it’s still somehow the female employer’s problem to fix your issues with her husband.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:anyone making the nanny work there? If she is forced to do it, its akin to human trafficking. If she is not forced to work there, then she is happy with what she is getting, she can always leave and work somewhere else.
The most naive take. Or you’re trying to assuage your own guilt because you also pay illegally and pitifully low. If not, you’re missing the huge power imbalance. In this situation the power is more unfairly balanced than in a typical employer/employee relationship. Isn’t this obvious? I guess not. Lots of people are missing the obvious in the country.
It all depends on the area and demand for Nannies.
Also, it’s nannies, since when is Nanny/Nannies a proper noun? Why do so many posters on this forum have a lack of knowledge of this? It makes you look dim.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:anyone making the nanny work there? If she is forced to do it, its akin to human trafficking. If she is not forced to work there, then she is happy with what she is getting, she can always leave and work somewhere else.
The most naive take. Or you’re trying to assuage your own guilt because you also pay illegally and pitifully low. If not, you’re missing the huge power imbalance. In this situation the power is more unfairly balanced than in a typical employer/employee relationship. Isn’t this obvious? I guess not. Lots of people are missing the obvious in the country.
It all depends on the area and demand for Nannies.
Read this slowly: it is dependent on people having morals and not breaking the law for their own gain, by taking advantage of others. Get your head checked, there’s something missing. Pay your “nanny” a fair wage, on the books. Hopefully you’ll pay the price if you don’t.
Anonymous wrote:My Sister employs a Nanny who lives in Section 8 housing.
Both the Nanny as well as my Sister hate filling out all the forms/faxes that are required 2x/annually so they prefer to simplify things by only dealing with cash.
Recently the Nanny has been asking my Sister for a raise…..she wants to be paid her state’s minimum wage.
I told my Sister since she is working under the table then the minimum wage requirement does not apply.
What say you?
Your sister is committing tax fraud and housing fraud and is asking if this means it's OK for her to also pay below minimum? None of those things is OK, and doing one does not make the other less criminal.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:anyone making the nanny work there? If she is forced to do it, its akin to human trafficking. If she is not forced to work there, then she is happy with what she is getting, she can always leave and work somewhere else.
The most naive take. Or you’re trying to assuage your own guilt because you also pay illegally and pitifully low. If not, you’re missing the huge power imbalance. In this situation the power is more unfairly balanced than in a typical employer/employee relationship. Isn’t this obvious? I guess not. Lots of people are missing the obvious in the country.
It all depends on the area and demand for Nannies.
I’m sorry your gifts disappeared. I wouldn’t take it personally. It sounds like you gave great toys and the parents weren’t very considerate of your feelings. Our nanny gave our 3 year old a Bluey stuffie and it’s an absolute favorite! She also gave our baby some wonderful toys he plays with daily. Personally, I think nannies are able to give the best gifts because they know exactly what the kids already have and what their interests are. But even when a relative gives a gift that is a miss, I keep it out for their next few visits so they know it was appreciated.
Anonymous wrote:Kids these days have way too many toys, games, puzzles, ETC.
Even though you were very kind to give your charges a holiday gift, it is highly likely the parents really wished you wouldn’t as that just adds more toys for them to clean up or donate later.
It isn’t wise to gift your charges new toys in this day and age.
What the parents would have appreciated more would have been a book with a personal note inside or maybe a monetary donation to their college fund.
The kids parents do not want to appear ungrateful so they won’t tell you directly not to give their child any gifts however they are hoping that you will get the message that they prefer you not buy gifts for the kids.
There are a multitude of reasons for this, could be the kids have too many toys but they probably feel bad that you are spending your hard-earned money on them when they can afford to buy gifts.
Perhaps next time gift a book for their child’s personal library.
Anonymous wrote:To be clear — I would also pay/prorata share his child care too— he is free to get a nanny, au pair or after care. I have the kids too, actually currently he’s trying to stay in the cheapest possible place while I how is the kids and the Au Pair and pay more for mortgage to do so. There is no au pair that will want to go between sharing houses of ours. We’ve been there tried that. He works at home while I do not. I make about the same amount as him he makes a bit more.
This is insane and a huge waste of money. You aren't being reasonable. I'm assuming you have a super high incomes. If you both have almost equal incomes, and do 50-50 I'm not understanding as you shouldn't be getting child support. You each pay for the expenses in your homes and split the cost of activities and other things. You each pay for your own child care or work out one arrangement and share the cost.
Most people don't like stuffed animals.
Anonymous wrote:I’ve always given my nanny kids gifts for birthdays and Christmas. Some parents honestly just suck though. It’s like, love my kids but don’t love my kids because I’m jealous lol make it make sense
What does this mean in this context? I've never actually heard anyone use this word -- except in a trailer park news report.
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