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Most nanny families/parents can afford to buy whatever toys their child wants.
They do not want too many toys in the house as it just makes more clutter later on to clean up.
I would prefer my nanny to not gift my kids. Instead I would prefer she spend the money on her own family because childcare IS tough work, and she deserves to treat herself as well as her loved ones……
They do not want too many toys in the house as it just makes more clutter later on to clean up.
I would prefer my nanny to not gift my kids. Instead I would prefer she spend the money on her own family because childcare IS tough work, and she deserves to treat herself as well as her loved ones……
Anonymous wrote:This seems like a great way to get the kids to not like the nanny...nanny arrives, the TV has to go off and nanny leaves and the TV goes right back on. Yikes. I don’t think they should be having them watch TV right before you arrive or right after you leave but they can do what they want in regard to letting them watch it. I do think it’s hypocritical, however.
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I agree that parents have the fundamental right to do whatever they want inside their own homes.
However if they allow their kids to watch television when their nannie is not there then that is very hypocritical.
Just my own personal opinion of this matter but as a mother who employs a fulltime nanny I find it outrageous that a parent would tell their nanny not to turn on the television while working.
I mean I could see if the nanny spent all of her time looking at her phone while the kids sat in front of the tv all day but if I have a tv sitting in the house in a common area of my home I would never tell anyone not to turn it on!!???
That is micromanaging at its finest and I think the nanny here should find another family to work for. A family that actually respects her vs. one who thinks it is their right to CONTROL her.
I mean I could see if the nanny spent all of her time looking at her phone while the kids sat in front of the tv all day but if I have a tv sitting in the house in a common area of my home I would never tell anyone not to turn it on!!???
That is micromanaging at its finest and I think the nanny here should find another family to work for. A family that actually respects her vs. one who thinks it is their right to CONTROL her.
Find another job! Some of them may be narcissists which led them to careers where they are able to pay for you. Honestly being a nanny probably sucks but if I was uneducated and needed money I would do that job. I’m tired of all the nannies complaining. If you want a better job/don’t like your families find another career. You are a fime a dozen.
Anonymous wrote:I would only be annoyed because you need a break as well working 9hrs a day. You need time to eat and pee and just breathe. But some parents don’t care. They consider you the help and not human and are paying you so you deal.
If it was an experienced nanny she would have trained the 3yo to do quiet time for 30 min while the baby naps and she gets a break then. But the parents are getting what they pay for with nanny wanting to put the kids in front of the TV instead.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This word is thrown around so carelessly at everyone these days.
You must be one of them
How does this reply even make sense?
This seems like a great way to get the kids to not like the nanny...nanny arrives, the TV has to go off and nanny leaves and the TV goes right back on. Yikes. I don’t think they should be having them watch TV right before you arrive or right after you leave but they can do what they want in regard to letting them watch it. I do think it’s hypocritical, however.
PP, you have reading comprehension issues. "Beggars" in this case means parents since grandma is babysitting for free.
Since Nannies typically make much less than their employers I think it is fair to assume that many nanny families do not expect their Nannie’s to provide birthday or Christmas presents for their kids.
And since kids these days have a huge plethora of toys, books, etc. then they really do not want all of that extra clutter.
And since kids these days have a huge plethora of toys, books, etc. then they really do not want all of that extra clutter.
Anonymous wrote:I understand where you’re coming from, but its much more nuanced.
Parents are paying you for a service, so screen limits is absolutely acceptable. Contrast to having grandma watch the baby for free - parents will be more lenient because beggars can’t be choosers.
The parents who can afford nannies have high stress demanding jobs. If they need to put their kid in front of the tv so they can take an unexpected call, answer an after hours work email or get ready for work, I completely understand.
Now, if they’re just doing it because they’re lazy or don’t like hanging with their kids, that’s different. But I’m betting 90% if the time, it really is necessary.
I suppose if you are interested you could offer to extend your hours so they could get their work done without resorting to TV. But barring that, give the parents some grace and understanding!!!
I am sorry but I take professional offense at your phrase that “beggars cannot be choosers.”
Are you implying that every Nanny is a beggar??
You must be a parent if you truly believe this.
Hopefully you just made a bad analogy word choice.
Signed,
A Nanny
Anonymous wrote:I would only be annoyed because you need a break as well working 9hrs a day. You need time to eat and pee and just breathe. But some parents don’t care. They consider you the help and not human and are paying you so you deal.
I have read all of the responses here and this one makes the most sense, especially the last sentence.
Many families DO consider nanny’s the hired help so they feel it is acceptable to create unreasonable instructions for them that they themselves do not follow.
I think this is the core issue at point here.
If the family instructed their nanny to not turn on the television while caring for their children and they themselves did the same that would be fair.
Yet if they allowed television time ONLY when the nanny wasn’t there then that would be a dealbreaker for me if I was their Nannie.
Because if they did the latter I would be convinced that they viewed me as the “help” only and that they expected to get their money’s worth of work from me.
Anonymous wrote:I spoke to a nanny yesterday who was working illegally for $8 an hour for 50 hours a week with no overtime. She was Iranian and although she did not say that she was undocumented I have to assume she is since $8 an hour here in California is under minimum wage. I felt so sorry for her!
Report her.
Anonymous wrote:I live in a house with a rentable basement [separate entrance, kitchen, etc.]. I'm curious if I could potentially offer use of that space and get a nanny for lower pay. This would reduce the cost of travel to my house for work, and I could have someone I trust in the basement, which I think is a win-win for everyone.
Where do youi r because some jurisdictions have stringent regulations about renting to non relatives
Also, does it pass fire regulations? Windows must be large enough for a firefighter, in full regalia, to get through. There must also be two methods of egress from the basement. If one is through your area of house then that door must always remain unlocked.
Anonymous wrote:I live in a house with a rentable basement [separate entrance, kitchen, etc.]. I'm curious if I could potentially offer use of that space and get a nanny for lower pay. This would reduce the cost of travel to my house for work, and I could have someone I trust in the basement, which I think is a win-win for everyone.
If the job requires her to live in the you cannot pay less. Also, unless nanny is homeless why would anyone to live in the same house as their boss where, without a doubt, you would invade her privacy and feel no qualms about taking advantage of her time!
Nanny and babysitter here. She might of thought you meant to pay her extra. I’ve been paid more or tipped etc loyalty and availability and reliability/trust goes a long way. I hope she doesn’t see this. If I did I wouldn’t work for you again
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