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Your sister is a criminal.
If you agreed weekly and it’s electronic if should be consistent.
Having said that, if they pay you on Friday but it’s not in your bank account until Sat or Sun that is a bank transfer issue, not their fault.
You need to assume it’ll be in there Monday morning for banking/bill management
Having said that, if they pay you on Friday but it’s not in your bank account until Sat or Sun that is a bank transfer issue, not their fault.
You need to assume it’ll be in there Monday morning for banking/bill management
Anonymous wrote:How do they pay you and what day is the payment supposed to be in your hands?
If you get paid weekly, it's fine to get it any time during the week. Even on Monday if there's a holiday.
Who gets paid right after the shift unless you get cash. Most people wait 1-2 weeks and even more to get paid.
Electronically and it’s supposed to be every friday…. Well yes I know people get paid weekly or biweekly.. but even with other jobs, pay day is pay day. I don’t see why this would be different….
What's the location and exact days and time. There might be a SAHM, student, or a nanny who may be able to do it.
I'm one of those, but always keep scrolling as such info is missing. My own kids are in school and I'm doing nothing during day time.
I'm one of those, but always keep scrolling as such info is missing. My own kids are in school and I'm doing nothing during day time.
How do they pay you and what day is the payment supposed to be in your hands?
If you get paid weekly, it's fine to get it any time during the week. Even on Monday if there's a holiday.
Who gets paid right after the shift unless you get cash. Most people wait 1-2 weeks and even more to get paid.
If you get paid weekly, it's fine to get it any time during the week. Even on Monday if there's a holiday.
Who gets paid right after the shift unless you get cash. Most people wait 1-2 weeks and even more to get paid.
Hello,
I am a new nanny and don’t know if I’m wrong or not….
I recently began working with a family and they are fantastic. The only issue I’m having right now is not receiving my payment on time. We agreed to weekly pay and I would assume I receive my payment at the end of the week by the end of my shift. It is never consistent. A few times I got paid on Saturday and one time on Sunday morning. Because of this I have asked if they were sending my payments over. I think they got upset that I’m asking. Am I wrong??? How should I go about this?? I mean we are all human beings with lives and responsibilities so im not understanding why they would get upset about it…..
I am a new nanny and don’t know if I’m wrong or not….
I recently began working with a family and they are fantastic. The only issue I’m having right now is not receiving my payment on time. We agreed to weekly pay and I would assume I receive my payment at the end of the week by the end of my shift. It is never consistent. A few times I got paid on Saturday and one time on Sunday morning. Because of this I have asked if they were sending my payments over. I think they got upset that I’m asking. Am I wrong??? How should I go about this?? I mean we are all human beings with lives and responsibilities so im not understanding why they would get upset about it…..
I would not be able to work for parents who would implicitly tell me that I was not allowed to use their television while the children were around when that is what they would do.
It is very unfair of them to expect you to refrain from screens while there.
Sometimes with kids it is nice to have on the television for sound.
If parents cannot care for their kids without having to resort to television then they are not good parents.
I cannot work for hypocrites at all.
Now if they were a no screen family that would be entirely different.
Because then they would be practicing what they were preaching unto me!
It is very unfair of them to expect you to refrain from screens while there.
Sometimes with kids it is nice to have on the television for sound.
If parents cannot care for their kids without having to resort to television then they are not good parents.
I cannot work for hypocrites at all.
Now if they were a no screen family that would be entirely different.
Because then they would be practicing what they were preaching unto me!
That is a kind of large age gap (for those ages in particular) so a challenge may be that both kids may want to do different activities at the same time.
Find something that interests both children however such as perhaps building stuff out of Legos or magnet tiles.
I would let the younger child play w/a larger set as at two yrs. of age they may still be putting small objects into their mouth.
Maybe the older child can play w/a train set or cars while you engage the younger child nearby w/a stuffed animal or a colorful + fun storybook!
Hope this helps - wishing you all the best OP!
Find something that interests both children however such as perhaps building stuff out of Legos or magnet tiles.
I would let the younger child play w/a larger set as at two yrs. of age they may still be putting small objects into their mouth.
Maybe the older child can play w/a train set or cars while you engage the younger child nearby w/a stuffed animal or a colorful + fun storybook!
Hope this helps - wishing you all the best OP!
Anonymous wrote:I was with a family for five years . The kids were older and I used to supervise them and take them to activities, light housekeeping and cooking .
Now they are moving and I find another position with two small children 6 years old and 2 years old.
I am going to be with them afternoons and they want me to come for trial .
I need advice please , I have been with this age group but it’s long time ago.
What activities I can do to keep both of them engaged?
This is good opportunity for me so please help
Me in my trial so they hire me .
Many thanks
Make sure they pay you for the trial time.
I was with a family for five years . The kids were older and I used to supervise them and take them to activities, light housekeeping and cooking .
Now they are moving and I find another position with two small children 6 years old and 2 years old.
I am going to be with them afternoons and they want me to come for trial .
I need advice please , I have been with this age group but it’s long time ago.
What activities I can do to keep both of them engaged?
This is good opportunity for me so please help
Me in my trial so they hire me .
Many thanks
Now they are moving and I find another position with two small children 6 years old and 2 years old.
I am going to be with them afternoons and they want me to come for trial .
I need advice please , I have been with this age group but it’s long time ago.
What activities I can do to keep both of them engaged?
This is good opportunity for me so please help
Me in my trial so they hire me .
Many thanks
Anonymous wrote:OP this is all on your husband. Your nanny may have thought you decided to give a large bonus or a big thank you for helping out during a challenging week or recognizing her great work as a nanny overall. Do not say a thing or risk losing all the goodwill you just engendered, or worse - risk losing her altogether. This was you and your husband’s mistake - full stop. Spend all your energy figuring out how you and your husband can communicate better next time.
Would you say the same thing if the nanny accidentally under reported her hours? And the OP didn’t pay her for those unreported hours? It would be “nanny’s fault”…so no need to pay?
Anonymous wrote:
-new nanny family is traveling all or part of August You specifically said "share." If the current family isn't around, that isn't a share.
-new nanny family has considered a share, but isn't sure if they want to. This could be a test run. Unlikely, but ok
-who said new nanny family wouldn't benefit? They could negotiate a lower payment for August. If the family was interested in a lower payment, they'd just put their child in daycare.
-new nanny family has been trying to find a share and hasn't had luck. Unlikely.
Nanny asks to use PTO to leave early/take a day off.
-Nanny asks to take your child to a new playground
-Nanny asks to arrange a play date with someone they met at a park
You are ridiculous.
PTO is part of a nanny's contract and the nanny has the right to take it
Asking to bring their charge to a playground or arrange a playdate is absolutely nothing like asking to have a different kid in your employers home 40+ hours a week for an entire month. You really don't see the difference?
I'm not going to keep arguing over this. OP asked for suggestions, I offered one.
Anonymous wrote:it would not annoy me. Screen time is a respite for parents, nannies should manage without it. If a nanny is unable to get the 3 yr old to nap or lie quietly with toys/books for one hour, she is probably not a good fit. Nanny needs a break, that I agree with.
You sound like the mom that turns on the Ipadc the second nanny leaves.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Would your former nanny be willing/able to watch your 3 year old with her new family? A temporary share for one month seems like it could work.
I'm not OP
It's not just about the former nanny being willing--it's about if the current family is open to this as well. Many families don't want to host a share with strangers, even temporarily. If I had a young infant, I wouldn't want a 3 year old coming into my home as a forced "share" for an entire month, and I'd be uncomfortable with my nanny even suggesting it.
I'm the PP you quoted. Yes, of course the other family would need to be on board. The part in bold, however...yikes. You'd hold it against your nanny for even asking?! That's a big red flag from you.
Yes, I would.
This situation would have zero benefit for the current family. Their child would get less attention and the family would lose privacy. All to benefit the nanny financially and another family?
Bold and inappropriate ask and shows an outrageous lack of judgement.
You're making so many assumptions by immediately jumping to the negative. My first post clearly said if the nanny was able, ie if she had permission from her new family.
In the vast hypothetical world, there are so many reasons why my suggestion could work.
-new nanny family is traveling all or part of August
-new nanny family has considered a share, but isn't sure if they want to. This could be a test run.
-who said new nanny family wouldn't benefit? They could negotiate a lower payment for August.
-new nanny family has been trying to find a share and hasn't had luck.
Or, the family could say no. And that's fine! They're well within their right.
My previous point was that you'd hold it against the nanny for simply asking a question where the answer could be "no." Would that carry over into everything else?
-Nanny asks to use PTO to leave early/take a day off.
-Nanny asks to take your child to a new playground
-Nanny asks to arrange a play date with someone they met at a park
Sheesh. OP hasn't even been back, so the point is moot.
-new nanny family is traveling all or part of August You specifically said "share." If the current family isn't around, that isn't a share.
-new nanny family has considered a share, but isn't sure if they want to. This could be a test run. Unlikely, but ok
-who said new nanny family wouldn't benefit? They could negotiate a lower payment for August. If the family was interested in a lower payment, they'd just put their child in daycare.
-new nanny family has been trying to find a share and hasn't had luck. Unlikely.
Nanny asks to use PTO to leave early/take a day off.
-Nanny asks to take your child to a new playground
-Nanny asks to arrange a play date with someone they met at a park[b]
You are ridiculous.
PTO is part of a nanny's contract and the nanny has the right to take it
Asking to bring their charge to a playground or arrange a playdate is absolutely nothing like asking to have a different kid in your employers home 40+ hours a week for an entire month. You really don't see the difference?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Would your former nanny be willing/able to watch your 3 year old with her new family? A temporary share for one month seems like it could work.
I'm not OP
It's not just about the former nanny being willing--it's about if the current family is open to this as well. Many families don't want to host a share with strangers, even temporarily. If I had a young infant, I wouldn't want a 3 year old coming into my home as a forced "share" for an entire month, and I'd be uncomfortable with my nanny even suggesting it.
I'm the PP you quoted. Yes, of course the other family would need to be on board. The part in bold, however...yikes. You'd hold it against your nanny for even asking?! That's a big red flag from you.
Yes, I would.
This situation would have zero benefit for the current family. Their child would get less attention and the family would lose privacy. All to benefit the nanny financially and another family?
Bold and inappropriate ask and shows an outrageous lack of judgement.
You're making so many assumptions by immediately jumping to the negative. My first post clearly said if the nanny was able, ie if she had permission from her new family.
In the vast hypothetical world, there are so many reasons why my suggestion could work.
-new nanny family is traveling all or part of August
-new nanny family has considered a share, but isn't sure if they want to. This could be a test run.
-who said new nanny family wouldn't benefit? They could negotiate a lower payment for August.
-new nanny family has been trying to find a share and hasn't had luck.
Or, the family could say no. And that's fine! They're well within their right.
My previous point was that you'd hold it against the nanny for simply asking a question where the answer could be "no." Would that carry over into everything else?
-Nanny asks to use PTO to leave early/take a day off.
-Nanny asks to take your child to a new playground
-Nanny asks to arrange a play date with someone they met at a park
Sheesh. OP hasn't even been back, so the point is moot.
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