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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is not for you then. I could entertain the kids in 20x20 back yard but that's me.
Are you looking for a job ? I am op I can introduce you with the family .
Lol!
This is a genius idea btw!!
You definitely need to decline any job offer working for this family.
You shouldn’t be receiving two different/conflicting set of directions from both parents but most importantly > the Father has a huge anxiety issue & it is outrageous that he would expect you + his two sons to remain indoors all day.
This job will likely make your headaches much worse.
You are much better off continuing your job search OP.
Good luck!
You shouldn’t be receiving two different/conflicting set of directions from both parents but most importantly > the Father has a huge anxiety issue & it is outrageous that he would expect you + his two sons to remain indoors all day.
This job will likely make your headaches much worse.
You are much better off continuing your job search OP.
Good luck!
Anonymous wrote:This is not for you then. I could entertain the kids in 20x20 back yard but that's me.
Are you looking for a job ? I am op I can introduce you with the family .
Anonymous wrote:Nanny and babysitter here. She might of thought you meant to pay her extra. I’ve been paid more or tipped etc loyalty and availability and reliability/trust goes a long way. I hope she doesn’t see this. If I did I wouldn’t work for you again
This 100%
You have the right to ask for payment of the services you provided; if i pay my mortgage late I’d pay a late fee interest! This isn’t any different, you have to clearly verbalize that you need to have direct deposit every Friday.
This is very simple, the job isn’t the right fit for you; if a potential employer has clearly shared that there’s some anxiety going on, I’d not want to take on that AND small home where there’s no space for toddlers, no thanks I’ll pass.
This is not for you then. I could entertain the kids in 20x20 back yard but that's me.
What is the question?
They offered you a job.
The terms of the job are not a good fit for you.
You should decline the offer.
They offered you a job.
The terms of the job are not a good fit for you.
You should decline the offer.
I got a job offer for taking care two children after school and daycare.
One is 6 years old and one is 3 years old and they both are boys .
I have to be with them from 2 to 7 or 3 to 7.
The issue is the dad don’t want me to take them out and their home is very tiny. They have very small yard as well.
I always took children out for walk or to the park.
They have lot of energy and to be honest I played with them all day long with blocks and read books for them but at one point I started to have headaches
Mom said she is okay if I take them out but dad said no .
So it’s complicated situation.
Finally dad said I can’t take them out since he has anxiety if something happens to them .
Which doesn’t make sense.
Before I go and do commitment I want advice from folks who are working in same situation.
I am on medication ( mental health so I don’t want to put myself anywhere that I have to deal with stress)
Many thanks
One is 6 years old and one is 3 years old and they both are boys .
I have to be with them from 2 to 7 or 3 to 7.
The issue is the dad don’t want me to take them out and their home is very tiny. They have very small yard as well.
I always took children out for walk or to the park.
They have lot of energy and to be honest I played with them all day long with blocks and read books for them but at one point I started to have headaches
Mom said she is okay if I take them out but dad said no .
So it’s complicated situation.
Finally dad said I can’t take them out since he has anxiety if something happens to them .
Which doesn’t make sense.
Before I go and do commitment I want advice from folks who are working in same situation.
I am on medication ( mental health so I don’t want to put myself anywhere that I have to deal with stress)
Many thanks
Anonymous wrote:If you agreed weekly and it’s electronic if should be consistent.
Having said that, if they pay you on Friday but it’s not in your bank account until Sat or Sun that is a bank transfer issue, not their fault.
You need to assume it’ll be in there Monday morning for banking/bill management
It's the family's responsability to make sure the nanny gets paid on Fridays or either day they agreed upon.
They have to make sure the transfer will go through and that she's able to get her money on time.
Anonymous wrote:Hello,
I am a new nanny and don’t know if I’m wrong or not….
I recently began working with a family and they are fantastic. The only issue I’m having right now is not receiving my payment on time. We agreed to weekly pay and I would assume I receive my payment at the end of the week by the end of my shift. It is never consistent. A few times I got paid on Saturday and one time on Sunday morning. Because of this I have asked if they were sending my payments over. I think they got upset that I’m asking. Am I wrong??? How should I go about this?? I mean we are all human beings with lives and responsibilities so im not understanding why they would get upset about it…..
I'll be blunt with you: you need to use your words and have a conversation. Ask to sit down with them so you're not confused about which days you'll be paid/how you'll be paid.
It's unusual to get paid for the previous week immediately at the end of your shift. Let's say you worked Monday March 3rd through Friday March 7th. If your contract states you'll get paid every Friday, you would be paid for that week on Friday, March 14th. This gives them time to go through the payroll service if you worked more hours and your typical pay needs to be adjusted.
You say you're paid electronically -- is that through your bank? Venmo? Do your hours ever change week by week?
Why are you assuming they're upset with you? Are you having these conversations via text, where tone can be easily misconstrued?
Anonymous wrote:I would not be able to work for parents who would implicitly tell me that I was not allowed to use their television while the children were around when that is what they would do.
It is very unfair of them to expect you to refrain from screens while there.
Sometimes with kids it is nice to have on the television for sound.
If parents cannot care for their kids without having to resort to television then they are not good parents.
I cannot work for hypocrites at all.
Now if they were a no screen family that would be entirely different.
Because then they would be practicing what they were preaching unto me!
If using TV makes them bad parents -- which I disagree with -- does using TV make you a bad nanny?
It's not hard for kids to learn that there are different rules with different adults. I never let kids eat in my car, for example. It's a choking hazard and I don't want the mess. If parents want to let their kids eat in their car, that's their rule. My car, my rule. When grandparents are visiting, I know that naps might not happen on schedule, meals might be a little more hectic, and "rules" bend a little.
I think it's very reasonable to say no TV when nanny is there. 3 YO can sit at the table and color/play with toys while you clean up the kitchen. When I have to clean up a kitchen, baby can play in the highchair with some water for splashing, or we'll have music on singing and dancing. 3 year old can also have quiet time in lieu of a nap.
If the parent needs the tv on for a “break”, then the nanny should be allowed the same courtesy. I hate nickel and dime families that want every pennies worth of work out of you.
Your sister is a criminal.
If you agreed weekly and it’s electronic if should be consistent.
Having said that, if they pay you on Friday but it’s not in your bank account until Sat or Sun that is a bank transfer issue, not their fault.
You need to assume it’ll be in there Monday morning for banking/bill management
Having said that, if they pay you on Friday but it’s not in your bank account until Sat or Sun that is a bank transfer issue, not their fault.
You need to assume it’ll be in there Monday morning for banking/bill management
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