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Anonymous wrote:Yes, find another job before your current charge outgrows naps entirely. Please find a job that pays you to study. Maybe just keep aiming for kids only under 9-12 months who still take 3 naps a day.
I love how rude people are to an honest question. It's not about the naps. It's not about having study time. You people respond as if I said OMG THEY EXPECT ME TO WORK!! Jesus.
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MB may be making a passive-aggressive move to break up the nap because she also feels your job is too easy. That also needs to be addressed. This will be harder. How often is she coming home?
I don't know that "too easy" is the right word, but if taking a 3 hour nap means that he doesn't go to bed until 10pm or wakes up at 4am or something, I can see how that would be annoying. If you are a SAHM, you can make that decision. But when the two of you are effectively splitting the care of this child, it is kind of unfair that you get the bonus time (long nap), and she has to deal with the consequences (up late, wakes up during the night, etc)
The nap is not the issue. It's not my job to decide when and how long he naps, I go along with the schedule his parents want him to be on. It's not as if I'm making decisions on my own that negatively affect them when I leave - this is the schedule he is ALWAYS on, whether I am here or not. It's not "unfair" that I get the bonus time - she's his mother. If she wants that then she should be a SAHM.
Anonymous wrote:No sympathy for the school work thing -- you have been very lucky to have this kind of time to get paid to do your homework. It's not a work/study job at the library.
A 2-3 hour nap is long, but not crazy for an 18-month old, and obviously someone has to be there! The only way to get DB to stop is to address him about the comments directly. Spend some time composing a polite, non-confrontational way to say the comments are hurting your feelings.
MB may be making a passive-aggressive move to break up the nap because she also feels your job is too easy. That also needs to be addressed. This will be harder. How often is she coming home?
It's typical for him, we are out all morning and he gets himself worn out. He sleeps the same for the parents as he does for me. My job being "too easy" is really none of my concern, we laid out my duties and responsibilities and I do all of them with no issue. I have the time to do my work because he takes a nap, not because Im neglecting my charge or other parts of my job to do homework. She comes home 4/5 days a week.
Anonymous wrote:Man nannies really will do anything to work as little as possible, even harm the child.... No 1 year old should be sleeping for 18 hours a day, no matter how tough you feel your job may be. I was on maternity leave for 4 months after DC was born and then when our nanny took over I specifically instructed her to not put him down for naps, at all.
Where in the world do you get any sort of harm out of this? 18 hours a day? Read the post before you rudely respond. No clue what you're talking about with having a 4 month old not have any naps at all, either. That's ridiculous.
Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. I thought your charge took 2 -3 hours AFTERNOON naps a day yet you are also saying MB wakes charges up when home for lunch. So that doesn't quite add up. Also you are annoyed with MB for interrupting your "only" time, yet on the other hand DB is saying you have 3 hours a day to yourself. Sorry I don't feel too much sympathy that you can't get your school work done. If MB is there for an hour max, that still leaves you 1 -2 hours to yourself... I think all the DB/MB out there would love to work full time AND have 2-3 hours DURING work for personal time! work is work... you are getting paid so if she interrupts it so be it. it is on her dime.
Her lunch is in the late afternoon so she comes home for HER lunch during his nap.
Hi all. I have been nanny to a beautiful boy for over a year. He is 18 months now. My schedule is 7AM-5PM, $15 an hour. While I get along with the parents and we have no real issues, there are a few small things that bother me and I would like feedback on. The main thing is DB's comments. My charge takes one afternoon nap that usually lasts 2-3 hours. At least three times prior to this week, DB has made comments along the lines of "must be nice to only work a half day!" "wow, you really get the whole afternoon off, huh?" Things like that. The past few weeks baby's afternoon naps are getting shorter. Yesterday as I was leaving and we were talking about the day, DB says something again about what a big break I get and how I must be upset that now I don't get to "do nothing" all afternoon. I am starting to get offended by these comments and feel it's pretty rude of him to say things like this. Am I overreacting? I keep things clean and neat, dishes done. It's as if he is insulted he has to pay me for being here while his child is sleeping.
Another issue I have is with MB. She works close by so often stops home for lunch and to take their dog out. The problem is that she ALWAYS comes during nap time, and often wakes baby up. Then she will cuddle him for a few minutes then back to work, while half his nap is now gone and he is awake and crabby. Sometimes it really feels like she is purposefully being loud. I can't tell someone not to come to their own home and I get that her lunch is when it is but come on! It is so frustrating. On days he isn't woken up, she will make a lunch and eat and chat. Which is fine, but this is MY TIME!! My only time during the day and often when I am trying to get school work done. I don't know how to address this or if I should.
Third issue is the dog. They haven't asked me to walk the dog or anything, probably because they used to have a dog walker so they know full well that it is actually a job. However, the dog just annoys the crap out of me. Barks at everything, constantly scrounging for food. DB insisted on me staying after one day to walk the dog with him so I could see what it's like "just in case". And now today come to find out the dog is has been sick and is better now but coughing so forcefully she vomits. MB said she is "better" but just in case left out cleaning supplies. It's not a huge deal but it's not my job!!! Am I totally overreacting here? These are all small issues I suppose but it's building frustration. Thanks for the help!
Another issue I have is with MB. She works close by so often stops home for lunch and to take their dog out. The problem is that she ALWAYS comes during nap time, and often wakes baby up. Then she will cuddle him for a few minutes then back to work, while half his nap is now gone and he is awake and crabby. Sometimes it really feels like she is purposefully being loud. I can't tell someone not to come to their own home and I get that her lunch is when it is but come on! It is so frustrating. On days he isn't woken up, she will make a lunch and eat and chat. Which is fine, but this is MY TIME!! My only time during the day and often when I am trying to get school work done. I don't know how to address this or if I should.
Third issue is the dog. They haven't asked me to walk the dog or anything, probably because they used to have a dog walker so they know full well that it is actually a job. However, the dog just annoys the crap out of me. Barks at everything, constantly scrounging for food. DB insisted on me staying after one day to walk the dog with him so I could see what it's like "just in case". And now today come to find out the dog is has been sick and is better now but coughing so forcefully she vomits. MB said she is "better" but just in case left out cleaning supplies. It's not a huge deal but it's not my job!!! Am I totally overreacting here? These are all small issues I suppose but it's building frustration. Thanks for the help!
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