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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Our current nanny is a mother of two, but they're in their teens. It can create scheduling problems that we've never had with a childless nanny, but it's workable.
I would not, however, hire a nanny who wanted to bring her own child. I am not interested in subsidizing someone's stay at home parenting decision. So many are women who want to stay home with their babies and decide that they'll "nanny" another child too, at full rates, and I should be grateful for the opportunity for my child to have a playmate brought to the house each day. Nope - not buying it.
Also - huge liability issue. I can get workers comp protection for nanny, but not for nanny's child.
And: equality of opportunities, privileges, etc. I may want my children to be able to go to certain paid activities or have memberships at certain places (think aquarium, pool, etc.). I am not going to pay for nanny's child to attend, and I am not going to alter what I want my kids to do if nanny's kid could not participate. I do not want nanny to be in a position where she'd be making decisions based on what her child versus my child wants to do. If she decides "in favor" of something better for her kid, well that's not why I have a nanny, is it? If she decides "in favor" of my kids, resentment can grow.
I don't want to pay for food for another person in addition to nanny (my kids eat a ton, so don't say it's negligible). I don't want to have to adjust my kids' schedule to accomodate another kid's. I don't want to have to make room in my house for another child's naps or my car for another child's seat. If we wanted another child in our home, we'd have added another to our family. It just in no way is helpful or positive for me as an employer and has only downsides.
These are great reasons. There is zero chance I would hire you, Sorry OP.
Thank you for your honesty. Being a nanny is all I have ever been and all I will ever want to be ( as a profession). I am hoping there are some families out there that will see that my love for their child(ren) is the same as it is for my own. Being a nanny (IMO) is like being a step parent. You personally did not have them but you care about their well being and up bringing. You want to be there for all their achievements, their firsts. And know that even in their challenges they will still come to me for help and nurturing.
I understand that families want the nanny to give 100% of their attention to their charge. I would not ask for anything less out of nanny.
thank you all for your options it has definitely been an enlightenment.
Can someone PLEASE enlighten me!!! Why will parents in this area not give a second look to a professional nanny that has her own child and needs to bring it/them with?
Do you believe she will take less care of your child(ren)?
I can tell you, this can not be further from the truth. Most nanny moms work their butts off to prove that. In reality its the total opposite. Our kids are the ones that lose out on the arrangement. But no one is giving these professional, educated, nurturing nannies a second look because they wanted to have a family too.
Please enlighten me!
mg
Do you believe she will take less care of your child(ren)?
I can tell you, this can not be further from the truth. Most nanny moms work their butts off to prove that. In reality its the total opposite. Our kids are the ones that lose out on the arrangement. But no one is giving these professional, educated, nurturing nannies a second look because they wanted to have a family too.
Please enlighten me!
mg
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