Nannies with own children

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but I just can't imagine how awful you rich white women feel, asking your nanny to abandon her own child, just for you. It's not like caring for one child (yours), is superior to caring for two children (yours and hers). Do you really think her child might contaminate yours? Why not enhance your child's experience of real life, by welcoming the nanny's child?

Interesting question.

Not really. There are no advantages for an employer to allow a nanny to bring her child. It only benefits the nanny. It costs the parents more in liability and in the loss of all the advantages of nanny care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry, but I just can't imagine how awful you rich white women feel, asking your nanny to abandon her own child, just for you. It's not like caring for one child (yours), is superior to caring for two children (yours and hers). Do you really think her child might contaminate yours? Why not enhance your child's experience of real life, by welcoming the nanny's child?

Interesting question.

Not really. There are no advantages for an employer to allow a nanny to bring her child. It only benefits the nanny. It costs the parents more in liability and in the loss of all the advantages of nanny care.

You should take that you-know-what, out of your you-know-what. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be creative and see how you can care for your own child and someone else's child. If you're good, you can find the right match, especially if the other family has only one child.

This.

[Anonymous]

I've employed a nanny with a child who came along while caring for ours. Growing up, I was really good friends with my nanny's daughter, so I have generally positive associations with the set up. I was happy to give it a try, and it worked out well for the most part, but I can see that it's definitely not for everyone. Take a moment to imagine another person's child, covered in snot - for over a month, who's teething, and licking everything you own. I have a high ick tolerance, but it's a lot to ask of some one to just suck it up when there's this kid who's had a runny nose for a month and her snot is all over your stuff. Plus, you're paying for that arrangement, above and beyond other alternatives.

We've got two kids, so there are also practical considered. It's just not physically possible to hold both babies and hold my preschooler's hand while crossing the street. I'm sympathetic to that and therefore didn't ask the nanny to take my kids to as many activities - it was too much for her to handle. The few days we tried it, she was clearly at the end of her rope at the end of the day. So I stopped asking. For me, that wasn't a dealbreaker, but for a lot of families employing a nanny, her not being able to take the kids to dance class would defeat the purpose of employing a nanny. It's different than having 3 kids from the same family who are spaced years apart - the older one should need less hand-holding (I mean that literally - you don't have to hold their hand in as many situations) and the shared germ factor is already there because they live together - you're not bringing in additional germs to be licked upon all surfaces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry, but I just can't imagine how awful you rich white women feel, asking your nanny to abandon her own child, just for you. It's not like caring for one child (yours), is superior to caring for two children (yours and hers). Do you really think her child might contaminate yours? Why not enhance your child's experience of real life, by welcoming the nanny's child?

Interesting question.

Not really. There are no advantages for an employer to allow a nanny to bring her child. It only benefits the nanny. It costs the parents more in liability and in the loss of all the advantages of nanny care.

You should take that you-know-what, out of your you-know-what. Thanks.

Do you have charges or children of your own? Maybe a husband?

Go tell them what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I just can't imagine how awful you rich white women feel, asking your nanny to abandon her own child, just for you. It's not like caring for one child (yours), is superior to caring for two children (yours and hers). Do you really think her child might contaminate yours? Why not enhance your child's experience of real life, by welcoming the nanny's child?

Interesting question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be creative and see how you can care for your own child and someone else's child. If you're good, you can find the right match, especially if the other family has only one child.

+1 I am doing this now op and it's working out well! My charge actually has the same birthday as my son! They're like brothers. It's been so great!

[Anonymous]

20:13, why are you resurrecting a thread that's over a year old and adding nothing to the conversation? Trolling for a fight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I just can't imagine how awful you rich white women feel, asking your nanny to abandon her own child, just for you. It's not like caring for one child (yours), is superior to caring for two children (yours and hers). Do you really think her child might contaminate yours? Why not enhance your child's experience of real life, by welcoming the nanny's child?

Interesting question.

[Anonymous]

I brought my infant daughter to work with me. The family I started working with when I was 3 months pregnant (yes, I did tell them I was pregnant when they hired me) paid me the same salary. Then 5 years later I had my son. Brought him with me to work to family I was with over 3 years. Paid me the same. Then, their kids went to full time preschool and had to find new position. I found but had to charge less... double less what I was making. $12/h - sucks but I’m thankful I can be with my son everyday.

[Anonymous]

I have found jobs where I can bring my son with me. It worked out wonderful. My son made lots of friends over the years.