I HATE MY JOB due to Covid

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Anonymous wrote:Your job is first and foremost to implement what parents ask and decide. It's not up to you to push whatever "methods" you feel are best. It's also completely crazy that you talk of disciplining small babies. If parents want them to be held - then that's what they pay for.

When you go to a hair dresser you don't let them do whatever they feel like? You express what you want and then pay money for it.

Exactly the same here. You're a lousy nanny if you don't understand it.

A sitter does exactly what you want without question.

A nanny discusses with you. We bring you the research to show why something is or is not helpful to children at your child’s age and stage.

Guess what? Parents are also researching. And making decisions in the context of their family. Having a constant back and forth negotiations with nanny about what to do or what not to do with the baby is tiring and so unnecessary.

Also - note that OP was not trying to discuss or show research to employers. She just wanted to be sneaky about doing what she wants to do, without parents' consent and she is annoyed that she can't because they are at home. She should by all means quit if she finds it untolerable.

I agree that just doing what she wants is unacceptable. But I also know that ftp can get overwhelmed easily with the amount of information available. It’s easier if I present two opposing views, preferably with a middle ground. Then, I highlight the pros and cons in terms of their child and family, and they decide. Rather than it taking hours (and the parents missing something key could to the sheer volume of sites, books, podcasts, videos, etc), it takes all of 15 minutes maximum to pay out all the alternatives and voice my opinion/preference, then they can get back to me when they’ve had a chance to discuss privately.

Can we please stop assuming that FTP=frazzled idiots? It's offensive and patronizing. If they hold jobs earning enough to afford to pay you, and then some, maybe, just maybe they are not brainless and can undertake some basic research and filter the info? After all, they had months to prepare while expecting the baby. And honestly, nobody reads ALL of the books or all of the sites. They pick resources based on ped's recommendations, supplement with resources other parents in their circle recommend, etc. It's not rocket science.

First time parent I take it?

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Anonymous wrote:Quit if you want. But I think you’ll problems finding a new job. Do you think some wealthy family is going to be impressed you quit your last job because the parents were working from home, the house was too small, and you were upset the parents were picking up crying babies?

I'd hire this women in a heartbeat. Everyone has a breaking point. The small space is unrealistic for the amount of bodies.

[Anonymous]

Find another no, give two week notice, leave and never look back!

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Anonymous wrote:Where are you finding jobs with parents that work outside of the home during these times? I also make over $65,000 so that is a concern as well as I think about looking for other employment.

You find parents with bigger houses, OP. My employers are both home now too but I never see them! We have a playroom, bedrooms, family room, huge yard, pool and swing set outside.

I’m at around $65k too before bonus and healthcare insurance for two brothers (2.5 and 6 months).

I promise you that you can find much better than what you’re suffering!!

This.

We have a nanny and DH and I share an office. We cannot hear a single thing. We even have our own fridge, Pelton, and attached bathroom in our office. We walk in that office at 8am, I exercise at lunch and leave the office at 5om. Nanny has her routine and I have mine. Sometimes I join the kids for a quick lunch, but that is all.

Also our older child is in school 4 days a week.

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Anonymous wrote:Believe it or not some parents spoiled babies
Rotten don’t want them to cry So you have to pick babies up rock then to sleep
And want to be in a share not thinking about the other selfish

I would go crazy too

You cannot spoil a baby.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha pathetic!!!