single mom of a 3 year old/law enforcement officer/shift work/child care issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"OP isnt willing to pay 7 dollars for a loaf of bread"

or

"OP isnt able to pay 7 dollars for a loaf of bread"

Why use language meant to shame her? She is trying to figure out a situation more stressful than most of you will experience. Leaving an abuser without social, financial and famililal resources?

And you jump to shame her?

You people suck

Abuse is awful for any victim, OP. I think you don't realize how routinely nannies are abused and taken advantage of behind closed doors. Of course people like to say, "just leave", but as you know that's easier said than done. Good that you got away from an abuser. I hope certain nannies will leave their abusers, especially the illegal ones who are very afraid of getting deported by President Obama.

Meanwhile, in another conversation where a commenter is actually trying to one-up the OP on who suffers most. Seriously, could you just offer a constructive insight into her dilemma without making it about yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry OP. I do feel for you. I almost cry when I read your thread.

Try care.com or I would recommend that if you know some foreigners friends, for me, Indian and parkistani friends, they may know some ethnic persons. These people could be very experience nanny but older and unable to speak good English despite having citizen or perm res status in the USA. They usually want to work for lower than market rates as they mostly have grown up kids whom are well off and just want to have somethings to do. That how my foreign friends during residency had got their nannies.

Wonderful idea because it is just fine to screw older women who do not speak English very well. They do not deserve to be paid for their time and are so stupid they will work for $3.00/an hour.

People should not have children if they cannot afford them! Nobody owes OP or anyone else free childcare.

The "don't have children if you can't afford them" comments are beyond ignorant. Please take some time to form an actual opinion instead of some tired, reactionary outburst that has no relevance to the situation being discussed. Really think about your own motivation in posting comments on this thread, because your belligerence is so thoroughly misplaced with this OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps find another single mom who is also in law enforcement shift work, and get a place together/co-parent together? Don't know if it is possible, but it is an idea....

This is a good idea. Sometimes a nanny-share works very well for families and the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about finding a 24 hour daycare? There are some good centers and in home daycares that provide care 24 hours a day. Yes your child won't be in their own bed but it will be your cheapest route. Most people willing to babysit won't be able to work overnights as they will be high school or college age

This is your answer, OP. Don't use friends and neighbors, because no one wants to be put in that position unless an emergency arises. Nannies are luxuries and it is out of your price range. No one is faulting you for not being able to afford one, but you are not being very realistic. Daycares are what most people use because they are more affordable, especially in home daycares. You will find some over night or 24 hour places that can accommodate your child. Check craigslist, a lot of daycare centers post there. That is where you will find your cheapest childcare options. It isn't ideal, but it is likely your best option.

[Anonymous]

I think home daycare is probably the solution for OP. You know, where a stay at home mom is already home with her children and takes in a few extra children to care for in order to provide some income for the household.

There is someone out there that is the right fit for OP. Hard to find though.

Good luck.