Why do most Parents here feel entitled to Cheap Elite Childcare (Nanny Care)?

[Anonymous]

It's another post from Nanny Obvious. She makes a declaration and then attacks anyone who doesn't support her view with inane comments.

[Anonymous]

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In a perfect world, yes, a child's family would be a source of stability. But most families are far from that, in reality. After parents divorce, at least one of them wants to hurry up and get another partner.

Ermm...divorce doesn't happen in "most families". And neither does it erase parents from the child's life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
In a perfect world, yes, a child's family would be a source of stability. But most families are far from that, in reality. After parents divorce, at least one of them wants to hurry up and get another partner.

Ermm...divorce doesn't happen in "most families". And neither does it erase parents from the child's life.

Has the divorce rate dropped below 50 percent? That would be good news.

[Anonymous]

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In a perfect world, yes, a child's family would be a source of stability. But most families are far from that, in reality. After parents divorce, at least one of them wants to hurry up and get another partner.

They are still parents and they will be there long after the nanny's gone. Family is the only thing that deserves attachment.

Some nannies actually stay on, while a newly divorced parent moves far away. Sometimes the new mate isn't local.
Not every parent puts their child's needs first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
In a perfect world, yes, a child's family would be a source of stability. But most families are far from that, in reality. After parents divorce, at least one of them wants to hurry up and get another partner.

Ermm...divorce doesn't happen in "most families". And neither does it erase parents from the child's life.

Has the divorce rate dropped below 50 percent? That would be good news.

Actually, it has, and for certain segments of the population (coincidentally most likely to hire nannies) it has never been 50%. Are you that cliche-ridden in your work as well?

Even if we go with your (incorrect) claim, let's say the likelihood of divorce is 50%. The likelihood of a nanny eventually disappearing from a child's life is 100%. Which brings me to....

Family is the only thing deserving of attachment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
In a perfect world, yes, a child's family would be a source of stability. But most families are far from that, in reality. After parents divorce, at least one of them wants to hurry up and get another partner.

They are still parents and they will be there long after the nanny's gone. Family is the only thing that deserves attachment.

Some nannies actually stay on, while a newly divorced parent moves far away. Sometimes the new mate isn't local.
Not every parent puts their child's needs first.

You're coming up with ridiculous scenarios to make yourself look right. The nannies all go eventually. The parents stay.

The family is the only thing deserving of attachment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
In a perfect world, yes, a child's family would be a source of stability. But most families are far from that, in reality. After parents divorce, at least one of them wants to hurry up and get another partner.

Ermm...divorce doesn't happen in "most families". And neither does it erase parents from the child's life.

Has the divorce rate dropped below 50 percent? That would be good news.

Actually, it has, and for certain segments of the population (coincidentally most likely to hire nannies) it has never been 50%. Are you that cliche-ridden in your work as well?

Even if we go with your (incorrect) claim, let's say the likelihood of divorce is 50%. The likelihood of a nanny eventually disappearing from a child's life is 100%. Which brings me to....

Family is the only thing deserving of attachment.

There certainly are cherished nannies who stay close to wonderful families until they die. I know one family who even provided financial support for their nanny (long after she retired) until she died. Such is a real relationship with a loving caregiver of your child. Contrast that to your revolving door nannies, depriving a young child of any continuity of care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
In a perfect world, yes, a child's family would be a source of stability. But most families are far from that, in reality. After parents divorce, at least one of them wants to hurry up and get another partner.

Ermm...divorce doesn't happen in "most families". And neither does it erase parents from the child's life.

Has the divorce rate dropped below 50 percent? That would be good news.

Actually, it has, and for certain segments of the population (coincidentally most likely to hire nannies) it has never been 50%. Are you that cliche-ridden in your work as well?

Even if we go with your (incorrect) claim, let's say the likelihood of divorce is 50%. The likelihood of a nanny eventually disappearing from a child's life is 100%. Which brings me to....

Family is the only thing deserving of attachment.

There certainly are cherished nannies who stay close to wonderful families until they die. I know one family who even provided financial support for their nanny (long after she retired) until she died. Such is a real relationship with a loving caregiver of your child. Contrast that to your revolving door nannies, depriving a young child of any continuity of care.

That's not the rule and certainly not in this country (that's why you know ONE such family). And actually, the real professional has enough retirement savings to make charity unnecessary.

Nannies come and go. Family stays. You know nothing of my children so let's all stop pretending that you do.

Family is the only thing deserving of attachment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
In a perfect world, yes, a child's family would be a source of stability. But most families are far from that, in reality. After parents divorce, at least one of them wants to hurry up and get another partner.

Ermm...divorce doesn't happen in "most families". And neither does it erase parents from the child's life.

Has the divorce rate dropped below 50 percent? That would be good news.

Actually, it has, and for certain segments of the population (coincidentally most likely to hire nannies) it has never been 50%. Are you that cliche-ridden in your work as well?

Even if we go with your (incorrect) claim, let's say the likelihood of divorce is 50%. The likelihood of a nanny eventually disappearing from a child's life is 100%. Which brings me to....

Family is the only thing deserving of attachment.

There certainly are cherished nannies who stay close to wonderful families until they die. I know one family who even provided financial support for their nanny (long after she retired) until she died. Such is a real relationship with a loving caregiver of your child. Contrast that to your revolving door nannies, depriving a young child of any continuity of care.

That's not the rule and certainly not in this country (that's why you know ONE such family). And actually, the real professional has enough retirement savings to make charity unnecessary.

Nannies come and go. Family stays. You know nothing of my children so let's all stop pretending that you do.

Family is the only thing deserving of attachment.

Good luck to you and your family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents know that stability of care is critical during the earliest stages of their child's life, hence "the foundation years." They'll do almost anything to avoid unnecessary nanny switching. They understand the probable consequences from to many broken attachments, especially with primary caregivers.

Wishful thinking.

If we have to get through a nanny transition I'm sure my kids will be sad and then they will be just fine.

Perfect. Let's not lose any sleep over the severed attachments. Isn't there a book written by adults who still remember their beloved nannies? Sorry I don't recall the title. The reality might be more than you can handle, so keep your busy little head in the sand.

+1 I have to agree with the nanny on this one. The early years are the foundation for a child's security -- and childcare givers are a huge part of this. You children will survive, Of course, your children would survive if you (the mother) dropped dead -- but that would not be optimum, would it? It is important to hire and keep the right nanny for your family.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents know that stability of care is critical during the earliest stages of their child's life, hence "the foundation years." They'll do almost anything to avoid unnecessary nanny switching. They understand the probable consequences from to many broken attachments, especially with primary caregivers.

Wishful thinking.

If we have to get through a nanny transition I'm sure my kids will be sad and then they will be just fine.

Perfect. Let's not lose any sleep over the severed attachments. Isn't there a book written by adults who still remember their beloved nannies? Sorry I don't recall the title. The reality might be more than you can handle, so keep your busy little head in the sand.

+1 I have to agree with the nanny on this one. The early years are the foundation for a child's security -- and childcare givers are a huge part of this. You children will survive, Of course, your children would survive if you (the mother) dropped dead -- but that would not be optimum, would it? It is important to hire and keep the right nanny for your family.

Well said.

There are way more books written about beloved mothers than beloved nannies.

[Anonymous]

Back to the question at hand-- the answer is tied to why so many nannies here think that they are worth gold but paid in coal.

[Anonymous]

Reality-- MBs pay market share, not cheap. Nannycare is not elite.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some parents know that stability of care is critical during the earliest stages of their child's life, hence "the foundation years." They'll do almost anything to avoid unnecessary nanny switching. They understand the probable consequences from to many broken attachments, especially with primary caregivers.

Wishful thinking.

If we have to get through a nanny transition I'm sure my kids will be sad and then they will be just fine.

Perfect. Let's not lose any sleep over the severed attachments. Isn't there a book written by adults who still remember their beloved nannies? Sorry I don't recall the title. The reality might be more than you can handle, so keep your busy little head in the sand.

+1 I have to agree with the nanny on this one. The early years are the foundation for a child's security -- and childcare givers are a huge part of this. You children will survive, Of course, your children would survive if you (the mother) dropped dead -- but that would not be optimum, would it? It is important to hire and keep the right nanny for your family.

Well said.

There are way more books written about beloved mothers than beloved nannies.

Yes, of course but you totally missed PP's point. A childcare provider is a huge part of a child's sense of security and he/she will carry that with them long after they have forgotten the nanny. It is an emotional foundation.

Please - stop being so defensive. No one ever takes the mother's place.