We have a wonderful nanny...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
It is apparent to me that the MB is not putting her cup in the dishwasher because the dishwasher is full of clean dishes. Emptying the dishwasher is a five or ten minute job, not a thirty second job. That's five or ten minutes that the mom may not have as she's trying to feed the kids and get out the door on time. But the nanny certainly can find five minutes to empty a dishwasher when she works with one baby who takes several naps.

To the poster who said the MB needs to pay more if she wants to ask the nanny to start emptying the dishwasher--you are nuts. Jobs evolve as needs are identified. If my boss assigned me to handle some new five minute task every day and I said "okay, but that will cost you another dollar an hour," I would be laughed out of a job.


If that five minute job had absolutely nothing to do with your job, you're damn right it would require more money, especially if that job is actually someone else's and they are changing/adding to your title. If your boss asks you to start cleaning out his email mail box daily for him, it takes 5 minutes, but 1) it isn't your job, 2) some people are particular about how said job is done, and 3) it changes the nature of your job and will undoubtedly snowball. In OPs case, today it the coffee cup, next week its all of the breakfast dishes, in a month they are bothering to do any dishes, soon enough she's cleaning up after all meals, washing pots and pans, straightening the kitchen, and more. No. If you want to start adding housekeeping needs as you see them, the privilege will cost you, or you will evolve yourself right out of a nanny.

And your attitude is why you'll never be a $35/hr nanny.

I have no desire to be one thanks, and I think people who pay one that much are foolish. I'll finish my degree and be on my way.

[Anonymous]

I apologize for my comment, then, 13:36.

[Anonymous]

If you hired an electrician to come to wire a new light, would you expect him to move your coffee cup into the dishwasher?

You are confusing the nanny with a household member. If your husband consistently ignored your coffee cup, that would be rude. It's everyone's job in the family to keep the house clean.

The thing is, the nanny is not a family member. She is there to do a job--take care of your child--just like the electrician.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will clean and organize as I go without complaint but you know what I'm thinking when I see your coffee mug sitting on the table...how hard is it to put it in the sink. You know what I'm thinking when I see an over flowing trash can, how hard is it to take out when you leave for work. We all have busy lives but it's no excuse to get upset when someone who is doing there job, doesn't pick up your slack. I have no pity for working parents, just because you have kids doesn't mean it's our responsibility to "help" with everything unless that is blatantly written in our agreement. I can be nice but as soon as you start expecting more regularly and are upset when it's not done is the day we need to either cut ties or have a serious conversation.

I get up early put in a load of laundry, take my dog for a walk and organize any mess I see before I have to be at work at 7:30am everyday. I then spend the next 10 hours caring for two toddlers before I head to my night classes. I spend my weekends cleaning without help from my roommate, babysitting my niece and doing homework. If I can do all that working 50 hours a week, going to school full time year around without a spouse, dog walker or cleaning service then you can put your coffee cup in the sink. If you feel overwhelmed then it's time to pay for additional services or work out a cleaning schedule with your husband.

+ 1000.
I work 50-55 hour weeks and I'm in grad school FT. I work 10 starting at 8am daily. I go to school for 4 hours in the evening, then have homework+studying for 2-3 hours. I still find time to handle my responsibilities i.e. working out, cleaning, laundry, shopping, and still find time for a social life. I am young, only 23, with no spouse ( I have a boyfriend) no kids, and no pets. It can be done. I respect that my employers work long, hard hours but that is no excuse for laziness. Thankfully my employers agree. On top of working 50-80 hour weeks and raising a child, they are still active in their home and community.

The fact that you get annoyed when your nanny doesn't put away YOUR mess is ridiculous. While you are thinking " it only takes a few seconds for her to grab my cup and put in dishwasher", you could have done that. It's not her responsibility, anymore than it is yours, to clean up each others messes. That is simply pure laziness on your part and trying to take advantage of her. Clean up your own damn mess instead of expecting your child's nanny to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel very fortunate that my daughter has a great nanny. She is well-educated, knows a great deal about childhood development, is kind, loving and funny with the baby, is never late and is kind of amazing about thinking up solutions to problems/issues we have encountered over the last year. She never seems to be in a bad mood and our child loves her. She does all child-related duties - including shopping for ingredients to make homemade baby food and all kitchen clean up, baby's laundry and ironing, cleaning up baby's room and playroom, leaving the house exactly as she found it.

And I mean, she leaves the house exactly as she found it. If I leave a coffee cup on the table that is where it is when I come home. I think she would step over any article of clothing DH or I may have dropped before she'd pick it up (never actually happened but you get the picture). Any time we leave a few dishes in the sink, she puts them to the side and washes only the baby's dishes, pot and pans, bottles, etc. She hand washes everything, dries and puts the dishes away and has never opened our dishwasher. For herself, she brings her own lunch and never even uses a drinking glass in our house.

While we agreed that her only duties were to be child-related, it sometimes bugs me that she won't move my used coffee cup from the table to the sink or stick in a load of laundry for DH and I that is sitting in the basket next to the washer when she is done with the baby's laundry.

Please know that I have no intention of firing her and do thank my lucky stars that we found her. But am I wrong to feel bugged?

Yes, you're wrong to feel bugged.

Next time, write a contract that explicitly states what you expect her to do. In my case, I include laundry, kitchen, floors, and more. And I'm fair, reasonable, and know what it takes to be a full-time caregiver and domestic manager (because I did it myself when I was a SAHM).

Clarity, explicit contracts, communication, demonstration. You can find what you're looking for, but don't pile it on after the fact. Be up front.

[Anonymous]

She does everything that you, her mother, should be doing and you are complaining about a m damn coffee cup?! You are an ungrateful bitch. I hope the nanny leaves you as you do not deserve her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel very fortunate that my daughter has a great nanny. She is well-educated, knows a great deal about childhood development, is kind, loving and funny with the baby, is never late and is kind of amazing about thinking up solutions to problems/issues we have encountered over the last year. She never seems to be in a bad mood and our child loves her. She does all child-related duties - including shopping for ingredients to make homemade baby food and all kitchen clean up, baby's laundry and ironing, cleaning up baby's room and playroom, leaving the house exactly as she found it.

And I mean, she leaves the house exactly as she found it. If I leave a coffee cup on the table that is where it is when I come home. I think she would step over any article of clothing DH or I may have dropped before she'd pick it up (never actually happened but you get the picture). Any time we leave a few dishes in the sink, she puts them to the side and washes only the baby's dishes, pot and pans, bottles, etc. She hand washes everything, dries and puts the dishes away and has never opened our dishwasher. For herself, she brings her own lunch and never even uses a drinking glass in our house.

While we agreed that her only duties were to be child-related, it sometimes bugs me that she won't move my used coffee cup from the table to the sink or stick in a load of laundry for DH and I that is sitting in the basket next to the washer when she is done with the baby's laundry.

Please know that I have no intention of firing her and do thank my lucky stars that we found her. But am I wrong to feel bugged?

I think your nanny lean in the beginner when shE's coming to USA,when I come hire I herd lots this thing don't do that,do only thing relative a baby. And she's continue to do that,this call,horse nannies,rsrsrsrsr.

Your incoherent posts are becoming a nuisance. It's fine if English is not your first language but could you at least start to attempt some semblance of correct grammar and comprehensible speech?

You can shut-up and leave her alone.