MB asked me to work a few hours on Thanksgiving!!

[Anonymous]

OK, I am an MB. i am puzzled. We pay our nanny for Thanksgiving and Black Friday and she is not expected to work. I mean I am confused about the conversation of letting nannies have more hours. Are not they getting paid anyway? My nanny was trying to leave early today without prior notice and wanted to get paid for it. I thought that was pretty crappy on her part because we work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, I am an MB. i am puzzled. We pay our nanny for Thanksgiving and Black Friday and she is not expected to work. I mean I am confused about the conversation of letting nannies have more hours. Are not they getting paid anyway? My nanny was trying to leave early today without prior notice and wanted to get paid for it. I thought that was pretty crappy on her part because we work

Thursday is a holiday - so.holiday pay not regular hours. There is a difference. If your boss came to you on Monday and said I expect you to be here on thanksgiving at 7am because I'm already paying you for the day-would you be ticked?

Friday is a different story that is not a holiday. As far as leaving early well that's on her for being mad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This isn't that different than a nanny trying to change her schedule, or change the terms of her contract. You all act like that is something unforgivable and a firing offense. Don't "ask" your nanny to work a holiday, unless you are one hundred percent sure she would jump at the money, or that she has the cajones to tell you no.

To the MB who said she is cooking for 40 people and "needs" the extra help, ask yourself how poor people manage it, and let your nanny have her day off.

I work hard to make sure I don't HAVE to live like a poor person.

Lots of people work hard and are still poor. How about working hard to be kind and considerate. Your desire for extra hands on a family holiday should not trump your nanny's right to be with her family. The fact that you think it does, says you should work harder at being a good person.

Settle down. My desire for extra hands is simply because ... I could use an extra set of hands. The nanny has four days in a row off; and I am asking if she wants to work half of one before festivities begin. People need to grow some balls and have both confidence and backbone. If she doesn't want to work, just say that. It's that simple.

Why not ask family/close friends like NORMAL people would at a holiday dinner?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OK, I am an MB. i am puzzled. We pay our nanny for Thanksgiving and Black Friday and she is not expected to work. I mean I am confused about the conversation of letting nannies have more hours. Are not they getting paid anyway? My nanny was trying to leave early today without prior notice and wanted to get paid for it. I thought that was pretty crappy on her part because we work

Thursday is a holiday - so.holiday pay not regular hours. There is a difference. If your boss came to you on Monday and said I expect you to be here on thanksgiving at 7am because I'm already paying you for the day-would you be ticked?

Friday is a different story that is not a holiday. As far as leaving early well that's on her for being mad.

Yeah, I definitely would not like it. However, I work in an office environment and work does not end when I live the office. I was not asked to work on Thursday explicitly but with our aggressive deadlines i will be working tomorrow a few hours without being paid 1.5 of the rate.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny offered to come in and help (I declined) and stayed later on Wednesday. She has paid leave on Thursday and Friday, so her offer was not driven by extra money. She is a good person, we lucked out.

[Anonymous]

^ a nanny who does not offer to work on a MAJOR holiday is not a bad nanny. You guys are nuts. - MB

[Anonymous]

I don't see the big deal. OP could say no. Simple. Honestly, Thanksgiving isn't a big deal in our family so if I was asked by my MB if I wanted to come in and make some money, I would totally say yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ a nanny who does not offer to work on a MAJOR holiday is not a bad nanny. You guys are nuts. - MB

I am not nuts, I said she is a good person, I did not say offering to work extra is what makes her a good nanny. She saw me being tired and busy and offered to come in since she had time and attended a Thanksgiving celebration in a nearby town. If she did not offer, I would not think twice of it - last year she did not.

[Anonymous]

OP here and I ended up going in for several hours. she still has not mentioned any time and a half/holiday pay but ill see if she adds it in my next paycheck. i'll be annoyed if she doesnt!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I ended up going in for several hours. she still has not mentioned any time and a half/holiday pay but ill see if she adds it in my next paycheck. i'll be annoyed if she doesnt!!!!!!

THEN SAY SOMETHING. Don't expect her to read your mind!

[Anonymous]

Op I now have no sympathy for you. You clearly did not want to work, did not tell MB this, and did not even discuss the rate you would agree to work at during the holiday. I posted above that it is crappy to ask your nanny to work on thanksgiving but you are not helping yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I now have no sympathy for you. You clearly did not want to work, did not tell MB this, and did not even discuss the rate you would agree to work at during the holiday. I posted above that it is crappy to ask your nanny to work on thanksgiving but you are not helping yourself.

+1 you got plenty of good advice, and most people agreed it was crappy of your MB to do. You simply needed to say no, or say yes and my holiday rate is $x/hour. Now you want sympathy for a situation YOU now created. No sympathy. You f*cked up and she thinks she got over on you.

[Anonymous]

Its going to be MUCH harder to negotiate holiday pay after the fct, seeing as how you already worked. You're going to need to make clear that you would already have been paid for those ours had you not worked, so some extra pay is indeed necessary.

[Anonymous]

I would politely decline.

Just let her know that you had already made plans to spend the day w/your family.

I am sure she will understand. Especially if she asked you at the last minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I ended up going in for several hours. she still has not mentioned any time and a half/holiday pay but ill see if she adds it in my next paycheck. i'll be annoyed if she doesnt!!!!!!

When you agreed to come in, you should have told her "yes, I will come in and these are my rates for this time." That way, you both know what is expected and there is no wondering what you will be getting paid.